Confrontation
By June Hunt
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- 5 methods of confrontation used within the Bible
- The difference between hostile and assertive confrontations
- 4 common confrontation styles, which will help you realize whether you respond in a healthy way to confrontation or run away from it out of fear
June explains the characteristics of confrontation, indicating when you should and when you should not confront someone. She provides
- 4 proven confrontation strategies
After you decide that you are going to confront someone, you must decide the best way to confront them so that the person can hear, understand, and want to change. Since different methods produce different results, the last section titled, "Steps to Solution," gives you practical advice on how to confront others in a way that is pleasing to God.
Life is full of confrontations—from birth to death. Confrontation is inevitable and impossible to escape. Therefore, the question is not, "Will confrontation occur?" but "How will it occur?" How will you choose to confront troublesome behavior in your own life, and how will you confront it in the lives of others? With June Hunt's Christian book, Confrontation, you will gain the peace, comfort, and confidence that come from a healthy understanding of confrontation.
June Hunt
June Hunt is the founder of Hope for the Heart, a worldwide biblical counseling ministry that provides numerous resources for people seeking help. She hosts a live, two-hour call-in counseling program called Hope in the Night, and is the author of Counseling Through Your Bible Handbook and How to Handle Your Emotions.
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Confrontation - June Hunt
CONFRONTATION
Challenging Others to Change
Adam, Eve, where are you?
The probing voice of God pierces the evening air, confronting the two pounding hearts hiding in the foliage. Just hours before, all was so perfect, so peaceful, but when they ate the forbidden fruit, everything changed. They chose to disobey God—they chose to defy His authority—and now they flinch in fear as they hear His voice come nearer and nearer.
As they step out of their hiding, how will God confront the guilty couple? Things could have been so different. He created this first man and first woman and placed them in a perfect environment where He planned to meet all of their needs. If only they had listened to Him! If only they had trusted Him! If only they had obeyed Him! But, because of their fatal choice, they forfeited His perfect plan. Now what will He say to them, and what will be His approach? How will He confront their sin?
For the first time, rather than being at peace with God, the couple cowers in fear at His presence. God responds with questions: Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?
God turns and asks Eve, What is this you have done?
Although God clearly knew all that had transpired in their lives that day, He chose to confront both of them with questions—questions to expose their sin and establish the truth—to expose wrong in order to establish right (Genesis 3:9, 11, 13).
DEFINITIONS CONCERNING CONFRONTATION
Like Adam and Eve, most of us do not like having our sin exposed. Like them, we try to cover it up—to hide all evidence—in an effort to not get caught.
Basically, we do whatever we possibly can to avoid having to face the consequences of our bad choices. Our preference is to figure out a way to get away with it
to somehow make it go away
or, at the very least, not to have to take responsibility for it.
Assuming this behavior is natural and common to all humans, how do we deal with wrongdoing? How do we face our own demons,
and how do we handle the demons of others?
Clearly, the answer is not by ignoring, avoiding, hiding, or covering up offenses. But what is the answer? If we use the way God dealt with Adam and Eve as our model, then we must acknowledge bad behavior, face the consequences of bad behavior, and make efforts to change bad behavior. We must expose what is wrong to establish what is right. That process is called confrontation,
and it requires wisdom and discernment.
Wisdom is found on the lips of the discerning, but a rod is for the back of him who lacks judgment.
(Proverbs 10:13)
WHAT Constitutes Confrontation?
Confrontation is encountering a person in order to expose what is wrong, with the goal of establishing truth; confronting what is wrong to establish what is right.¹
Confronting a person helps establish the truth for the purpose of conviction, correction, and a change of life.
The Hebrew word tokhot means to correct, rebuke.
² Solomon, the wisest man, understood the value of confrontation when he wrote, The corrections of discipline are the way to life
(Proverbs 6:23).
At times God will guide you to confront so that others can see their need to change as well as know what and how to change.
"The grace of God. ... It teaches us to say ‘No’ to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age. ... These, then, are the things you should teach. Encourage and rebuke with all authority." (Titus 2:11–12, 15)
WHAT ARE Five Methods of Confrontation Used in the Bible?
Most people are fairly opinionated about how God confronts mortal human beings in the Bible. Typically, people picture God as pointing a bony finger while pounding a gavel in severe judgment upon some puny human—but this is not so.
As our loving God created the human race with immense diversity, He also uses various and diverse methods to confront according to each individual’s need. From questions asked of Adam and Eve in Genesis to His rebuke of the churches in Revelation, undeniably God uses various methods of confrontation.
The same can be said of God’s anointed people. There are many examples in Scripture of God using His people to confront ungodliness through a variety of methods in both the Old and the New Testaments. Each method, whether direct or indirect, is used with the loving intent of confronting what is wrong and establishing what is right so that we will become all He created us to be. Such confrontations require a response.
My son, do not despise the LORD’S discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.
(Proverbs 3:11–12)
Method #1
Confronting with a Question (Indirect)
Job chapter 38:1–42:6
Have you witnessed the wisdom of those who ask many questions of others though they already know the answers? These intuitive individuals have discovered a powerful secret: Asking wise questions helps others gain insight into truth through inner reflection. In the Bible, Job begins reflecting on his wrong thinking, knowing that God will confront him.
What will I do when God confronts me? What will I answer when called to account?
(Job