Summary of Harriet B. Braiker's The Disease to Please

By IRB Media

Get the Summary of Harriet B. Braiker's The Disease to Please in 20 minutes. Please note: This is a summary & not the original book. Original book introduction: Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome.

As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Nov 27, 2021
• ISBN: 9781638158769

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Insights on Harriet B. Braiker's The Disease to Please

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The way you think and process information has a huge impact on how you feel. You can change your mindset by recognizing and correcting the faulty ways of thinking that have kept you stuck in the Disease to Please for so long.

#2

The first step towards changing your mindset is to recognize how your current thinking patterns negatively affect your life.

#3

When you start thinking like a perfectionist, you start to feel like a victim. You start to believe that you should never make any mistakes and that you should always do things perfectly.

#4

The Golden Rule is to treat others the way you want to be treated.

#5

The people-pleasing rules state that you should always be happy and never show any negative emotions toward others. This leads to feeling guilty about having negative feelings toward others, and blaming yourself for not pleasing them enough.

#6

The defensive nature of people-pleasing is demonstrated by the fact that people-pleasers seek praise, affirmation, and acceptance from others in exchange for their efforts. However, the people-pleasing strategy is flawed because it relies on others to give you what you want, which rarely happens.

#7

The first step in dealing with a Should Statement is recognizing that it is a command, not a preference. People often think that