How to Emerge Successfully From Your Breakup

By Jane Last

Relationships can be complicated. It's hard to get over a break-up. You may feel that you have lost all happiness. But, all is not lost. Be strong. Be brave. Walk away. Walk towards a brighter future. With the right skills and attitude, you can emerge successfully. You can rebuild your self-confidence. You can recreate your life. You can find new love. You can find success.

This book will show you that a break-up need not be the end of your story but the beginning of a new one. It is possible to heal after the emotional and psychological trauma of a break-up.Though you cannot imagine that you will overcome the pain and rejection, you will feel better. If you let go of the past, good days await you in future. It is just a matter of choice and confidence.

In this concise book, you will learn practical tips to triumph from your break-up.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jane Last
• Release date: Feb 19, 2022
• ISBN: 9798201096977

Jane Last

Jane Last has had a life rich in travel and adventure and has finally settled in a place for long enough to indulge in her love of writing. She also enjoys producing short audiobooks and podcasts. An audionarrated version of this book can be found at: https://awesound.com/audiobook/river

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Jane Last

How to emerge successfully from your break-up

Don't just survive the breakup, triumph from it

Copyright © Jane Last, 2018

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Contents

Introducing the break-up

Loss, pain and unhappy ever after?

How not to look for happiness in the same place that you lost it

What does not shatter you makes you stronger

One step forward and several steps back

Bonding and unbonding

A bad patch does not make it a bad life

Even if you have nothing to do, get moving

Times of change are times of great opportunity

Reconstruction: It's a matter of choice

Emerging victorious: The story of Celia

1

Introducing the break-up

Break-ups can shatter people. There are sharp and sudden break-ups and those insidious break-ups that people don’t see coming.

The pain is overwhelming. The mind is in denial. It refuses to let go and move forward. At the time, the disbelief, shock and numbness can paralyze you in a limbo. It feels as if time has stopped still.

You still want to cling on to the old days, when everything seemed perfect. You still want to hang on to hopes, that things will revert back to the way they were.

However, here you are, in the midst of rejection and pain, loss and grief, guilt and jealousy, hatred and revenge, wanting to hit back, but at the same time clinging on desperately.

Throughout the whole process, you need to keep in mind that a break-up need not be the end of your story but the beginning of a new one.

2

Loss, pain and unhappy ever after?

A break-up is a traumatic event. It immediately conjures up feelings of loss.

Loss

So much may be lost in the process: love, companionship, friendship, financial security, peace of mind, social ties, a way of life, status, expectations, purpose, self-esteem, confidence and identity. Some people lose their children, their house, their pet, their car or their job. Deeper down, people even lose parts of their selves and aspects of their future. There is a tremendous sense of loss, further compounded by deep pain and suffering.

How do people react?

There are so many cases of lives being derailed by a break-up; of people getting depressed or having a breakdown; of people resorting to drug-taking or abusing alcohol; of people losing track of their lives and messing up their careers; of people stalking their previous partners or harassing them in many ways; of people sadly committing suicide or else of people committing violent and irreparable acts like murder under the influence of uncontrollable emotions.

Does this mean that people are going to be unhappy ever after?

Each person copes