Summary of ACA WSO's The Loving Parent Guidebook

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 The Solution in the Adult Children of Alcoholics program is to become your own loving parent. However, until 2021, the program didn’t have a workbook focused on reparenting. This book was created to fill that need.

#2 The process of becoming your own loving parent is a journey that will take time and require you to overcome some resistance, but it is ultimately liberating. You will learn how to recognize, allow, and feel your feelings, as well as honor your needs.

#3 The exercises and guidance in this book will help you put your innate qualities of love, compassion, and kindness into action. You will need support from others, and you may need to try things out and make adjustments as you go.

#4 Reparenting can be difficult. As we come to believe that our inner loving parent loves us unconditionally and that we’re supported by a higher power of our understanding, we begin to break the Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, Don’t Feel rule of family dysfunction.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669355694

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Insights on ACA WSO's The Loving Parent Guidebook

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

The Solution in the Adult Children of Alcoholics program is to become your own loving parent. However, until 2021, the program didn’t have a workbook focused on reparenting. This book was created to fill that need.

#2

The process of becoming your own loving parent is a journey that will take time and require you to overcome some resistance, but it is ultimately liberating. You will learn how to recognize, allow, and feel your feelings, as well as honor your needs.

#3

The exercises and guidance in this book will help you put your innate qualities of love, compassion, and kindness into action. You will need support from others, and you may need to try things out and make adjustments as you go.

#4

Reparenting can be difficult. As we come to believe that our inner loving parent loves us unconditionally and that we’re supported by a higher power of our understanding, we begin to break the Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, Don’t Feel rule of family dysfunction.

#5

The book is structured to help you access the love inside you and grow the awareness and skills you need to become your own loving parent. It includes fellowship submissions condensed and edited for clarity.

#6

This book is not a one-size-fits-all approach. Please use the options that work for you, and leave the rest. You may want to use a separate notebook to journal, record in-depth reflections, and explore the suggested practices.

#7

ACA is a we program. It is written to be used with a fellow traveler, sponsor, therapist, or private ACA study group or public meeting, not read straight through or in isolation. Sharing your answers and challenges with others can help you connect with your feelings and uproot isolation and shame.

#8

You have different primary learning styles. Understanding your primary learning style helps you connect with your inner family. For example, you may learn through physical touch or through your feelings.

#9

We can go further when we walk slowly. We need to be willing to reparent. Yet, if willingness veers into urgency or striving, some inner family members may push back. We need to approach the process in a way that allows us to feel safe as we challenge ourselves.

#10

The Steps and reparenting work together to help us learn to love ourselves and connect with a power greater than ourselves. Each invites us to meet our childhood pain from a unique point of view: with compassion and clear, loving eyes.

#11

As we begin the work of reparenting, we may become more aware of the old hurts and trauma stored in our bodies. We can balance this work with self-care, such as gentleness breaks whenever they’re needed, eating well, resting, and taking time to do something fun.

#12

To make your space as comfortable and safe as