Becoming the True Parental You

By Lafaya Mitchell and LMFT

A parental guide providing strategies and techniques to deal with the tough situations with the difficult to manage child including ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorders), ADHD, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Mood/Anxiety Disorders and Severely Emotionally Disturbed children.
Book 3: "Becoming the True Parental You" addresses and delivers ways to reduce the personal contributors of adverse thoughts and feelings that disrupt parents' ability to maintain appropriate internal states and mindset to deal effectively with the hypersensitive "emotion- soaking" child. We invite you to read the first and second books to gain access to the foundational concepts necessary to effectively apply the methods used throughout the rest of the series.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Hybrid Global Publishing
• Release date: Mar 11, 2022
• ISBN: 9781948181341

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Preface

Hello beautiful parents!

I am so excited to present the third book in The Lafaya Way series. Writing this part of the series has truly been a calling of love and passion. Once I gave into the undeniable pull of writing a parenting book, so much of what I had to say manifested as inspirational downloads. It didn’t matter when the impulse hit me; I just had to write. It got to the point where I didn’t expect to sleep much, and just left a pen and paper next to the bed so I wouldn’t lose any valuable downloads. On many occasions, I pulled over on the road to write down my thoughts.

It took about a month to complete the initial downloads. I had a 60,000-word document that was broken into what I called chapters at the time because I didn’t know what I was doing. The term Asp-hole came to me through direct inspiration (it just popped in my head and felt right) shortly after completing all of my chapters.

I wanted to do right by the teachings I had written and found a woman aptly known as The Book Creator, Dr. Shira Bush as my editor. Dr. Shira assists authors to create books from concept to publication.

The first thing Dr. Shira told me after reviewing my document was that I had far too much information contained in one book for parents to sit and read. She saw a book series; initially she felt there were at least six or seven mini-books worth of content.

Dr. Shira had raised two stepsons on the Autism Spectrum herself (divine intervention all coming together for this project) and had first-hand experience of how difficult it is raising hypersensitive children.

Using the term Asp-holes is my way of giving parents’ permission to:

1.Feel how they feel without guilt (guilt only breeds resentment);

2.Address their true feelings in a way that meets their needs.

The goal is to remove the beliefs blocking parents from learning how to live their authentic truth while raising hypersensitive children.

One of the primary identifiers of a hypersensitive child is a phenomenon I call emotion-soaking. In the first and second books of The Lafaya Way series, I defined emotion-soaking as the unintentional sponging of the internal (hidden or unhidden) feelings of others. As I listened to an interview between Oprah and Glennon Doyle Melton, I heard the concept of emotion-soaking captured in a way better than I was ever able to capture it before.

Oprah quoted something she once heard from an audience member, "...every black sheep is the person in the family who energetically responded to everything around them in such