Summary of Guy Winch's Emotional First Aid

By IRB Media

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book.

Book Preview: #1 Rejections are the most common emotional wounds we suffer in life. We experience them when we are turned down by potential dates, refused by potential employers, and snubbed by potential friends.

#2 Rejections can cause four distinct psychological wounds, the severity of which depends on the situation and our emotional health at the time. When the rejections we experience are substantial, the urgency of treating our wounds with emotional first aid is far greater.

#3 Rejections, whether they be emotional or physical, hurt far more than most other negative emotions because they are so rare. They are so painful because they are a reminder of how easily we can be ostracized from society.

#4 The same brain regions are activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. Remarkably, the two systems are so closely linked that when scientists gave people acetaminophen before putting them through the dastardly ball-tossing rejection experiment, they reported significantly less emotional pain than people who were not given a pain reliever.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Mar 15, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669364627

IRB Media

With IRB books, you can get the key takeaways and analysis of a book in 15 minutes. We read every chapter, identify the key takeaways and analyze them for your convenience.

Book preview

Insights on Guy Winch's Emotional First Aid

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Rejections are the most common emotional wounds we suffer in life. We experience them when we are turned down by potential dates, refused by potential employers, and snubbed by potential friends.

#2

Rejections can cause four distinct psychological wounds, the severity of which depends on the situation and our emotional health at the time. When the rejections we experience are substantial, the urgency of treating our wounds with emotional first aid is far greater.

#3

Rejections, whether they be emotional or physical, hurt far more than most other negative emotions because they are so rare. They are so painful because they are a reminder of how easily we can be ostracized from society.

#4

The same brain regions are activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. Remarkably, the two systems are so closely linked that when scientists gave people acetaminophen before putting them through the dastardly ball-tossing rejection experiment, they reported significantly less emotional pain than people who were not given a pain reliever.

#5

Rejections are difficult to deal with, and they can even be difficult to understand. They affect our ability to use sound logic and think clearly, and they can even make us do things that we later regret.

#6

The risk of aggression following a rejection is not limited to walls and figurines. It can also lead to severe and untreated psychological wounds, which can lead to violence between romantic partners and school shootings.

#7

We often take rejections too personally and overgeneralize them, when in reality, they are rarely personal. We also tend to overcriticize ourselves following romantic rejections, when in reality, we have no grounds to do so.

#8

Rejections are painful enough as it is. We don’t need to add salt to our wounds by adding unnecessary and highly inaccurate self-recriminations.

#9

We are all born with a fundamental need to feel accepted by others. When our need to belong remains unsatisfied for extended periods of time, it can have a powerful and detrimental effect on our physical and psychological health.

#10

I met with David, who was about to start college, and he told me that he was terrified of being rejected by his new peers. He had spent years being alienated