Summary of Kathy Labriola's The Jealousy Workbook

By IRB Media

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#1 Managing your jealousy takes a lot of hard work, and can be stressful and painful. Before you decide whether you want to take on this challenge, it is important to assess whether you are a good candidate for an open relationship.

#2 Think about the relationships you have seen throughout your life, starting with the family in which you were raised. In your childhood home, did you see examples of cheating or affairs, and if so, what were the consequences of those relationships.

#3 To better understand your relationships, identify the key components that make up a healthy relationship. These may be qualities such as your parents’ affection for each other, your friend’s parents’ fondness for each other, or your aunt and uncle’s closeness.

#4 Think about all the relationships you have seen in your adult life, whether they were monogamous or not. Then list the names of people you know in any healthy and successful monogamous relationships, and the names of people in any healthy and successful open relationships.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669380139

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#1

Managing your jealousy takes a lot of hard work, and can be stressful and painful. Before you decide whether you want to take on this challenge, it is important to assess whether you are a good candidate for an open relationship.

#2

Think about the relationships you have seen throughout your life, starting with the family in which you were raised. In your childhood home, did you see examples of cheating or affairs, and if so, what were the consequences of those relationships.

#3

To better understand your relationships, identify the key components that make up a healthy relationship. These may be qualities such as your parents’ affection for each other, your friend’s parents’ fondness for each other, or your aunt and uncle’s closeness.

#4

Think about all the relationships you have seen in your adult life, whether they were monogamous or not. Then list the names of people you know in any healthy and successful monogamous relationships, and the names of people in any healthy and successful open relationships.

#5

To better understand your orientation, consider each of your monogamous romantic relationships. Did you feel safe and secure due to sexual exclusivity. Did you experience deeper intimacy. Did you feel more comfortable in that relationship.

#6

If you have determined that your relationship orientation is monogamous, you are unlikely to be happy in an open relationship. This may seem like a ridiculously obvious no-brainer advice, but in my counseling practice, I see people every day who have ignored this advice and entered into an open relationship.

#7

The wisest advice is to avoid getting romantically involved with someone who does not share your relationship orientation. However, even with the best of intentions, we can find ourselves falling for someone who will not be compatible.

#8

It is important to make a cost-benefit analysis so you can make a conscious choice, weighing what you hope to receive through becoming polyamorous against what you will be giving up. Most people find that all the gains in the pros column outweigh the losses in the cons column, convincing them that having an open relationship will make them happier than continuing in a monogamous relationship.

#9

Having a bigger sex drive is just the beginning. You can also expect to have more sex partners, more sexual variety, and feel more free. You will also feel more sexually attractive and desired.

#10

The lists of both benefits and costs of a monogamous relationship are shorter than those of an open relationship. This does not mean that one type is superior, only that most people see monogamous relationships as much simpler and easier.

#11

The benefits of an open relationship are that