Summary of Lindsay C. Gibson's Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents

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#1 Emotionally immature parents are both frustrating and demoralizing. They have little interest in experiencing emotional intimacy with you, and they demand your attention but are wary of real connection.

#2 EI parents and other EIPs make you feel, and this can stir up old issues. They make you feel inferior, and you often end up trying to live up to their expectations.

#3 EI parents are uncomfortable with emotional nurturing, and they may seem artificial and awkward when trying to soothe a distressed child.

#4 EI parents are self-absorbed and lack empathy, which makes interactions with them feel one-sided. They rarely offer listening or empathy when you’re distressed, and instead offer superficial solutions or get irritated with you for being upset.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Apr 22, 2022
• ISBN: 9781669392620

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Insights on Lindsay C. Gibson's Recovering from Emotionally Immature Parents

Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 11

Insights from Chapter 12

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Emotionally immature parents are both frustrating and demoralizing. They have little interest in experiencing emotional intimacy with you, and they demand your attention but are wary of real connection.

#2

EI parents and other EIPs make you feel, and this can stir up old issues. They make you feel inferior, and you often end up trying to live up to their expectations.

#3

EI parents are uncomfortable with emotional nurturing, and they may seem artificial and awkward when trying to soothe a distressed child.

#4

EI parents are self-absorbed and lack empathy, which makes interactions with them feel one-sided. They rarely offer listening or empathy when you’re distressed, and instead offer superficial solutions or get irritated with you for being upset.

#5

EI parents insist that you put them first and let them run the show. They use shame, guilt, or fear to coerce you until you do what they want. They can become angry if you don’t follow their rules.

#6

EI parents are extremely self-referential, meaning that everything is always about them. They expect you to accept second place when it comes to their needs. They elevate their own interests to the point that yours feel downgraded.

#7

EI parents are highly reactive emotionally, and they avoid their deeper feelings. They fear being emotionally exposed and often hide behind a defensive exterior. They even avoid tenderness toward their children because this might make them too vulnerable.

#8

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize and understand your own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. It is a key component of EI parenting, which involves non-verbal communication and staying constantly attuned to your children.

#9

EI parents don’t understand the importance of boundaries. They believe that boundaries imply rejection, which is why they are offended if you ask them to respect your privacy. They don’t understand why you want space or an individual identity apart from them.

#10

Emotional work is the effort you make to emotionally adapt