Summary of Pia Mellody's Facing Codependence

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#1 Those who are codependent are often in an emotional state marked by anxiety and feelings of being irrational, dysfunctional, and/or crazy. They often find themselves overreacting to everyday happenings, experiencing feelings far more excessive than appropriate for a given situation.

#2 The emotional factor of codependence can also be triggered by the disappointment of interviewing for a job and not being hired, the sadness of a good friend moving to another town, or the anger of a neighbor’s dog messing up the flower bed.

#3 The families of alcoholics and other chemically dependent people often noticed that their emotions were intensified in their relationships with the alcoholic or addict, but they were unable to express them in a healthy way because of a compulsion to please and care for the addicted person.

#4 The disease of codependence is difficult to see from the outside, as its sufferers wear a mask of adequacy and success designed to win the all-important approval of others. But these slaves of powerful, seemingly groundless compulsive feelings are doomed to be on an endless treadmill of personal failure and intensified experiences of shame, pain, fear, and repressed anger.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Jun 4, 2022
• ISBN: 9798822530324

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Contents

Insights from Chapter 1

Insights from Chapter 2

Insights from Chapter 3

Insights from Chapter 4

Insights from Chapter 5

Insights from Chapter 6

Insights from Chapter 7

Insights from Chapter 8

Insights from Chapter 9

Insights from Chapter 10

Insights from Chapter 1

#1

Those who are codependent are often in an emotional state marked by anxiety and feelings of being irrational, dysfunctional, and/or crazy. They often find themselves overreacting to everyday happenings, experiencing feelings far more excessive than appropriate for a given situation.

#2

The emotional factor of codependence can also be triggered by the disappointment of interviewing for a job and not being hired, the sadness of a good friend moving to another town, or the anger of a neighbor’s dog messing up the flower bed.

#3

The families of alcoholics and other chemically dependent people often noticed that their emotions were intensified in their relationships with the alcoholic or addict, but they were unable to express them in a healthy way because of a compulsion to please and care for the addicted person.

#4

The disease of codependence is difficult to see from the outside, as its sufferers wear a mask of adequacy and success designed to win the all-important approval of others. But these slaves of powerful, seemingly groundless compulsive feelings are doomed to be on an endless treadmill of personal failure and intensified experiences of shame, pain, fear, and repressed anger.

#5

Codependence is the underlying disease that fuels these addictions. When an alcoholic or any other addict gets rid of the addictive chemical agent or behavior, they will often have to face the consequences and symptoms of codependence on the road to recovery.

#6

Codependence can be treated and overcome. It is not a disease that can be left alone, but one that can be confronted and treated. It can be done alone, but it is difficult, and it is best done with the help of a Higher Power.

#7

I was a secret people-pleaser and felt a growing sense of rage about that, but I couldn’t seem to change or quit worrying. I was filled with fear and felt very inadequate even though I was trying to do everything perfectly.

#8

I had a series of encounters with therapists that did not help me, and I was fired from my job because I was so angry. I realized that my life had become unmanageable, and that I had to do something about my condition.

#9

I began to see the connections between the abuse these patients had suffered as children and their intense and seemingly irrational adult symptoms, which were similar to my own. I began to see a common symptomology in the adult lives of those who had experienced abuse as children.

#10

I began to help my patients understand their problems by talking about them in the same language. I would suggest behavioral experiments for them to try to help with their irrational feelings and actions, and as I did these things, I began to feel better myself.

#11

I began