Controlling Relationship Red Flags: Warning Signs of a Controlling Partner
By Liv Jesson
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You feel anxious, worried and stressed out because you feel like you've upset your partner by meeting up with an old friend, or they've found a text they don't like on your phone.
You feel apprehensive and fearful that they might end the relationship because you haven't abided by their expectations, however arbitrary they may seem.
You feel like you can never confront them about their treatment of you because they'll dismiss you as crazy or disregard your questions altogether.
You're afraid to tell them something because of how they'll react.
You are belittled and made to feel small.
Do these apply to you? These are all signs of a controlling relationship.
These things once applied to me, so I know the hurt, pain, and inner turmoil a controlling spouse causes. I've written this book to help you decide if you're with a controlling partner because I know from experience the signs can be subtle, and if you have nobody close to you to talk to, getting validation and affirmation can be challenging.
To help you better recognise a toxic relationship, I've compiled these red flag warnings of a controlling partner. Understanding this complex and often covert abuse in a relationship ensures that you're better equipped to deal with it.
Liv Jesson
Liv is a writer, wine drinker, and a big lover of nature and animals. She writes primarily about the traumas of toxic relationships and how to overcome them, citing her own experiences along the way.
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Controlling Relationship Red Flags - Liv Jesson
The author/publisher does not offer the reader professional medical advice or services. This book is not a substitute for seeking professional help. This publication is based on the author’s life experiences and takes no liability for any alleged loss or damages arising from the information in this book. No reproduction, scanning, or use of this publication’s content is allowed as per the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988.
This book is written in British English.
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Introduction
It’s been a while since I’ve searched for the kind of book you have in your hands now. I remember years ago, I’d download this type of book to my phone, seeking help from the pages within, but I was too afraid to purchase a physical copy in case my partner saw what I was reading. Little did I know, or have the ability to believe at the time, that years down the line, I’d be writing the same kind of books I used to secretly flick through when I had a moment alone.
I’m going to assume you’re reading this book because you think it will offer you some valuable insights or guidance about your relationship. That’s the reason I sought out these types of books: for help. Books can be a lifeline when we have nowhere to turn and feel we have no one to talk to. They were for me, and I’m hoping my series of books, should you need them, will be a valuable resource for you too. This little guidebook was written to help you determine if you’re in a toxic relationship with a controlling partner. Since you’re already reading this far, I might be right in guessing that you have a strong inclination that your spouse could be abusive.
That word - abusive - was something that made me wince when I used to hear it. That, and the word victim. I found it off-putting, particularly when it was used to describe the exact situation I was in. However, any negative connotations you may associate with it, I ask you to stop misplacing them towards yourself. To be the victim of something doesn’t devalue you or make you less than. The abuser is the shameful entity, never the victim, although they are often made to feel as if they are. It’s one of many tactics controlling people use to subdue their partners.
Controlling individuals are, sadly, commonplace in our society. Whether it be a co-worker, a parent, or, as I’ll discuss in this book, a partner, we’ve all encountered the wrath of a controlling person at some point. Sadly, some of us suffer the extreme end of this wrath, especially in a romantic relationship. The strong urge to control someone else’s life is at the forefront of the abuser’s words and actions. They have no real remorse for the emotional damage they inflict upon their victim; even if they apologise, the behaviour repeats itself.
For such a long time, control wasn’t viewed as a form of abuse. When I was in the clutches of a controlling partner, there seemed to be very few terms to describe the abuse I was going through. Books and articles on the topic certainly helped, but at the time, these resources were few and far between. Or, they’d been written by a doctor or psychologist, someone who’d not endured the hells of an abusive relationship but had all the psychological know-how to explain how it works.
Personally, I couldn’t relate to those books. I needed something on a more understanding level, written by someone who’s been through the anxieties and stress and toxicity of an abusive relationship. These types of books, written by survivors who’ve been there and done that and come out of the other side, have rapidly been released in recent years, some of which helped me greatly during my time of need.
The past few years