Grandma HAS Alzheimer's But It's OK: Memoirs
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Grandma HAS Alzheimer's But It's OK is the true story of an ordinary family who keeps their mother after she develops Alzheimer's. Told through the voice of the family grandchild. This memoir expresses the value of a grandmother and the pain of how this disease affects all the family, even pets.
This is a story of struggle, com
Marian Tally Simmons Brown
Dr. Marian Tally Simmons Brown is a retired educator and acknowledged scholar of Afro-American Culture, particularly Music of the Southern Fundamentalist Black Church. She has been a voice of recognizing the seminal power of the Black Church ritual in maintaining Black Culture in Conferences, Workshops, and Seminars throughout her professional career.For twenty years she was a Professor of Fine Arts, Florida State College, Jacksonville, Florida, participating in its Humanities Abroad Program, accompanying students to select Museums and Architectural sites throughout Europe and also its Group Abroad Program to Sierra Leone, West Africa, sponsored by the United States Department of Education.In 1992 Dr. Brown was among twenty-six Humanities College faculty selected from Colleges in the Southeastern United States to participate in a National Endowment for the Humanities seminar to study " Texts of the Encounters of Pre-Columbian and Spanish Cultures" at Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore, Maryland. It was while she was there that her mother's diagnosis of intermediate-stage Alzheimer's was confirmed. At the peak of her career with twenty years of tenure at her place of employment, extensive community and cultural arts activities along with professional commitments Dr. Brown made a conscious decision to return to her birth home and assume the responsibility of primary caregiver for her mother. This was a life-changing decision. An only child, without a committed extended family or an abundance of financial assets, she and her father commit to keeping her mother in the family home for the remainder of her natural life.During the last ten years of her mother's life, Dr. Brown logs the family's struggles as they watch over the mother and witness her transformation.Told through the voice of the family grandchild this memoir is not only for caregivers and families of Alzheimer's patients but for everyone who cares for someone. Dr. Brown continues to share her experiences in Workshops for Caregivers and those coping with Grief and Women's Empowerment Groups.
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Grandma HAS Alzheimer's But It's OK - Marian Tally Simmons Brown
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Contents
Introduction
My Treasure
The Diagnosis
The Many Faces of Alzheimer’s
A Mid-Life, Life-Changing Decision
Coping Strategies
Lessons
About the Author
Introduction
This story is about a special person – my grandma. Everyone knows what a grandma is because most families have them. Sometimes grandmas are inherited through friendships with schoolmates or acquaintances. Often times there are ladies at Church, the Synagogue, Kingdom Hall, in the neighborhood, or in civic and social clubs that parents attend who become grandmas to scores of children.
Another way we experience grandmas is through family stories passed down from generation to generation. When you see pictures of people in those stories, they become real to you.
Although they lived long ago and you’ve never met them, you begin feeling that you’ve known them all your life. Such is the power of the energy and spirit of grandmas to live on forever through their families.
Now family grandmas come in two’s. You get one from your mom and one from your dad. Sometimes they live in your town, your neighborhood, down the street, next door, in your house, and sometimes far away. No matter the distance, for all the one-of-a-kind events in your life, grandmas seem to be there when needed, as when you were born. Grandma was there. If not right at the moment you came into the world, shortly thereafter. Her face was one of the first you saw after meeting mom and dad, and for the rest of your life grandma was there — smiling, cooing, coaxing, supporting, protecting, sharing, giving; always reminding us how special we were in her life.
This is the special gift grandmas bring to us – who, what, and why we are in our family, in the world. They spend their life helping us discover these things and because we are growing and changing all the time, they have to figure out different ways to get our attention so we’ll remember the most important parts of ourselves. This makes them treasures, like all the special things we find and stash away in cubbies and secret places known only to ourselves. We can’t hide grandmas away like butterfly wings, rocks, seashells, birds’ nests, and empty Robin’s eggs, but we can keep memories of time shared with them forever locked in our hearts.
There are two grandmas in my family and each one of them shared something special of themselves with me. Hearing of things they did as children in the rural South was like piecing together beautiful quilt squares that told the history of both sides of my family and revealed qualities that characterize me even down to personality traits. Now when I look at old family pictures, or meet cousins once or twice removed, I feel a strong kinship with them, not only through the physical features we share but also through the essence of spiritual strength passed down through legendary ancestors. Coming to know grandma in this story and sharing her life was to discover a treasure as exciting and as breathtaking as the beautiful rock I found while digging out in an open field near my mother’s old family home place. It was one of the last treasures I remember stashing away before exiting childhood.
My Treasure
I remember the circumstances of the find clear as day
, as the grandma in this story would say. It happened as my cousin and I was out walking – ambling along, as was often the case in those days of growing up in the country
as we called it then. At first, we were just walking aimlessly, kicking clumps of firmly formed clods of earth. Without any real reason, we stopped, stooped, and began turning up the soil with our bare hands, frequently taking time to smell the rich soil that filtered through our fingers. Soon our gentle nudging of the soil turned to more purposeful digging with sticks and bits of broken glass and whatever else we could find. Little by little, the rhythm of our unearthing accelerated as we seemed to be spurred