Can I Forgive Him? - Forgiveness Without Apology

By Augustine Tetteh

Can I Forgive Him? This question has been in the minds and hearts of so many people because they have gone through a lot of hard stuff: some have gone through rejection, neglect, mistreatment or maltreatment, and serious offenses. Many have been offended in their families, some in business, workplaces, in marriages, some in schools by their teachers, some in churches; pastor offends member and vice versa, pastor wrongfully hurts his fellow pastor, boss offends his worker, etc. Some vow to themselves never to forgive a particular offender, while others also wish they could forgive but don't know how to do that. This book is here to help you grow and develop a forgiving heart and attitude to be able and ready to forgive anyone who has offended or will ever offend you, no matter what the issue may be. Give yourself some time and read as you think through it.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Augustine Tetteh
• Release date: Oct 5, 2022
• ISBN: 9798215959213

Augustine Tetteh

Augustine Kwasi Tetteh is a Senior Staff Nurse at the Cape Coast Teaching Hospital of the Ministry of Health, Ghana. He attended and completed Nursing and Midwifery Training College, Sekondi, Ghana, and served his national service (Rotation) at Father Thomas Allan Rooney Memorial Hospital at Asankragwa in the Western North Region of Ghana. He was then posted to his current station where he has been for over three years. He is married to a beautiful and supportive wife who is a teacher, and they are blessed with healthy children.

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What Forgiveness is Not

To learn how to forgive, you must first know what forgiveness is not. Most people have at least some misunderstandings about forgiving others. What forgiving someone doesn't include is as follows:

Forgiveness doesn't mean you are overlooking or excusing the other person's actions as if he didn't do anything.

Forgiveness does not always mean you have to inform the offender that you have forgiven him.

Just because you've forgiven someone doesn't mean your feelings about the incident are over.

Forgiveness does not imply that the relationship has been resolved or that everything is now fine.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you should forget the incident that ever happened.

Forgiveness doesn't mean you continue to include the person in your life.

If you forgive, you are accepting the reality of what happened and finding a way to live in a state of resolution with it. That can be a gradual process—and it doesn't always necessarily have to include the person you are forgiving. Forgiveness isn't just something you do only for the person who wronged you; it's something you do for yourself.

What is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or group who has hurt you, regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a cheap task. It is not easy to forgive when you are offended and