Style Nine Solid Rock or Sinking Sand...What Is My Coping Style? Daughter's Study

By Nancy Butkowski

In this style, we will be looking at your coping responses, understanding that through hard times, God refines your character so you will become more like Christ. While difficult circumstances are not fun, they do allow God to do a work in you that makes you more compassionate to those around you.

Week 1 you will be reminded that everybody has trials. God uses them in your life to strengthen your character, and help you to grow spiritually. Challenges also give you the opportunity to exercise your faith, and see God’s awesome power at work in your life. We will discuss how important it is to let God’s purpose be accomplished. And, no matter how difficult things seem, never give up! Instead, you will learn to build your coping responses on solid rock rather than sinking and!! You will be encouraged to exercise your faith knowing that God is with you and able to give you everything you need to endure through your challenges.
Week 2 the focus will be on your responses to the hard times you face in your life. Alyssa, one of the authors, shares about the hard experiences she had on her China mission’s trip, and how she learned to let go of her expectations, and say “yes’ to all God asked her to do day by day. She began to understand that He never asked her to do anything that He didn’t give her the ability to do. We will discuss how God gives you wisdom to strengthen your faith through hard times and how He brings you through trials so that you will know how to comfort others.

Week 3 you will learn that although one of the most common feelings a person has when facing a challenge is that they are all alone, you are never alone. God is always with you. We will talk about how God’s love and concern for you is partly why He allows challenges and trials to come into your life. He knows that those hard lessons will refine you and help you to grow to become more like the woman He designed you to be and to draw you closer to Him. Bible passages will remind you that God is in control and He will give you victory. Therefore, whatever the outcome of your circumstances, know that God is accomplishing His purpose through it, for your good. That is VICTORY!

Week 4 suggests a date for mother and daughter to celebrate your relationship, share what you have learned and pray for one another. An action point to apply what was learned is identified.

This is the ninth and final style that will help you grow into the woman God desires you to be. Each style looks at a different area of your life, such as beauty, fashion, and friendships. You will learn life skills and values through studying these styles that will build character into your life and equip you to make a difference in your world.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Nancy Butkowski
• Release date: Dec 1, 2022
• ISBN: 9781005938161

Nancy Butkowski

Nancy and her husband, Dan, have served as missionaries with CRU since 1974. Together they raised 5 daughters who are now married with families of their home (14 grandchildren). She home schooled for 14 years during which time her focus was to help her daughters develop Godly character and ground them foundationally according to Biblical truths. When they got older, the children attended public school.For 14 years, Nancy gave leadership to the Student Venture Club at the schools her daughters attended, helping them and many of their friends grow in their relationship with Christ. As a result of those years of ministering together, she and her daughters developed content for mothers and daughters called Live In Style which they used in putting on live events in many cities. That content is the basis of the books she is developing into a Mother-Daughter series, to assist mothers in having conversations with their daughters concerning many of the issues her daughters and their friends struggled with.Working closely with teenagers, Nancy has come to understand that much of life catches them by surprise, especially as they enter the teen years. She desires to be proactive in introducing pre-teens/teenagers to some of the real issues they are about to face, and help them understand the importance of making godly choices as it relates to shaping their future.

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Copyright © 2012, Nancy Butkowski

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Nancy Butkowski

Nicole Butkowski Kinzler

Janaye Butkowski Russ

Alyssa Butkowski Vawser

Sheryce Butkowski Parker

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Scripture references are taken from the New American Standard Bible®. Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977 by the The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.

Portions of this manuscript were adapted by permission from Passport to Virtue, an unpublished manuscript by Family Life Publishers, Little Rock, AR. Copyright © 2013 by Nancy Butkowski. All rights reserved.

Cover Design: Jerry McCall

Senior Editor: Mary Lyon

Junior Editor: Ellie Kinzler

Rev. date: 2022

Table of Contents

Authors’ Bios

Getting Started

Style Nine – Solid Rock or Sinking Sand

High or Low

Week 1 – Style Watch

High or Low

Week 2 – My Story

High or Low

Week 3 – Snapshots of Truth

High or Low

Week 4 – Sweet Connections

Appendix 1: Gospel Presentation

Appendix 2: Brief Bible Study on the Holy Spirit

Author Bios

Getting Started

Have you ever struggled with your self-image? Wanting to fit in with the crowd? Knowing how to relate to boys? Ever faced the challenge of making right choices against the strong waves of peer pressure? Wondered how you could challenge your friends to do the right thing without being teased or bullied?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, this series of studies is for you! My Style Profile…being the me I was created to be is no ordinary study. It is a unique and exciting journey through the Bible, seeking God’s opinion about what it really means for you to live in style.

My Style Profile…being the me I was created to be is designed for you and your mom to work through together. This series consists of nine individual studies and is filled with stories of other girls just like you who share about the daily challenges they faced. There are activities, quizzes, projects, and much more. You will learn how to strengthen your self-image, manage your emotions, and communicate better with family and friends. You will discover how making wise choices can help you influence others in a positive way as they watch you live in style. In addition, you will gain insights into managing your time, setting goals, and making the most of your life. You are sure to grow closer to your mom and to