Sad Bitch to Bad Bitch

By July Bay

After mustering up the courage to give your heart to someone on a silver platter, they viciously tear your heart to pieces. You’ve now found yourself confused, trying to heal, lonely, and wondering if true love really exists. Although the road to healing can be challenging, you can still conquer it all!

If you’ve been looking for some guidance to help you move on from your past relationship, embrace the lessons you learned, and finally transition into the untouchable woman you are, then sis, this is your sign! There are no coincidences in the universe. You stumbled upon this for a reason. Let me hold your hand and help you pave the road to healing through this book!

Of course, love is a beautiful thing, but it does you no good when you’re always willing to give it to everybody but yourself! This informative and fun book is going to show you how to experience true love for yourself, stop obsessing over your loser ex, and start obsessing over the goddess within!

Inside this captivating book, you’ll discover:

Three compelling tools that will allow you to detox yourself from your relationship.

A contingency plan that will help you move on, no matter how many times you’re tempted to relapse.

Hidden psychological forces that control our behaviors in relationships.

13 steps to creating an empowering belief and setting yourself up for a successful transition into your new chapter.

How to create the ultimate relationship vision that will help you attract the partner of your dreams and meet all your needs!

How to build a thriving relationship with yourself and finally embrace the power of self-love, even if you’ve struggled before.

Imagine being able to finally give yourself the gentle and satisfactory love you’ve always craved. No more obsessing over a failed relationship or a partner who made you feel like you’re unlovable or like you’ll never be able to make it work. You might’ve lost a partner, but you’re about to find yourself.

Sis, are you ready to level up with the sweetest revenge? Then read Sad Bitch to Bad Bitch now!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Publishdrive
• Release date: Feb 22, 2023

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Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Sober Up, Sis!

Time to Detox!

Tool One: Sign the Contract

Tool Two: Out of Sight, Out of Mind!

Tool three: Say Goodbye to the Love Story

Chapter 2: Digging Deeper

What is an Attachment Style?

The Four Adult Attachment Styles

Avoidant Attachment

Childhood

How They Usually Handle Breakups

If Your Ex Is Avoidant

Anxious Attachment

Childhood

How They Usually Handle Breakups

If Your Ex Is Anxious:

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

Childhood

How They Usually Handle Breakups

If Your Ex Is Fearful

Secure Attachment

Childhood

How They Usually Handle a Breakup

Meeting Your Needs

Reparenting

Discipline

Self-Care

Joy

Emotional Regulation

Reparenting Tools for Your Attachment Style

Avoidant Attachment

Anxious Attachment

Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

Chapter 3: Progress Not Perfection

Road One: Self-Distraction Aka Self-Destruction

Road Two: Rumination

Road Three: Feel and Heal

Navigating Through Heavy Emotions

Chapter 4: Contingency Plan

Tool One: Analysis

Tool Two: Refresher

Tool Three: The Success Cycle

13 Steps to Creating an Empowering Belief

Step 1: Identify Your Limiting Belief

Step 2: Prioritize

Step 3: Choose one

Step 4: Get Leverage

Step 5: Get More Leverage

Step 6: Draw a Table

Step 7: Draw the Legs of the Table

Step 8: Put These Evidences on the Legs of the Table

Step 9: Create a New Empowering Belief

Step 10: Reinforce this Belief

Step 11: Create New Evidence

Step 12: Determine Your Course Forward

Step 13: Intertwine Your Emotions

Chapter 5: All You Need is Self-Love

The Trio

Labels

Energy

Relationship with Yourself

Dating 101

Take Yourself Out!

Regular Check-ins

Appreciate & Compliment

Notice Your Inner Critic

Chapter 6: Setting a Standard

Your Emotional Home

The Two Emotional States

Recreating Your Emotional Home

Step 1: Uncover Your Current Emotional Home

Step 2: Determine Your Favorite Flavors of Suffering

Step 3: Decide Two New Emotions

Step 4: Commit to Living in a Beautiful State

Perception Is Projection

Thought Awareness

Chapter 7: The Ultimate Relationship

Creating a Vision

Your Relationship

Your Ideal Partner

You

Creating an Endless Spark

The Six Human Needs

Certainty

Typical person with a core need for certainty:

Uncertainty/Variety

Typical person with a core need for uncertainty/variety:

Significance

Typical person with a core need for significance:

Love/Connection

Typical person with a core need for love/connection:

Growth

Typical person with a core need for growth:

Contribution

Typical person with a core need for contribution:

References

Chapter 1: Sober Up, Sis!



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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

— M. Kathleen Casey

Kasey was the kind of girl who lit up every room she walked in, she had a heart of gold, a smile that was recognizable from miles away, and a laughter contagious enough to make chronically serious people giggle. Everyone knew her as the vibrant social butterfly. From the moment she walked into uni, she’d be giving out high-fives and exchanging greetings with every person she passed by.

Apart from being the metaphorical cheerleader, she was driven, committed, and extremely goal-oriented. She was an honors student studying Marketing at an Ivy League University. Despite having a huge social circle, she always had her priorities straight–she never missed her deadlines, always scored well in her exams, and was loved by her teachers. People around her were in awe of how she managed to keep up with her social life without letting it affect her grades.

Kasey was in her senior year, all set to graduate soon. Everything in her life was going exactly how she had planned it to–until it wasn’t. For the first time in her life, she made the rookie mistake of hanging out with the wrong crowd. Her new friends made her feel more alive than ever before; they were carefree, nonchalant and always ready to party. They were everything she had never been!

At first she was thrilled, she had never experienced that type of excitement in her life before; she felt like she was on top of the world. However, with time what started as a fun activity turned into an addiction. She started ditching her classes, lost interest in her studies, stopped being the social butterfly she was known as, and started smiling less often. What once made her feel alive started making her feel suffocated, hollow, and completely dependent.

Kasey knew she needed to quit and sober up, but that’s the thing about addiction–quitting always comes with a cost. When she finally decided to quit, everything became worse, as though her addiction came back with vengeance. Her mind was flooded with intrusive and obsessive thoughts, she missed feeling the same high in her day-to-day life, she just wanted things to go back to normal.

In her hope to relive the high that the drug gave her, she held her phone with shaky hands and opened the chat she swore she never would. After typing and deleting the words Hey are u up? 20 times, she finally gave in and sent him the text. Her eyes were fixated on the screen, as she mentally beat herself up for sending the message.

After what felt like an eternity to her,loosely translated to two minutes in real time, she saw the thought bubbles pop up and closed her eyes. Crap! Crap! He’s replying! Why did I have to text him? What’s wrong with me?, she thought as her heartbeat skyrocketed, anticipating his response. When she finally opened her eyes, the thought bubbles had disappeared and her heart dropped to the pit of her stomach. She knew this would happen, but she took the risk anyway. She felt like someone just stabbed her heart with a million knives. She wanted to curl into a ball and roll far away.

Her best friend Jena’s voice snapped her back into reality as she heard the words, Kasey! Let’s go, the Uber’s here. She was so caught up in her whirlpool of thoughts that she couldn’t move. Jena grabbed her by the arm and pulled her out of bed, Did you not hear me? The Uber’s here we need to leave. As they got into the car, Jena finally noticed the lifelessness of her face.

Okay, you look like you just saw a ghost, what’s with the miserable face? What’s going on with you? said Jena. Without missing a beat, Kasey pulled her phone tighter to her body and replied, Nothing! And just like that, the secret of her relapse was out in the open. Jena knew what her best friend had done by the look on her face–she was furious. OMG, YOU DID NOT! screamed Jena as she snatched Kasey’s phone out of her hands and saw the text she had sent.

Kasey looked ashamed as Jena yelled, You told me I was in charge of making sure you never text Justin, so let me do my bloody job! Kasey was ready to listen to the lecture her best friend was about to give her, but then she heard the ping of the notification sound go off on her phone. They exchanged looks–as the screen lit up, they both knew who it was. Kasey launched for the phone as Jena tried to fight her off in vain.

Kasey managed to get the phone out of Jena’s hand as she smacked it so hard that her phone fell under the driver’s seat. They immediately dove towards the phone, almost as though their survival depended on it. The Uber driver slammed the breaks and said, You girls need to act right or get out! No more fighting in my car. Embarrassed, Jena sat up in her seat and apologized to him for the inconvenience. Kasey felt triumphant as she finally grabbed her phone and sat up. Jena looked over at her and asked, Fine, you won, but at what cost? What are you doing with your life, K?

Kasey blocked out her voice and unlocked her phone. She opened the long-awaited reply which read yea… where you at? Her heart