Fighting for Her

By Quintin Cooper

In a world where divorce has taken the first place position in the race to remedy any relational ruckus, the artlessness of romantic alliance has been abandoned. Meanwhile, the mentality of men have identified that it is better to choose another woman than it is to fight for the one that has proven her loyalty unfailingly. This is a mentality that gives no deliberate effort to repair the relationship. It gives no patience to the woman that has been taken for granted, taken advantage of, and humiliated-- -privately and publicly. Fighting for Her is a necessary tool and a long-awaited guide for men!

Fighting for Her was penned by the hand of a man, composed to agree with the heart of men, and committed to paper to instruct the unwavering man on how to fight for the woman that holds his heart. This man understands that he must fight beyond her rough words, farther than her stale face, far past the caves of her distrust, through her many questions, over her attempts to find something that may not exist, while exercising an unprecedented amount of patience and understanding. He is aware that had it not been for his poor decisions and less than perfect behavior, she would have no reason for any of it.

This brilliant piece gets right down to the heart of the matter with no filter! "Sex and Intimacy" is a favorite! A must read!

Written to change the way men view their female counterparts, Fighting for Her helps men to understand the value in their relationships and their own partners, thus finding reason to not give up on what has such worth.

This well-padded, scriptural-based guide teaches what it means to have a foundation within the marriage. It teaches husbands to be consistent with their wives daily, to continuously be her best friend and how to give her both love and security.

Fighting for Her

Helps men to identify the missing pieces and put them in place so that a God-pleasing, healthy marriage can be fostered.

Reveals that many times instead of being a husband to the wife, men will unconsciously begin to father their wives, creating a "Role Reversal" thereby causing an imbalance in the home!

Uncovers ways for the man to develop intimacy with her, listen to her, be patient with her, pay attention to her, and communicate with her. Thereby, building a strong threefold cord that cannot easily be broken.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Christian Faith Publishing, Inc.
• Release date: Nov 19, 2021
• ISBN: 9781645692966

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Fighting for Her

Quintin Cooper

ISBN 978-1-64569-295-9 (paperback)

ISBN 978-1-64569-296-6 (digital)

Copyright © 2021 by Quintin Cooper

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Table of Contents

Day 1

Day 2

Day 3

Day 4

Day 5

Day 6

Day 7

Day 8

Day 9

Day 10

Day 11

Day 12

Day 13

Day 14

Day 15

Introduction

Many would argue that the divorce rate in America has increased rapidly over the last decade. Several others will emphatically disagree and rebut that reports of the marriage crisis in America are overblown. It is a fact that the demographic data about marriage and divorce are unfortunately no longer available for analysis. In 1996, the National Center for Health Statistics (NCHS) stopped collecting yearly statistics on marriage and divorce due to budgetary considerations, and some states, such as California, don’t even report their divorce rates. The Census Bureau can provide estimates based on questionnaire data, but this relies heavily on self-report; and some people are reluctant to provide information about their marital status. The quality of data available for analysis is therefore weaker now than it has been in past years.

For instance, between 2009 and 2012, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Times, USA Today and The New York Times all published articles originating from a report by the National Marriage Project claiming that the economic recession of that time was saving marriages. Yet, it is still said that marriages are rapidly failing.

Despite the paucity of good data and arguments over statistical calculations, and whether the divorce rate is declining or has remained stable, there is nonetheless an ongoing controversy that a 50 percent divorce rate has not yet come to pass, and that young couples today are on a course to having fewer divorces than their parents’ generation. However, when it comes to the subject of whether marriage is an amazingly rewarding and satisfying system, there is generally no dispute. While several young adults today are delaying marriage because they see it as a capstone that comes after achieving one’s life goals—professional and otherwise—there still remains a great percentage of the population of the world that without equivocation and unapologetically still believe that marriage is an invaluable gift from God.

The esteemed priest, professor, and theologian, Martin Luther says, There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.

Author Nora Ephron in her book When Harry Met Sally, notes, When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Lao Tzu says it this way, Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

Alfred Tennyson paints an amazingly vivid and timeless picture of his idea of the mere thought of the one that he loved. If I had a flower for every time thought I of you… I could walk through my garden forever.

Victor Hugo advances a prolific question to his reader. What is love? He asks. I have met in the streets a very poor young man who was in love. His hat was old, his coat worn, the water passed through his shoes and the stars through his soul.

Notably, Oscar Wilde poses another, Who, being loved, is poor?

These are timeless records of poetic beliefs and systematic thought in the form of sentences of those who truly believe in love and marriage, and the power that they yield.

Even Dr. Seuss understood the dynamic result of living with the one that you love. He states, You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate then when I fall asleep your eyes close (Pable Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets).

Nicholas Sparks, in his novel, The Notebook, emphasizes the character of selflessness in love. He writes, I am nothing special, of this I am sure. I am a common man with common thoughts and I’ve led a common life. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten, but I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, this has always been enough.

This is the depiction of a love that we rarely see, and our children’s children may never know. Yet there is something inside of each of us that longs for this type of love. This love has divine supremacy—without exception—over the entirety of what we know as love. What we accept as love isn’t always true love. We deem what is true love based on our perception; what we’ve learned from experience; and what we believe.

Robert Fulghum, in his novel, True Love, states, We’re all a little weird. And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness—and call it love—true love.

Whatever we decide to call it; as long as it yields all the satisfying fruit of true love, with all of its nutritious components, we’ll take it. The objective of our world for our marriages is to get back to the essence of true love.

Day 1

The Foundation

In the mindset and willingness to fight for her—and ultimately your marriage—there are a couple of scriptures that I believe would be advantageous for you to consider;

And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him (Gen. 2:18, KJV).

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD (Prov. 18:22, KJV).

He who finds a [[a]true and faithful] wife finds a good thing and obtains favor and approval from the Lord (Prov. 18:22, AMP).

There are a couple of things to note from these scriptural passages. In Genesis chapter 2, we see that The Lord is completing the work of planting the garden eastward in Eden. He had caused every tree that would satisfy and sustain Adam to grow in the midst of the garden. Adam needed for nothing. After God had planted the garden and caused the four rivers to flow through and irrigate the garden, the Bible says in chapter 15, that, God took the man, and put him in the garden… We see in verses 16 and 17 that God is giving Adam very specific instructions about his responsibilities in the garden. The stimulating and thought-provoking portion is in verse 18, when God—Himself in all of His Sovereignty—makes the arresting statement that, It is not good for the man to be alone.

This declaration