Living with Autism
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Bernadette was nineteen years old, pregnant, and married. She was excited and afraid all at the same time. She could not wait to hold the baby, all her hopes and dreams she envisioned for him. He laughed and smiled, he crawled and walked. Then silence crept in, this silence lead to an unexpected diagnosis that sent them both on a challenging journey. Autism, what does it mean? she blamed herself for so many years, feeling that Father God was punishing her. It took all these years of healing and learning that God was not punishing her. He knew she would love her son unconditionally. God was taking all her ashes and making a beautiful fragrance to share with others. Out of her journey blossomed: Lord Be the Center of My Life Ministry, INC.
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Living with Autism - Bernadette Butler
Living with Autism
Bernadette Butler
Copyright © 2018 Bernadette Butler
All rights reserved
First Edition
Page Publishing, Inc
New York, NY
First originally published by Page Publishing, Inc 2018
ISBN 978-1-64138-604-3 (Paperback)
ISBN 978-1-64138-605-0 (Digital)
Printed in the United States of America
Acknowledgments
First giving honor to the Father God—he is teaching me to see life in a loving way.
I would like to thank all of my friends who stuck by me through the years and helped me to help my son.
To my husband Paul who encouraged me to tell my story.
To all the mothers with autistic children and adult children, there is hope.
Introduction
I was a child that was set aside. No word of encouragement and not many dreams to fulfill. I was stagnant until Melvin came into my life.
I was nineteen, graduated from a business college, had a full-time job, and I was pregnant.
I was not going to have an abortion; somehow, I must find a way to have my baby and keep him.
I was insecure and fearful. I was afraid of my mother and what she would do. My mother is strong willed and overbearing. She would impose her will upon you, right or wrong. If you did not do as she said, she would tell you that nothing good will happen for you. God will punish you. To say I was afraid of her would put it mildly. I was terrified. I was concerned about what she would do to me. Her words could hurt just as the blow to my head. My mothers’ love is complicated. I remember how she told my oldest sister to have an abortion. I decided to hide my pregnancy as long as I could. I would deal with the consequences later.
I remember when I first felt his movements. I was coming from work on the train. It felt like butterflies. I smiled.
I needed a doctor to confirm my pregnancy. The boyfriend took me to Planned Parenthood. I was examined. I never had a Pap test before, so I was unclear about what would happen.
I don’t recall if the person was a nurse or a doctor. It was the fall 1974.
I was nervous. When I was called into the exam room, the standard procedure was to take off my clothes and put on a gown.
She came into the room, asked me questions, and then began the exam. At the end of the exam, she balled her fist and rammed it inside of me, my body shook like jello. She stated she need to see how many centimeters I was. I now believe this was not the concern. I was about six weeks. I believe she attempted to interrupt the pregnancy. One thing for sure, I was not going back to that place.
I left the building and told him what happened, including the first incident. He didn’t care; he just wanted the confirmation of me having a baby.
I was pregnant—what to do? I did not tell my mother; she figured it out. I was married three months before delivery.
I wanted to believe it would all work out for the better.
The ideal life is a home with a white picket fence, two children perfect in every way. You envision your children growing up, going to college, getting a well-paying job, marrying and having at least two children.
These ideas always surface when you have your firstborn.
What happens when that is not the case? What do you do? What happens when your spouse points the finger and says it must have been something you have done, or your in-laws begin to whisper that the child is not his, or this came from her side of the family, or she slept with her stepfather, that is why? What do you do when your own family is silent? No words like, Can I help?
or Do you need someone to talk to?
or I am here for you.
What do you do when all fingers are pointing at you and accusing you by saying, I know you
?
I Know You
I know you, they said
Yes, I know you
You don’t know me was my reply
You don’t know me, these are the reasons
Why.
Were you there when the tears fell
From my eyes?
Were you there when I was told the hope
I had for him could never be?
Were you there when the despair cast a
Shadow over me?
Were you there when I fell to the floor
In grief?
Were you there to comfort and give me some
Peace?
Were you there when he begun to talk to me
This is something I was told could
Never be?
Were you there when my heart burst with
Joy, like a shooting star
Flying across the