How to Live: A User's Guide
By Peter Johns
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In many ways Meg is an ordinary girl, but in one way she is different from most others: at the age of nine she was diagnosed with cancer. This took the form of a tumour that, by the time of her diagnosis, already filled most of her chest cavity. Later, despite months of chemotherapy, a second tumour started to grow. Normally this development is fatal and her parents were told as much. Only a bone marrow transplant and long sessions of full body irradiation saved her life, a result that her doctors had initially thought to be so improbable that there was an initial resistance into even making the attempt.
The title of this book, 'How to Live', therefore has a subsidiary meaning. It was written for someone who was once not expected to live, but who turned into a normal teenager full of bombast, anxiety, humour and stress. Her father, Peter Johns, based the book on his own imperfect - though eventually successful - life and what he has learnt from it.
It is a book that was written for Meg, but it is also a book for everyone.
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How to Live - Peter Johns
Prologue –
A Rite of Passage
For thousands of years, humans have marked the transition from child to adult by subjecting initiates to rites of passage. These ceremonies were often brutal and involved ritual humiliation, violent beatings, tests of endurance, physical mutilation of the most awful kind and long periods of solitary seclusion away from the rest of the tribe. Similar ceremonies still exist in some tribal societies and there the first steps to becoming an adult can be a terrifying and painful experience.
Today you are eighteen and it’s time for your own rite of passage. Fortunately this is Britain in the twenty-first century and we’ve made some progress; now all that happens is you get a book from your Dad.
PART ONE
ABOUT THIS BOOK
Setting the Scene
This little book is a small collection of thoughts and reflections that have helped me through my own life and which seemed to me to be worth writing down. It’s intended to be a book that you can read straight through, turn to a specific topic, or dip into at random when you have a free minute or two.
Despite the book’s title you will not find much in it about morals, nor about how to behave. I am not saying that morals are not important, just that you must make your own decisions on those issues. Morals are no more than a set of guidelines for treating others with fairness and respect. Some people claim they tell us something more profound about good and evil, but I don’t accept that. What I do believe is that people are born with an innate sense of right and wrong, and of what is fair and what is not. Unless that innate sense has been corrupted by genes or by upbringing most people understand the difference.
Rather than a moral guide, the book is – or at least tries to be – a manual for living. In that sense it is similar to a manual for operating a washing machine. That manual won’t tell you how to build a new washing machine, but it will perhaps help you to get the best from the one you already have.
I’ve thought about most of the subjects in this book for many years. In my early life I had some difficult times and perhaps they would have been resolved sooner if I had known then what I know now.
But I’ve still had a lot of fun in my life. One day it will come to an end, as it does for all of us, but while I have a working body and a mind that functions I will go on enjoying life as well as I can. I hope you will too, and I hope that what follows will help.
A Fulfilled Life
Simply put, this book is about how to live your life in such a way that it makes you happy to be living it. That is what I call a fulfilled life. To be more specific is not possible because, although there are some common themes, there are as many ways of living a fulfilled life as there are people on the planet. In Britain such a life might include at least some of the following: a measure of success, the respect of others, an inquisitive mind, a few close friends and perhaps a settled home life.
In other less stable parts of the world we might add water, food and sanitation to the list of requirements and probably place the emphasis on those three. The point is there is no absolute measure. Fulfilment is possible wherever we can find it.
There is though one important theme common to all fulfilled lives, which is an interest in activities that, in themselves, are not essential to the business of living. Arts, hobbies, sport and leisure all fall into this category but there are many others. Why humans should not simply be machines for living is not clear, but we are not. We are more, and need something more from life. That ‘something’ is one of the subjects of this