Clueless & Wise
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We've all heard about women that seem to enter motherhood without a hitch; they bring a child into the world and carry on with business as usual. I, however, was not one of those women. In my experience, becoming a mother was epic-it changed my life in every way, especially at first.
I've had the honor of stumbling through the
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Clueless & Wise - Kristen Riordan
CHAPTER 1
Baby Fever
Iam one of those people who has always wanted a baby, and who has always dreamed of being a mom. I didn’t play with Barbies as a little kid. Instead, I treasured my life-size baby dolls. I liked the realistic ones. I dressed them, wiped their little faces, and rocked them in my arms. My little brother was born when I was almost nine years old. I was convinced he was born exclusively for my entertainment. He was my own real-life baby doll. I’ll take care of him,
I’d shout from the halls when it was time for his diaper change or sponge bath. I think my baby fever started to rev up for real when people close to me started to have little ones. My nephew was born when I was in my mid-twenties. I adored his little buddha belly, the way he devoured pickles, and how his first word was ‘light’. My niece came when I was in my late twenties. Everyone in my family called her my mini-me. I still relish our resemblance; aunt genes do run strong. My niece, Lucy, catalyzed my baby fever in the most ostensible way. From her arrival on, I vetted every guy I dated through a new lens, " Would he be a good dad?"
I met my husband, and father to my little girl about six years later. By our fifth date, my husband, Brian and I had already broached the topic of children. We both wanted them, and while we didn’t outwardly express it, we were aware of our ages, and both knew we wanted to become parents sooner rather than later. Historically, I’ve had issues with my reproductive cycle. There were years where it was irregular, with lots of missed periods. Knowing that I had found the person I wanted to start a family with, I did what I could to protect my reproductive health. I took a couple of Ayurvedic supplements and made a point to eat well. I started tracking my cycle. Each month, I got out my pencil and noted my cycle dates, as well as the length of my period in my paper planner. I started to pay attention to the physical signs of ovulation. Suffice it to say, I was seriously prepping for pregnancy.
Twenty months later in early autumn, we celebrated our nuptials with a small wedding at the beach. We both mentioned starting a family in our vows. Once married we decided to "stop not trying to have a baby, which is a low-risk, inadvertent way of saying, we started trying. We both presumed the pregnancy wouldn’t happen right away. However, a few weeks later, my period didn’t come. Filled with anticipation and hope, I took a pregnancy test. I read the results as negative. I felt slightly disappointed, but optimistic that the baby was on its way, and that I would be pregnant soon.
There was a lull in activities the following weekend. With the wedding behind us, we had time to decompress. That Saturday, I randomly grabbed a journal and started writing a letter to my unborn child. It was a peculiar thing to do because there was no child to speak of. I wrote, You’re not here yet, but I can feel your presence. I want you to know how loved you are. Your daddy and I love you so much, and we cannot wait to meet you.
A few days later, my period still hadn’t started. In addition to that, my breasts felt unprecedentedly tender. I decided to take a second pregnancy test. I WAS PREGNANT! I continued to write in that same journal for well over a year. I chronicled all the highs and lows of my expanding belly and growing baby.
I found out I was pregnant on a Monday. I planned on telling Brian that Friday night. After a long week, I wanted to dance into the living room with the song Who Dat is My Baby Daddy
playing in the background. Embarrassing—I can be a goofy person. Tuesday afternoon, we passed in the hall; he gave me a hug and said lovingly Just me and my bride
. With his comment derailing my plan, I added, And your baby.
One month into marriage, that’s how I told my husband we were having a baby. He couldn’t have been happier. I couldn’t have been happier. The thing I dreamed of and wanted more than anything on earth was finally coming!
JOURNAL ENTRY
1 Day Pregnant
Letter to My Unborn Daughter
Dear Little One,
You’re not here yet, but you might as well be. I see you in every child I meet; in my niece’s blue eyes and long lashes that flutter when she blinks, in my friend’s newborn who rests on my lap with his eyes closed, and legs bent like a tiny frog perched on my thighs. I see you in the toddler who pushes his toy lawn mower while his dad plows the grass alongside him. Everyone says your heart expands when you meet your baby. I can feel mine ballooning already, and I can’t wait. I know you will be smart and funny, and you will be oh so loved. Your dad is going to be great to you. I think his presence in my life is why you’ve chosen to come to me now. I have wanted you for many, many years. In a way, I’m glad I had to wait so long to meet you. The time has given me space to grow so I can be a better mommy for you…yet far from perfect. You’re wise, so you know better than to anticipate perfection. I appreciate that. I can tell you this, I’ll do my absolute best with you. I’ll aim to keep my own self-imposed limitations, and the insecurities that ailed me, from affecting you. I want you to know you are boundless. Please know that you are free to live your life as such. There’s a saying, ‘when the student is ready, the teacher will come.’ For all I have learned in my life. I think I’ll learn the most from being your mom. I’ll teach you things too; like to look both ways before crossing the street, tie your shoes, and always say ‘thank you". Your daddy and I will do our best to model kindness, cooperation, and respect. We’ll teach you about fun stuff too. To see the world through your eyes promises to be darling. I can feel that