Fostering Jesus: Answering the Call to Foster Care in the Home and Church
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Foster Care is at the heart of the Gospel. It’s easy to start, highly rewarding, and unlocks spiritual growth you never knew possible!
The fact is, you are called by God to stand in the gap for vulnerable children in your community every day that need hope. You are heroic when you provide a safe home or even just simple supplies to a child that has nothing. To them, you are their hero!
Dr. Bob Griffith and his wife Wendy tell their story of how God started a wave of impact in their church and community when they decided to obey James 1:27 and live out true religion. Through their story of loss, redemption, and miraculous conformation, you will be encouraged to help vulnerable children today and not wait for tomorrow. You will see how through foster care; you will live out the heart of the gospel in a fresh way and learn more about who God is than ever before!
Every church wants to change their city in the name of Christ, but the question is how? The Griffith’s share how a few families stepped out in faith to foster children and their example started a movement within their church. As a result of their efforts, 30% of all the foster families in their county attended their local church. They provide real systems, scholarly research, and solutions used over 10 years that will help churches be a hero in their community through foster care ministry.
The Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO) believes that when every church and Christian does something to support foster children, the church will change the world!
Dr. Bob Griffith
Dr. Bob Griffith serves as the lead pastor of Christ Chapel (christchapel.org), a multi-generational and multicultural church in the Washington, DC suburbs of Northern Virginia. Dr. Griffith is the former founder and CEO of a faith based non-profit organization called 1Hope Together that brings people together for the cause of foster care support. He has also been an advocate for vulnerable children at local, state, and national levels with his work recognized by Outreach Magazine, K-Love radio, and as promoted from the United States congressional floor. Academically, Dr. Griffith holds degrees in ministry, leadership, and business. He is a doctoral mentor and has served in higher education instruction for over 10 years helping adult students learn more about leadership and practical theology. His wife, Wendy, is an ordained minister, public speaker, and has been used by God to greatly impact the foster care system with helpful policies, adoption awareness, and recruitment. The Griffiths were awarded the Virginia State Parent of the Year award for 2022 in recognition of their foster care advocacy personally and professionally. Together, they have learned that helping orphans is not only true religion but is also at the heart of the gospel.
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Fostering Jesus - Dr. Bob Griffith
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CONTENTS
Dedication
Foreword
Preface
Acknowledgments
Introduction
PART 1: SAYING YES TO FOSTER CARE: FIVE STORIES
Chapter 1 Bob and Wendy
Chapter 2 Scott and Kristie
Chapter 3 Michael and Jen
Chapter 4 John and Alicia
Chapter 5 Gary and Patty
PART 2: THE BIBLICAL MANDATE
Chapter 6 Compassion for Orphans
Chapter 7 Empowerment to Care for Orphans
Chapter 8 Equity for the Poor
Chapter 9 The Spirit of Adoption
PART 3: GAINING A GREATER PERSPECTIVE
Chapter 10 Historical Status of Orphans
Chapter 11 Current Status of Foster Care
PART 4: GETTING INVOLVED
Chapter 12 Foster Family Support
Chapter 13 Local Church Pilot Program:
Chapter 14 Local Church Pilot: Evaluation
Conclusion
Appendix A
Select Resources
Endnotes
DEDICATION
I dedicate this project to my wife, Wendy,
for having the vision to care for foster children when I did not.
She is a leader with vision for the potential our family has
to impact the world and how the church can do the same.
She dreams big about what is possible and desires to
see God glorified through those dreams. She makes
me a better husband, father, pastor, and friend.
Ministry is about teamwork, and God gave me the best teammate
I could ever hope for in this journey of faith.
FOREWORD
In 2008, just three months after I birthed our first child, our first foster child joined our family. He was a charming eight-year-old … and we were his seventh home in three years. I worked in social services, and my husband worked in an underserved school where many kids were foster children. We felt equipped and capable of being a Christ-centered, loving home for kiddos who needed one.
Six foster children and another birth child later, we realized how ill-equipped we were! As the first foster family in our church, we lacked community. But as our friends watched us take in kids, they also began to! Soon, our church had to adjust to the needs of foster families—stretching beyond comfort zones and into faith walks. So many churches still lack support and community for families like ours. It’s essential for the body of Christ to welcome these social orphans and learn to love them as God so radically loves His own grafted-in
children.
Little did we realize how much this journey of caring for orphans and widows
would transform our lives. We thought we were giving the kids a gift, but God was giving us gifts, too. These gifts came through trial and fire but resulted in knowing God as an adoptive Daddy who loves His children unconditionally. I now better understand the tremendous gift of my own adoption into the family of God in a humbling and profoundly grateful way.
I cannot even begin to imagine fostering and adopting without Jesus. He’s our model, He’s our ever-present help, and He’s our anchor. He plans to prosper us and our children, to give us a hope and a future. He is trustworthy. Yet so many believers stay in the safety
of the comfortable, never getting to experience the adrenaline and transformation of living His miracles.
That’s why I love this book. Fostering Jesus: Answering the Call to Foster Care in the Home and Church is a call to action. It’s an invitation to participate with God’s beating heart for these children, to live the heart of the gospel. We’ve let the government fail at raising these kids for too long. Yep, it’s hard. So hard. But in the hard, we experience God’s strength in our weakness, His miracles in the messes, and His presence in pain. We get to trade mourning for dancing and sorrow for joy. We get to model what it is to need Jesus to our precious children.
Dr. Bob Griffith and Rev. Wendy Griffith bravely hold up the reality of our nation … homes are broken, and kids need loving homes—Spirit-filled homes.
Don’t read this book if you like living a comfortable, safe, risk-free faith.
Through their own firsthand story and numerous interviews and studies, the Griffiths provide real systems, scholarly research, and solutions used over a decade to help churches be lights in their community through foster care ministry. They offer a positive message about foster care, encouraging pastors, church leaders, and Christians who want to be part of the solution. They answer the tough questions about why God wants us to help children in foster care, why foster care should be a ministry in the church and how to do it successfully, how foster care can help grow the church, and what you can do to help—even if you can’t bring a child into your home.
I know God is calling His people to join His mission. I’m so grateful for the chorus of voices, like the Griffiths, rising to bring attention to this issue. I am inspired by their work, not simply to speak the truth but also to personally live it. Don’t read this book if you like living a comfortable, safe, risk-free faith.
These words will call you into the actual heart of God, and you won’t be the same. Let’s link arms and care for these orphans together.
—Marcy Pusey, CRC, CTRP-C
Best Selling Author:
Reclaiming Hope: Overcoming the Challenges
of Parenting Foster and Adopted Children,
Parenting Children of Trauma: The Foster-Adoption Guide
to Understanding Attachment Disorder,
Speranzcya’s Sweater: A Child’s Journey through
Foster Care and Adoption
(Two-Time) TEDx Speaker
Foster-Adoptive Mama
PREFACE
The story of this book begins in our home and tells the story of our lived experience of walking out what the Apostle James calls true religion
(Jas 1:27). My wife, Wendy, and I have six children. Four of our children, we adopted; of those, three were in foster care. Our story is one of loss, redemption, and miraculous conformation to what God wanted to take place through us.
Beyond our story, though, this book has emerged from our desire to encourage others to join us in this journey of helping vulnerable children today and not waiting for tomorrow. Foster care aligns with the mission of God as seen in Isaiah 1:17, Acts 6, Romans 8, and James 1:27. The New Testament Church has a history of leading the way with innovative solutions to rescue orphans.
When I asked local county officials in the judicial, legal, and social services sector how the church could help with foster care, they agreed that recruiting and supporting foster parents were the two largest needs. In response to this, and as the heart of my doctoral research, I established and evaluated ¹ a foster family support program at Journey Church, a large church in Kenosha, Wisconsin, where I served at the time as an executive pastor. As a result, we saw families in our church step out in faith to foster children, which fed into a movement within this congregation and city. The results were exciting to see! After starting a foster family support system in our church, 30 percent of all the foster families in the county, attended the church.
This book tells this story. It provides real systems, scholarly research, and solutions used over ten years to help churches be heroes in their community through foster care ministry. It is for all Christ-followers (from congregants to church leaders) who want to help vulnerable children in their neighborhoods. To access the full research project, see the following link: https://firescholars.seu.edu/dmin/4/
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I want to thank Dr. Kent Ingle, the President of Southeastern University, for always believing in me. He is someone who sees the best in others and connects them with what they need to succeed in accomplishing their divine design. He is a great leader and a true friend.
In addition, I want to thank Pastor Rick DuBose, the Assistant Superintendent of the Assemblies of God, for his leadership and for allowing me to serve in the historic process of creating a National Foster Care Network (www.agfostercare.network) that seeks to advance the principles in this book throughout our entire county. His heart, leadership, and vision have inspired me and bring me hope that together, the churches of America can serve the vulnerable and participate in revival.
I would also like to thank Ray Knight, President of 1HOPE TOGETHER, a 501C(3) organization (www.1hope.community). I founded this organization in 2018 in partnership with Pastor Kevin Taylor of Journey Church, Kenosha, Wisconsin. Under the leadership of Ray Knight, it has continued to grow! Today, 1HOPE TOGETHER is now supporting more foster families than ever before as they partner with churches in their city from various denominations to answer the call of caring for the vulnerable.
INTRODUCTION
A Crisis and the Answer
America has a crisis in foster care, and the Christian community is the answer. Serving foster children is at the very heart of the gospel. Those who do serve foster children display God’s glory and are recognized by the community as true heroes. As Judge Jason A. Rossell of Kenosha County Circuit Court affirms, Other than recruiting more foster families, the greatest way churches can help is to support the foster parent.
District Attorney Michael Gravely in Kenosha, Wisconsin echoes this support for foster care: Foster parents are heroes. What they do is heroic every day. The number one way that churches can help is to support foster parents as they care for the most vulnerable children in our city.
A Unique Approach
This book presents a unique approach to America’s foster care crisis. Given that of Wendy and my six children, four are adopted (three of whom were in foster care), we are living this out with real world stories—our own stories and those of others.
We also uniquely present in this book a positive message about foster care—not a behind the scenes look at all of what is hard with fostering children, but rather, we provide encouragement to those Christians on the fence who say they want to foster but are still waiting to decide. Thirty-eight percent of Christians surveyed say they want to foster, but only 1 percent of those do. Therefore, this book speaks to the 37 percent in that gap. The message of James 1:27, to care for the orphans … in their distress
is a command for 100 percent of Christians. This book spotlights the ‘orphans’—called foster children—in every community. Though not everyone is called to bring a child into their home, everyone can do something. Thus, this book speaks to all 100 percent.
Third, this book provides a unique approach to biblical church growth in that it answers the how question for pastors and church leaders who want to do something big in their community to change their city in the name of Christ but don’t know where to start. Many churches need to change their reputation in the community and break negative stereotypes after years of inward ministry and church decline. This approach spotlights a top need in every community that is close to the heart of God and that is easy to get off the ground. Surveys show that 47 percent of pastors would put foster care in the top three of their church vision goals if they only knew how.
Forty-seven percent of pastors would put foster care in the top three of their church vision goals if they only knew how.
The exciting news is that more and more Christians are answering the call to help vulnerable children. For example: the Assemblies of God (AG) has gotten behind this mission and has committed to living out the heart of the gospel through foster care. The AG national office has declared foster care a target issue to address in the coming years through