Doing Sixty & Seventy
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One day I woke up and there was a seventy-year-old woman in my bed . . .
Gloria Steinem has been an eloquent and outspoken voice for women’s rights and equality for more than four decades. In Doing Sixty & Seventy she addresses an essential concern of people everywhere—and especially of women: the issue of aging. Whereas turning fifty, in her experience, is “leaving a much-loved and familiar country,” turning sixty means “arriving at the border of a new one.” With insight, intelligence, wit, and heartfelt honesty, she explores the landscapes of this new country and celebrates what she has called “the greatest adventure of our lives.”
While appreciating everybody’s experiences as different, Steinem sees these years as charged with possibilities. Dealing with stereotypes and the “invisibility” that often accompany a woman’s senior years can be as liberating as it is frustrating. It frees women as well as men to embrace that “full, glorious, alive-in-the-moment, don’t-give-a-damn yet caring-for-everything sense of the right now.”
This ebook features an illustrated biography of Gloria Steinem including rare images and never-before-seen documents from the author’s personal collection.
Gloria Steinem
Gloria Steinem (b. 1934) is an American feminist, activist, writer, and editor who has shaped debates on gender, politics, and art since the 1960s. Steinem was born in Toledo, Ohio. Cofounder of Ms. Magazine and a founding contributor of New York magazine, Steinem has also published numerous bestselling nonfiction titles. Through activism, lectures, constant traveling as an organizer, and appearances in the media over time, Steinem has worked to address inequalities based on sex, race, sexuality, class, and hierarchy. She lives in New York City.
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Doing Sixty & Seventy - Gloria Steinem
Preface
Into the seventies
Updating Doing Sixty
almost a dozen years later is a way of talking with a previous self. Though I’ve had lessons since then in how utterly unpredictable life is, it’s also a chance to give a nudge to the future. Indeed, I wish I’d taken stock this way at a younger age—sort of a metaphysical version of cleaning for company, then wishing you’d done it before—but this feels especially crucial now that I know more everyday, yet come ever closer to the unknown.
Even mentioning the unknown is a change. Well into my fifties, I had ignored aging in a way that was great for activism. At sixty, I was thinking about aging and leaving the center of life. At just past seventy, I’m conscious of the time I have before leaving it altogether; not at all the same thing. Even if I live to be a hundred, as I have every intention of doing, I will have less than thirty years to go: the same time I spent working on Ms. magazine, fewer years than I’ve lived in my current apartment, and about the same time I’ve been wearing my favorite pair of blue jeans.
To put this another way, aging feels like a process of the body, the concrete, the comparable, the mind. Making death real for even a millisecond feels like a mystery of the heart.
I’m not presuming that my experience is the same as yours. Everything that makes us unique—belief, culture, health, companionship, economics, hope, heredity—creates different paths on this universal journey. What I say here may be really helpful or really not. But I do have infinite faith in talking to each other. After all, we are communal creatures who must mirror each other to know who we are. Every living thing ages and dies, yet humans seem to be the only species that thinks about aging and thinks about dying. Surely, we are meant to use this ability, especially in a country that suffers so much from concealing aging and dying as if they were the last obscenities.
In retrospect, I realize that I, too, was in the Olympics of denial, yet some part of me needed to know the stages of life. Perhaps because I switched roles early and became the caretaker of my loving and sad mother, or because I didn’t measure time by the usual periods of marriage, parenthood and the kind of career you retire from; perhaps because I didn’t see a death early in my small family, or because I got so good at escaping into books and imaginary futures—for all these reasons, the central years of adulthood seemed as if they could stretch on forever. If I was old
when I was young, and, according to work and lifestyle, young
when I was old, how relevant could aging be?
If I couldn’t get to aging, I certainly couldn’t get to death. I used to joke that I thought I was immortal and this caused me to plan poorly. Of course, part of me knew this was no joke. Now that distance allows me to see patterns, I notice that I’ve always been trying to figure out these secrets.
At twenty-five or so when I came to New York to be a writer, I fell in love with Muriel Spark’s Memento Mori, a little gem of a novel about a group of friends in London who are all connected by careers, marriages and affairs. Because they are now over seventy, gossip that once focused on work or sex has centered on who is losing which faculty. Each person has specific fears about aging and death, so we watch as each fearful imagining comes true.
I bought copies to give to my friends because I knew we had something to learn here. The message begins when a threatening phone caller announces to one character at a time, Remember, you must die.
Most of the friends respond with fear, outrage, even calls to Scotland Yard, but there are two exceptions. A woman novelist, disdained by the group because she is barely able to remember if she had her tea, yet envied because her writing is being rediscovered by a new generation of readers, infuriates her friends even more by insisting that her caller was, a very civil young man.
For the first time, we realize the various voices were each friend’s personification of Death.
Then there is a retired inspector, asked by his friends to help find this caller or group of callers, who delivers the message: If I had my life over again, I should form the habit of nightly composing myself to thoughts of death. I would practice, as it were, the remembrance of death. There is no other practice which so intensifies life. Death, when it approaches, ought not to take one by surprise. It should be part of the full expectation of life. Without an ever-present sense of death, life is insipid. You might as well live on the whites of eggs.
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I wanted to be exactly like the inspector or the novelist.
Before I was thirty, I was proposing The Old Lady Book, a collection of interviews with elderly women who seemed to know this secret of intensified life. You won’t be surprised to learn that old ladies weren’t considered commercial in the publishing world. Then I wrote an outline for The Death Book, an anthology of famous and not-so-famous last words and death scenes of men and women, real and fictional, sudden and lingering, from newspapers, novels, history, art and the comics. The idea was that, by the time the readers and I got to the end, we would be purged of denial, and able to see death as a social event. Needless to say, this was even less saleable.
No editor asked me—nor did I ask myself—why I was