Chasing My Father
By Dylan Cramer
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About the Book: In Chasing My Father, Dylan Cramer revisits his time beside the father he adored and cherished. He also recounts the peace movement of t
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Chasing My Father - Dylan Cramer
CHASING MY FATHER
Dylan Cramer
Copyright © 2022 by Dylan Cramer
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form by any means – electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise – without the prior written permission of the publisher, except for brief passages quoted by a reviewer in a newspaper or magazine. To perform any of the above is an infringement of copyright law.
ISBN: 978-1-9990512-6-6
Publisher: Dylan Cramer (dcaltosax@gmail.com)
Publishing Assistant: Joy Ross
Photo Assistant: Kat Rono
Cover Design: Riley Cramer
For anyone who’s been lost
and tried to find their way back
Praise For The Book
Dylan, I finished your book. It's quite heartbreaking reading through the events of your life. It's so inspiring how you persisted and pushed through everything. While reading, I took time to think of the people I love and was reminded that I have to cherish every moment with them. Thanks for sharing your story with everyone.
~ Ian C
Beautifully written, but a harrowing read.
~ David S
"I've just finished Chasing My Father, and it is difficult to express how I feel in words. What I can say is that I'm truly moved. As I neared the end of your work, it left me with a profound sense of melancholy, hope, and overall, a mess of jumbled feelings that resist being put into words or quantified. I honestly feel like a changed person in some ways. Reading your story gives me hope since I figure that if you can get to where you are today despite all of the shit you've been through, anybody can.
I'm so glad you decided to put all this into words. The part near the end about love especially resonated with me. Even as I write this, I feel reluctant because, like most other people, I'm too hung up over the word love.
However, I think it's important to be honest, so I will say this: I love you as a mentor, a teacher, a friend. You've touched my life in an unquantifiable way over the past five years, and I'm extremely grateful for that."
~ Matt J
I couldn’t put your book down – You made me laugh and cry at the same time.
~ Gayle B
"Okay, my friend, I remain steadfast in my belief that your book should be a movie. You have led an eventful, sometimes heartrending and unusual life. What you endured while living in your family’s commune educated me about an era that I’d previously romanticized. How you dealt with the suicides of three loved ones and still managed to pursue your youthful dreams astounds me.
During this time of world upheaval, your writing is truly refreshing and inspiring. You have brilliantly conveyed the significance of love and how accepting and respecting others is paramount to a harmonious world. Readers will greatly benefit from your profound wisdom."
~Joy R
Reading your book changed my life in some ways I can’t find the words to describe, especially the part about love. Thank you.
~ Mudit J
Powerful stuff – I don’t know how you made it through all that.
~ Fred C
Contents
Praise for the Book
Contents
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EPILOGUE
ONE MORE MYSTERIOSO
INTRODUCTION
I’m lying in the hospital bed, freaking out. The nurses hover over me, looking even more worried than I am. I’m 63 and haven’t been in a hospital for over 55 years. They tell me my blood pressure is through the roof and that my pulse is practically non-existent. I’ve got a heart blockage
and on high alert for a heart attack. Too many Heinekens, too much weed. All my fault, of course, all my fault – or is it?
Flat on my back, staring death in the face, everything has suddenly changed. Things unimportant have instantly vanished. I’m scared shitless, afraid to die, and a terror of losing what matters has engulfed me.
But what matters?
What really matters?
We hide the answer to this from ourselves. We plow through life, avoiding, but the truth is always there, beneath the surface, like a slimy bug under a rock that has never been overturned – until now.
For it is only in a crisis that we learn anything, and I am learning now, and quickly – a crash course before I crash.
And what I am learning? That it is not possessions, victories, or accomplishments that carry any weight or value; nor is it needs, regrets, or the unfulfilled. It’s people – the people I’ve loved, the people who’ve been there for me, the people I desperately want to see one more time.
These few souls, amidst the billions that populate this place, are the crux of my existence. For if not them, who? What?
And of these people who have graced my life, there was one that took me to the highest mountain, revealed the brightest, warmest sunshine, and gave me enough love to fill a thousand lifetimes.
That person was my father.
Had I lived for thirteen years, four months and nine days, my life would’ve been perfect. I would’ve died the happiest soul on this earth. But my life did not end on that day.
For it to have not is the razor-sharp dagger that carves and slices my heart into pieces every moment since.
Dylan Cramer
January 2022
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I’ve been in the hospital for a few hours now wearing a flimsy, ridiculously unflattering blue gown they force you to wear so they can strip away any and all vanity you have, while exposing your private parts for everyone to see; most likely some sort of punishment for being there in the first place. Trapped and their prisoner, I have no choice but to let it all hang out, while memories of my childhood flood through me.
A child in a car Description automatically generatedSeven Years Old – Had It All
From the first moment I realized I was here on this spinning, hurtling rock, my heart lived for one person and one person only – my father.
Although he loved my older brother and sister as well, it was clear to everyone that I was his favourite. Something just clicked between the two of us from the get-go; even my mother was jealous of what we had. We did everything together, went everywhere together, and were inseparable. It was as though we lived in a different time zone than everyone else.
From the beginning, my father treated me as an equal and gave me complete independence to do whatever I wanted with my life, without any kind of parental influence or discipline. Because of this, I matured faster than the other kids my age and carried that independent streak with me everywhere I went. Of course, with this freedom I made choices; mostly good ones, but some bad ones as well.
He also instilled an inner confidence in me that made me feel invincible to everything and everyone in the outside world. There was no mountain too high to climb, no challenge too great to take on, and so I did – I took on anything and everything that came my way.
There is a belief in Buddhism that life is like a stick; on the one side there is Buddha who represents good, and on the other side there is Mara who represents evil. They say that one cannot exist without the other, because there are always two sides to a stick and, therefore, two sides to everything. But when I think of my time