Subtle Isn’t My Style . . .: Tales from an Unfiltered Yenta (Busybody)
By Nieli Langer
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Nieli Langer
NIELI LANGER holds a doctorate in social work with a specialty in gerontology. She is the co-author of 2 textbooks on aging studies as well as the 2006 book: Love & Sex: Are We Ever Too Old?!? She is retired and resides in Knoxville, Tennessee.
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Subtle Isn’t My Style . . . - Nieli Langer
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my team of specials:
Daniel, Maya, Madelyn, Alexis, Noah, Remy, Harry
It has become popular to quote Dr. Seuss’ book, Oh the Places You’ll Go
at graduations and at rites of passage. It’s true, you all have ‘brains in your head and feet in your shoes; you can steer yourself in any direction you choose.’ However, I prefer to quote Julia Roberts from the movie, Pretty Woman.
She encourages her friend, Kit, a hooker, to attend beauty school. She tells Kit that she has ‘potential.’ I’m not Julia Roberts and I have my own recommendations for you:
People should not walk in the footsteps of others. They should create their own footsteps and march to the beat of their own drum.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Dedication
Back Off!
Introduction
My Grandchildren Stand on the Shoulders of Giants
Grandfather’s tattoo of date of liberation
Lessons from My Father, Joe
Free to be me
Aren’t Genes Something to Smile About?
My Advisor on Political Correctness
To Be or Not to Be . . .
Morality Tale
When Omission Derails a Mission…
Nieli and Neil…
I Was Your Teacher
My Holocaust (Amir Gutfreund)
For Those Who Are Worthy . . .
To My Husband of 52 Years Who Married Me Because I Could Type . . .
Weather Systems (Barbara Crooker)
Marriage: Growing Older Together
‘Love is a Many Splendid Thing’ . . . even unto illness: The Caregiver Wife
Love and Sex: Are we ever too old?!?
About His Retirement
The greatest thing photo
What is a Widow?
Two Faces Have I
Your Grown Children May Not Want Your Stuff . . .
Your Grandchildren May Inherit Your Wealth BUT, Will They Inherit Your Values?
Memories and History
Preserving and Eliciting Memories
Patients Have an Illness Story
The Lilith Summer by Hadley Irwin
On My Way Out
Who Moved My Cheese?
The Ties of Later Life: Aging Siblings
What Makes an In-law an Outlaw?
Some Banned and Challenged Books: 2010-2023
To the McMinn County Schools, Tennessee
Who Did You Used to Be?
Life is About Finding People Who Are Your Kind of Crazy
Foreign Ports . . .
Schmaltz Anyone?
A Horse’s Ass
The Mirror
No Regrets
Endnotes
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Introduction
The art of storytelling evolved naturally because some people prefer telling tales while others prefer listening to them.
Once upon a time, Truth went about the streets as naked as the day she was born. As a result, Truth, naked and cold, had been turned away from every door in the village; nobody would let her into their homes. One day, when Truth was huddled in a corner, shivering and hungry, Parable sought her out. Now, Parable was dressed in splendid clothes of beautiful colors. Parable said, Tell me, neighbor, what makes you look so sad?
Truth replied bitterly, Ah, brother; things are bad; very bad. I’m old, very old, and no one wants to acknowledge me. No one wants anything to do with me.
Hearing that, Parable took pity on her, gathered her up and took her home. Let me lend you some splendid clothes like mine and you’ll see that the very people who pushed you aside will invite you into their homes and be glad of your company.
Then, Parable dressed Truth in story, warmed her and sent her out again. Clothed in story, Truth knocked again at the villagers’ doors and was readily welcomed into their homes. They invited her to eat at their table and warm herself by their fire. (Rabbi Jacob Kranz, 18" century)
I have learned that clothing truth in story is a powerful way to get people to open the doors of their minds and hearts to the message I was trying to convey. Telling stories has always been the hook
behind my more than 45 years in the classroom at all grade levels. From young children to doctoral students, everyone listens to an idea if it is clothed in story. What I have written here are my truths
and, therefore, my stories. Life usually tells the best stories.
My Grandchildren Stand on the Shoulders of Giants
In the Jewish faith, there is the legend of the Lamed Vov, unknown 36 virtuous men who hold the fate of the world in their hands. No