A Widow's Handbook: Help for navigating the widowhood maze
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"A Widow's Handbook" has been written by someone who has been there. It addresses many topics that often seem silly to a new widow; taking a piece of his clothing to bed with her, or even when to take off her wedding band. This book is meant to read like the friend sitting across the table listening to her and offering practical suggestions on how to get through her new reality.
It is filled with information both lived through and gathered from others, and offers comfort, practical suggestions, and inspirations to help widows deal with their present situation.
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A Widow's Handbook - WENDY CHRISTOPHER
To my extraordinary family, wonderful supportive friends,
but most of all to John who loved me forever and a day
A Widow’s Handbook
Help for navigating the widowhood maze
©2023 WENDY CHRISTOPHER
All rights reserved. This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review.
print ISBN: 979-8-35093-507-3
ebook ISBN: 979-8-35093-508-0
Contents
PREFACE
IN THE BEGINNING
I DON’T FEEL LIKE DOING ANYTHING
WHAT HAPPENED TO MY FRIENDS?
YOU CAN COMBAT SAD
HOW LONG WILL I FEEL LIKE THIS?
WHAT ARE YOU GRATEFUL FOR?
MONEY, CREDIT CARDS, INSURANCE, ETC.
WHAT! HE DIDN’T HAVE A WILL?
THINKING ABOUT RUNNING AWAY?
THE KIDS AND THAT INHERITANCE
THOSE TOXIC, HELPFUL PEOPLE
GUILT!
FORGIVING YOURSELF
SURPRISES AND SCAMS!
IT’S TIME TO LEARN WHAT YOU CAN DO
IT’S OK TO TALK ABOUT HIM
A VISIT
LITTLE BIG THINGS; SLEEPING, REMINDERS AND RINGS
JUST ACCEPT THE PRAISE
DATING
OUR CONDITIONING
WEIGHT GAIN OR LOSS
BE YOUR OWN PERSON
GOING FORWARD
PREFACE
It seems as though I have many friends who have lost their husbands in the past few months. Some had been ill and some took the same route my husband did…had a heart attack and died on the spot. Either way, the loss is devastating and the widow is left drifting. I was at a funeral home uttering those words we’ve all said a million times, I’m so sorry for your loss
when it dawned on me to add, it’s a shame there isn’t a handbook for widows.
Now, I was raised to correct a problem if you saw it. You know, if there’s a piece of paper on the ground, pick it up, if you see someone who looks lost ask if they need directions; someone is short a dollar at the cash register…give it to them. You get the point. So, here I am writing a handbook for widows.
On September 29, 1971 I met this guy named John. A mutual friend of ours had tried to get us together for a year. This friend was a terrible salesman! He kept telling John that he had just the girl for him. She’s this tall
(imagine him holding out his hand about 4 feet off the ground) has red hair
(John really disliked red hair!) And she’s crazy!
Wow! If that didn’t make John want to meet me, I don’t know what would! Roy also kept telling me that he had the perfect guy for me. He was this tall (you guessed it, 4 feet), and bald. Yup, the man of my dreams, a bald midget! No offence to little people everywhere, I know it was shallow, but I always dreamed of a guy who was movie star handsome, with full head of dark wavy hair and who towered over me. He would be the guy riding the white horse and saving the princess in every storybook. This dream was over 50 years ago, so I’m not sure if he was wearing a cape and had super powers or not, but he definitely wasn’t 5’ 7" and bald! On September 29, 1971 Roy finally got us together by inviting me to a concert that the Kiwanis club John and Roy were both in, was sponsoring. John and I looked at each other and fell in love! Really, just like in the movies! Three months later we were engaged and on April 29, 1972, we were married. For those of you who are slightly math challenged, that’s exactly seven months after we met. Then, just before our twenty sixth anniversary, on March 21, 1998, John had a heart attack and dropped dead in our driveway. Our two oldest sons were in college, our youngest son living at home, but finding himself, and our daughter was eight days away from turning thirteen.
Not everyone’s love story had a happy ending that read, and they lived happily ever after
. Some people reading this book