Every Single Cry

By Dr. Christina S. West

It can be extremely challenging to navigate romantic relationships. While searching for our true soul mate, we sometimes find ourselves in dead-end relationships or in seemingly good relationships that end abruptly without an explanation. The good news is that God hears every single cry and sees every single tear and is always here to remind us that all things happen according to his perfect will, plan and timing.

In an inspirational guide, Elder Dr. Christina S. West shares personal insight into the trials and tribulations of dating that only singles understand. She also includes biblical examples and applicable scripture to ultimately help them first discover the purpose for their singleness. How to trust God in the process and wait for his perfect timing. Within each chapter presented in varied formats, West invites singles to break down the walls of their hearts, be open to healing and deliverance, and embark on a journey into the next season of their life that is written by God and executed by them. Each chapter concludes with a prayer of deliverance and hope for the future.

Every Single Cry share biblical examples, personal insights, and prayers that lead singles down an introspective path to the comforting realization that God gives us the desires of our hearts at the appointed time.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Archway Publishing
• Release date: Jan 15, 2024
• ISBN: 9781665744911

Dr. Christina S. West

She is an interesting person with a unique writing style that draws at the heart of the matter with the leading of God. She pulls the reader into the issue with simplicity and style, leaving the reader to be renewed by the words on the pages. Chapter by chapter she inspires the reader to think and reflect on the experience(matter) at hand and be transformed! She then leads the reader through a prayer of deliverance and hope. She is a first time author who began her love of reading at an early age. With her favorite childhood author being Dr. Seuss and Ezra Jack Keith. She is an ordained Elder. She recently received an honorary doctor degree in Ministry. Elder, Dr. Christina S. West is a licensed Speech Teacher for the New York City Department of Education. She resides in Long Island, NY.

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Every

Single

Cry

Dr. Christina S. West

Copyright © 2024 Dr. Christina S. West.

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Scripture taken from the King James Version of the Bible.

Scripture quotations marked (NLT) are taken from the Holy Bible, New Living Translation, copyright ©1996, 2004, 2015 by Tyndale House Foundation. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, a Division of Tyndale House Ministries, Carol Stream, Illinois 60188. All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-1-6657-4492-8 (sc)

ISBN: 978-1-6657-4490-4 (hc)

ISBN: 978-1-6657-4491-1 (e)

Library of Congress Control Number: 2023909837

Archway Publishing rev. date: 01/15/2024

Contents

Dedication

Introduction

Chapter 1 Every Single Relationship

Chapter 2 Every Single Cry for Peace

Chapter 3 Every Single Moment with God

Chapter 4 Every Single Time You Got in God’s Way

Chapter 5 Every Single Time You Felt Lonely

Chapter 6 Every Single Time in Prayer

Chapter 7 Every Single Time you Experienced Delay

Chapter 8 Every Single Time You Were Rejected

Chapter 9 Every Single Time You Had to Wait

Chapter 10 Every Single Time You Loved

Chapter 11 Every Single Plan

Dedication

This book is dedicated to my mother, Ann Veronica West. She was a woman of faith, strength, and tenacity. She was a trailblazer at heart and an entrepreneur in spirit.

To my wonderful family, sisters, and brother. To my spiritual mothers and close friends who were the encouragers in my life.

This book is also dedicated to all the single men and women who have dared to love and be loved. It is for those who have loved and have been left broken in the process. It is for those who are holding onto God’s promises. This book is dedicated to the men and woman who are part of the singles’ ministries at their local churches and to all who are earnestly waiting on the manifestation of God’s promise of a godly marriage. It is to all who have not given up on true love, which leads to a marriage that glorifies God.

Introduction

Do you find yourself going in and out of dead-end relationships? Do you give your all and end up with nothing in return. Only to find out that you were not the only one in the picture? Do you find yourself unable to have a relationship that leads to marriage? Then this book is for you. If you are clueless about what you are doing wrong or what went wrong in a seemingly good relationship, keep reading.

This book takes the reader through the trials and tribulations that only singles can understand and the tears that we have shed along the way. You will discover the purpose for your singleness and the season you are in. You will learn to trust God and his perfect timing.

I wrote this book to help you understand that you are not alone in this journey. I am in it with you. I went through a process to create every chapter title, and I hope that it will help you go through the process of your own single journey. No one can understand the cry that comes from the heart of a single person except God and those who are in the same position.

Each chapter is different. Be open and prepared for the unexpected. Be open to healing and deliverance. The only similarities in the chapters are that each one ends in prayer and reflection. Let each chapter speak to your heart. Let it break down the walls and barriers of your heart. Be set free in the name of Jesus! So let’s go. I hope that this book will be a catalyst in getting you closer to healing and deliverance so that you can embark on the next chapter that is written by God and executed by your obedience.

This book was birthed during a season of my life when I felt the most broken in spirit and heart. It was during the 2020 pandemic. I had a lot of time to think and reflect. This book emerged from a place that I had never been before—unchartered grounds. In that place, I was face-to-face with God. My mouth to his mouth and my hand to his hand. In that place, God downloaded into my spirit the title of the book and each chapter title in one encounter. God poured into my brokenness and my openness birthed purpose. God is amazing and He is so faithful. When I thought I was down and out, he showed me the purpose for the brokenness. He allowed this book to come forth out of the ashes of pain. I thank God for that season because it brought forth this book. I invite you to keep reading.

One

Every Single Relationship

Yes, this book is for you. Don’t put it down. This book is for and about you. This book is about every single time you cried over that man, who ended up marrying another woman or that woman who walked out on you and two months later is walking down the aisle. This book is about all the tears you cried over the relationship that did not work out in your favor. This book is about your lonely nights of wondering if you would ever get married.

You’ve had many thoughts. Does anyone love me? Will I ever have children? Am I good enough? I am tired of being overlooked! Will I ever get married! You have cried rivers of tears after being at yet another wedding or when you’ve seen your friends and coworkers married, happy, and with kids. You are left wondering, when will it be my turn?

I am here to encourage you that our God sees every tear and hears every cry. He has bottled up every tear that you cried. Don’t feel that all is lost and that all hope is gone. Psalm 126:5–6 says, They that sow in tears Shall reap in joy. He that goeth forth and weepeth, bearing precious seed, Shall doubtless come again with rejoicing, bringing his sheaves with him (King James Version). The Father is still on the throne, and he will give you the desires of your heart at the appointed time. It’s difficult to wait, but waiting is essential if you want to be in God’s perfect will and timing. I believe that at the appointed time, he will open up and release the wife or husband whom you have been praying for and dreaming about. I believe that God does not put desires in our hearts unless he intends to fulfill them.

Philippians 4:6 says, Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (King James Version). When we become anxious in our singleness and take matters into our hands, we make a mess. Someone may look and act like the right one, but in the end, he or she is not the intended one. In a few years, the marriage begins to unravel, and a life of pretense begins. Many people have been down that road. On the day of their marriage, many people realize that they are making a mistake, but they are too embarrassed to admit the truth.

We shouldn’t be desperate because then we will end up in despair. Once we become a child of God, we live to a different standard. We are not like the world. Our God-ordained spouses are not chosen as the world’s system chooses them. It’s all together an entirely different process.

I believe that God has every intention of granting us our desires when we delight ourselves in him. We must delight in him without worry or complaint and be about the Father’s business with joy. We shouldn’t be looking at every skirt or bicep. We should be trusting that God knows exactly what we need when we need it. This scripture says it all: Luke 11:11 If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? Or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? (King James Version). Yes, you have been asking year after year and day after day. God will bring it to pass at his appointed time not ours.

You see, we look at today. We are shortsighted. God looks at tomorrow and a year from now. God sees what we can’t see. In the direction you are going, you need a sustainable and not a reusable mate. We need a mate for the rest of our lives and someone who will be there for the long haul. It’s not a temporary two- or three-year marriage but for a lifetime, especially when it involves ministry. Marriage is ministry. Marriage is about God’s kingdom assignment.

Of course, there are benefits to marriage, ministering to each other, having children, having a partnership, etc. Ultimately, it’s about God. The sooner you realize this as a single person, the sooner you will understand why your previous relationships did not work out and God blocked them from going any further. He wants his very best for his sons and daughters. He wants to give you his very best. God does not work in the second best. His plans for you are far greater than you can understand. Breathe, yield, and trust in his plan.

Each chapter will begin with how to get in the position to cry. It will be followed by biblical examples, a prayer, and a time self-refection. Enjoy your reading journey.

Two

Every Single Cry for Peace

There is a particular scripture I turn to when life situations take a turn for the worse. It is found in Psalm 61 1-2 "Hear my cry, O God; attend unto my prayer. ² From the end of the earth will I cry unto thee, when my heart is overwhelmed: lead me to the rock that is higher than I" (king James Version).

We can cry out to God during our most vulnerable times. God is near to those who are broken in heart and spirit. The bible says in Psalms 34: 18 "The

LORD

is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (New International Version). Finding your inner peace after a breakup is not always easy. You go through a range of emotions all at once. Anger, rage, regret, hurt and pain are all ways your body is cleansing itself from the toxicity of the broken relationship. Make a vow to cry your eyes out for only a short period or space of time. Don’t stay in that space for too long. Finding that inner peace after a breakup is different for everyone. So, explore the different ways you feel most at peace. Some people rely, depend on God for that peace. Allow the emotions to come. They will come and go like a wave. Your peace is worth fighting for. Reclaim it and