Episodes Intertwined
By Rosa M. Diaz
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Episodes Intertwined, Collection of Poetry 3. 1991- 1999 transpired during the first few years of being a single mother. I had too many issues on the plate, too many tribulations and too many characters to deal with. Everything was set to bring me down and keep me down, afraid and alone. But when I was on the ground, I
Rosa M. Diaz
I was born in Mexico City in 1963. In January of 1973, I immigrated and reunited with my family in the California Central Valley. I attended elementary schools and high school in Atwater, junior college in Merced and the university in Turlock California. Officially, I began writing at age in Spanish. I began writing in English in my college years and soon after, I began to translate my own work in both languages.
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Episodes Intertwined - Rosa M. Diaz
Copyright © 2024 by Rosa M. Diaz
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For all single mothers
INTRODUCTION
This is the continuation to BETWEEN THE BOOKS, Collection of Poetry 2, 1983-1990.
With my graduation from the university, CSU Stanislaus, in 1990, a new phase of my life began. My son was born soon after I graduated and I went back home as a single mother. I was alone, jobless, destitute, unprepared for motherhood and depressed. However, I still managed to make the best with nothing at hand. My personal life was at its lowest point but, at the same time, I was at my highest point with the birth of my son. I was a proud momma and he brought me joys, hope, a new and positive perspective of life. I had someone to fight for and to live for.
I needed time to adjust to the new environment and it’s ways but I forgot about me and only focused on my son’s needs. My son had the love and attention from my family members but I felt he needed the father and his family too so I took my son to meet his other side of the family hoping they would love him and shower him with attention. It hurt and saddened me when this wasn’t happening. They were hesitant to be part of his life and accept part of the responsibility that the father didn’t want. It seemed they were always entangled in some sort of crucial problem that took their attention away. They were always leaving the child for a later time. It took me a very long time to accept that I did not see the love, the connection, the interest or the effort from their part to keep the relationship with the child so I stopped taking him to them. I tried. I feel I really tried but I felt I was begging them to love my child. I understood that they never liked me so, perhaps, for that reason, they were not loving my son either.
Looking back, I was greatly hurt that they were not giving my son all the attention and love because I still loved the man and it was hard to accept that we were no longer together. Little did I know that big problems and many factors were aligning against me. My ex sued me for full custody of my son and we were in and out of court for five years. After five years of fighting and tens of thousands of dollars wasted, I proved my innocence at the same time I was protecting my son away from vengeful people. I won.
Although I faced the world with a big bright smile, the long and deep sadness I went through during my pregnancy, still lingered after the birth and even several years later. I didn’t realize the gravity of it but in those quiet moments alone, I saw how lonely I felt. I didn’t understand it at the moment, but depression made me feel dissatisfied, unwanted and unloved. I felt a big void in my mind and felt lonely and alone against the world.
Yes, a child fulfills part of the void or need but it’s not enough. Having a mate to love and who loves you and supports you, fulfills the other half of the void. I longed to have a special friend to talk to about anything. I needed someone to whisper the sweet nothings to my ear. I needed someone to flatter me once in a while. I needed a man to tell me how beautiful I looked. At the moment, I needed a man to make me feel important and worthy.
How wrong I was. I learned that the strength, pride, importance and value we think we need and deserve from others, comes from within ourselves and not by whom we have by our side. The void we may feel, is not really filled by the mate or the children we may have. The void is filled and covered by being at peace with ourselves, how positive we feel and how we see life. We need to accept all the mistakes we have made and know that we are not the only ones suffering this pain. And whatever is happening to us is not original or particular. Happiness is momentary and cheerfulness comes from within from the contentment in life.
I thought I needed a mate but I have never been the type to be out there on the lookout. So I stayed home. I closed the door and let time pass by, perhaps my prince charming would come and meet me at my doorstep. The man who appeared at my doorstep was no prince charming, that’s for sure. He was a two-face monster, who was kind and charming and then secretly abusive. He was a typical male chauvinist. The first month was good. The second month, the control and manipulation began. The third month, when I ended the relationship, he became a danger with constant threats, blackmail, and accusations. But his intent to keep me under his control didn’t work.
This was the second time I faced the monstrosity of the machismo. The first time, I was young, in love, inexperienced and blind. But now I was able to see the signs and I set my boundaries. I defended myself and ended the relationship before it was too late.
I was fighting the same war with two men, like a two-headed monster that is the toxicity of the male superiority. One decided to fight me with a vengeance and made the excuse it was for the child. The other one was fighting me with the excuse of loving so much and I not letting him protect me. It took me a while to stop feeling sorry for myself but I got up and learned to fight. I got rid of both monsters because no one is going to dominate me with restrictions, screams and, much less, strikes.
I connected the