Habits for a Sacred Home: 9 Practices from History to Anchor and Restore Modern Families
3.5/5
()
About this ebook
Change the world by changing your home, one habit at a time
In a world as chaotic as it is right now, it can feel downright difficult to be raising kids. Our culture has come unhinged from Christian moorings and timeless values. But Jennifer Pepito wants you to know there is hope.
A mom of seven and a mentor to mothers around the world, Jennifer helps you establish nine restorative habits and practices in your home to foster peace, simplicity, and stability during turbulent times. Leaning on the practices of historic Christians--like Saint Benedict and Amy Carmichael--this book guides you toward habits of work, prayer, hospitality, and more to create the sacred home you long for. Learn how to:
· push back chaos by finding your own rhythm
· eliminate distractions so your home becomes a place of refuge
· foster a family culture of simplicity and stability
Don't fear the future. Create a home that brings life to future generations--and shines with hope and peace in these trying times.
Jennifer Pepito
Jennifer Pepito is the host of the Restoration Home podcast, author of Mothering by the Book, and founder of ThePeacefulPress.com. Jennifer is on a mission to help moms overcome fear and live with wonder and purpose. Her resources help create joyful memories among families, which lead to deeper connections and lasting relationships. Jennifer lives with her beloved family in the mountains, where she enjoys reading aloud, working in her garden, and watching the sunset.
Related to Habits for a Sacred Home
Related ebooks
Mothering by the Book: The Power of Reading Aloud to Overcome Fear and Recapture Joy Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A Confident Mom: Simple Ways to Give Your Child What They Need Most Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLong Days of Small Things: Motherhood as a Spiritual Discipline Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Risen Motherhood: Gospel Hope for Everyday Moments Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5More Than a Mom: How Prioritizing Your Wellness Helps You (and Your Family) Thrive Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings936 Pennies: Discovering the Joy of Intentional Parenting Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsMissional Motherhood: The Everyday Ministry of Motherhood in the Grand Plan of God Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Abundant Motherhood: Let Go of Perfection, Discover Life in Christ, Establish a Legacy of Faith Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFirst Ask Why: Raising Kids to Love God Through Intentional Discipleship Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWhy Motherhood Matters: An Invitation to Purposeful Parenting Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Beyond Bath Time: Embracing Motherhood as a Sacred Role (True Woman) Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Reach Out, Gather In: 40 Days to Opening Your Heart and Home Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Shopping for Time (Redesign): How to Do It All and NOT Be Overwhelmed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Missional Mom: Living with Purpose at Home & in the World Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHoly Hygge: Creating a Place for People to Gather and the Gospel to Grow Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Whole and Healthy Family: Helping Your Kids Thrive in Mind, Body, and Spirit Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Rooted in Wonder: Nurturing Your Family's Faith Through God's Creation Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTeatime Discipleship: Sharing Faith One Cup at a Time Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsReclaiming Home: A Family's Guide for Life, Love & Legacy Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Raising Amazing: Bringing Up Kids Who Love God, Like Their Family, and Do the Dishes without Being Asked Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5A Matter of Principal: A Former School Principal's Journey to Redefine Education and Bring Learning Back to the Home Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad: The Perspective Shift That Could Completely Change the Way You Mother Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Simplified Organization: Learn to Love What Must Be Done Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Giving Your Words: The Lifegiving Power of a Verbal Home for Family Faith Formation Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The Read-Aloud Family: Making Meaningful and Lasting Connections with Your Kids Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Honey for a Woman's Heart: Growing Your World through Reading Great Books Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Wild and Free Book Club: 28 Activities to Make Books Come Alive Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5
Christianity For You
Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Law of Connection: Lesson 10 from The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Decluttering at the Speed of Life: Winning Your Never-Ending Battle with Stuff Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Mere Christianity Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Four Loves Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Changes That Heal: Four Practical Steps to a Happier, Healthier You Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic for a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Screwtape Letters Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Book of Enoch Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Wild at Heart Expanded Edition: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Story: The Bible as One Continuing Story of God and His People Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5NIV, Holy Bible Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Stories We Tell: Every Piece of Your Story Matters Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5Undistracted: Capture Your Purpose. Rediscover Your Joy. Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I'll Start Again Monday: Break the Cycle of Unhealthy Eating Habits with Lasting Spiritual Satisfaction Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for Habits for a Sacred Home
3 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
Habits for a Sacred Home - Jennifer Pepito
"Habits for a Sacred Home is destined to become a classic. Deep, insightful thoughts that give clarity to a biblical vision for home, children, family, and mission are clearly defined in the pages of this perceptive book. Jennifer is a seasoned woman and has gleaned wisdom through many aspects of life. She writes with authority. All women who long to follow God, and to be filled with courage, should read this book. I was inspired and motivated to keep following hard after God in His calling on my own life. Excellent in every way."
—Sally Clarkson, author of many books, podcast host (At Home with Sally), mother of four adult children, and one who has sought to build a sacred home
Jennifer Pepito combines her love of learning with her passion for motherhood in this inspiring collection of anecdotes and insightful practices. A time-traveler’s guide to the saints and heroes of the faith, this book shows us practical ways to experience the sacred in the simple, everyday moments of life.
—Ainsley Arment, founder of Wild + Free
"Habits for a Sacred Home offers the hard-earned, compassionate wisdom our homes need right now. Drawing upon the rich, diverse histories of the Benedictines and other pillars of our faith, Jennifer Pepito challenges women to push back on the darkness and decay of this world by employing a few simple practices in our days."
—Jamie Erickson, author of Holy Hygge, co-host of the Mom to Mom Podcast
"In Habits for a Sacred Home, Jennifer Pepito invites us to explore the profound difference that life-giving rhythms can make in our homes and families. With powerful stories of inspiring women of faith and practical steps to determine your family values, this book will serve as a trusted guide to help you create and cultivate better habits that ultimately lead to a more peace-filled, purposeful home and life."
—Crystal Paine, New York Times bestselling author, mom of six, podcast host, and founder of MoneySavingMom.com
"In a world that often feels chaotic and demanding, Habits for a Sacred Home serves as a beacon of wisdom and solace. Jennifer Pepito’s words emphasize the importance of recognizing our limitations and surrendering to the love and goodness of God. This book is not just a read; it’s an invitation to create a space that nourishes our souls."
—Ginny Yurich, bestselling author, podcast host, and founder of 1000 Hours Outside
For every parent seeking a return to the basics, here’s your compass. By shedding light on nine tried-and-true habits formed in the homes of history’s most trailblazing women, Jennifer Pepito illuminates the way toward a simpler, truer life for us all—one that is void of current controversies and trend-driven assumptions, but instead unveils the rich and foundational depth that comes from prioritizing what matters most.
—Erin Loechner, bestselling author of The Opt-Out Family and founder of Other Goose
"Jennifer Pepito’s voice is so needed in this generation—the voice of a seasoned mother who both admits her struggles and points us toward the source of hope and truth: Jesus. In Habits for a Sacred Home, Jennifer lays out helpful, practical, biblical principles, interwoven with her own stories of God’s grace, for recentering our homes around truth, beauty, and peace when the clamor of our culture threatens to overwhelm us."
—Abbie Halberstadt, mother, influencer, and author of M Is for Mama and Hard Is Not the Same Thing as Bad
"Habits for a Sacred Home intricately intertwines faith and family, tracing a journey from Benedict to Bethune. Through shared meals and ancient prayers, Jennifer Pepito creates a tapestry of joy, intentional living, and practical wisdom. Beyond being a compelling read, it serves as a guiding companion, enriching the sacred fabric of family life with transformative habits."
—Leah Boden, author of Modern Miss Mason
"Jennifer has such a gift for knowing what her readers need next. After sharing in her first book how she overcame many of the lies she was taught, the groundwork was set to begin cultivating the habits of restoration found in her newest book, Habits for a Sacred Home. Jennifer’s truth telling is loving, and her teaching style is hands-on, yet approachable for all to achieve."
—Kate Crocco, LCSW, author of Thinking Like a Boss and Drawing the Line and host of the Thinking Like a Boss Podcast
Jennifer Pepito’s elegant invitation to live well offers renewed hope for mothers. She captures long-held fears for our families and our world and covers them with truth. I’m more inspired than ever to follow the path of everyday women who have gone before me as hardworking, benevolent stewards and waymakers.
—Amber O’Neal Johnston, author of A Place to Belong and curator of HeritageMom.com
Books by Jennifer Pepito
Mothering by the Book
Habits for a Sacred Home
© 2024 by Jennifer Pepito
Published by Bethany House Publishers
Minneapolis, Minnesota
BethanyHouse.com
Bethany House Publishers is a division of
Baker Publishing Group, Grand Rapids, Michigan
Ebook edition created 2024
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means—for example, electronic, photocopy, recording—without the prior written permission of the publisher. The only exception is brief quotations in printed reviews.
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data is on file at the Library of Congress, Washington, DC.
ISBN 978-1-4934-4672-8
Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. ESV Text Edition: 2016
Scripture quotations labeled ASV are from the American Standard Version of the Bible
Scripture quotations labeled KJV are from the King James Version of the Bible.
Scripture quotations labeled NIV are from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
Scripture quotations labeled NKJV are from the New King James Version®. Copyright © 1982 by Thomas Nelson. Used by permission. All rights reserved.
The recipes included in each chapter are from The Peaceful Press Cookbook: Recipes for a Living Education by Jennifer Pepito, © 2023 by The Peaceful Press. Used by permission.
Cover design by Micah Kandros Design
Cover Image: Creative Market, Rachel Kick
Author photo © Brooke Battle
Published in association with The Bindery Agency, www.TheBinderyAgency.com.
Baker Publishing Group publications use paper produced from sustainable forestry practices and postconsumer waste whenever possible.
To my mother, Rosalind, and my sisters
Jacqueline, Jody, Tammi, and LeeAnn
Your faithfulness to your families is an inspiration to the world. You are creating restoration homes.
Contents
ch-fig1Endorsements 1
Half Title Page 3
Books by Jennifer Pepito 4
Title Page 5
Copyright Page 6
Dedication 7
1. The Need for Sacred Homes 11
2. Habits of Work: Edith Schaeffer 23
3. Habits of Stewardship: Mary McLeod Bethune 41
4. Habits of Prayer: Amy Carmichael 57
5. Habits of Order: Elisabeth Elliot 75
6. Habits of Simplicity: Sabina Wurmbrand 93
7. Habits of Stability: Ruth Bell Graham 111
8. Habits of Hospitality: Ella Mama
Tweten 127
9. Habits of Community: Esther Jungreis 145
10. Habits of Balance: Madeleine L’Engle 161
Acknowledgments 177
Appendix: Your Rule of Life 181
Notes 185
About the Author 191
Back Cover 192
ch-fig1
The Need for Sacred Homes
Stand in the ways and see,
And ask for the old paths, where the good way is,
And walk in it;
Then you will find rest for your souls.
Jeremiah 6:16 NKJV
I finished cleaning the kitchen after our family dinner and devotions and took a quick scroll through my phone while I got ready for bed. It had become a little routine to pick up my phone for a few minutes each evening before settling in with a book. Some of my end-of-the-day phone time was legitimate; a quick check-in with my community on Instagram and a text to my out-of-town son were essential communications for me. But this time I also snuck in a few minutes on Twitter, with a twinge of guilt as I entered the URL. I’d worked so hard to overcome fear, and I knew that looking at the bad news on Twitter was not going to help me stay fearless. The provocative posts could never kindle the hope that I needed to mother well.
I scanned the headlines with growing horror: a tech executive stabbed to death while walking home in San Francisco, vicious terror attacks in the Middle East, war in Europe, and toxic levels of aluminum in local rainwater. Although I had worked hard to overcome fear and wrote about that process in Mothering by the Book, the world felt frightening, and I was searching for wisdom to guide my family through rapidly changing times.
The state of the world was a frequent conversation with friends as well. Some, who believed the Lord was coming back any day, kept their normal routines in hopes of being raptured out. Other friends believed we were on the verge of the Great Tribulation, and moved their families closer to like-minded communities to strategize how they could grow enough food to supply themselves when everything fell apart. I also have friends whose eschatology points to the world getting better before the return of Christ, so they are going about their business, joining committees, leading mission trips, and not paying too much attention to the headlines.
I wasn’t holding my breath to be raptured out anytime soon, but I didn’t know what to believe. I’m a panmillennialist; I believe in the personal and physical return of Jesus Christ, but I don’t really know how it will all pan
out. I don’t know if his return will be pre-tribulation or post-tribulation, or if we are in the millennium now. This lack of certainty about what is going on in the world was unsettling. When a string of fires destroyed food packing plants, I wondered if we should buy emergency food supplies. When prominent European banks collapsed, I wondered if we would lose our savings. I was on high alert trying to navigate a rapidly changing world and keep my children safe, and the more I consumed frightening news, the more uncomfortable I felt in my own skin. My fears weren’t baseless, but there had to be a better way to live.
A Better Way
In the midst of navigating my response to the news, I read a book called The Benedict Option by Rod Dreher. In it, Dreher highlights the life of Saint Benedict (AD 480–547) and the path he took when Roman civilization was falling around him. Instead of merely adapting to the culture and reshaping his beliefs to conform to new moral dilemmas, he separated himself from the culture to be with God. For three years he lived alone in a cave, nurturing his devotion to Jesus. He counted being in the presence of the Lord of greater worth than the pleasures of Rome. Reflecting on the saint’s life, Pope Gregory wrote that Benedict, desiring rather the miseries of the world than the praises of men, rather to be wearied with labour for God’s sake than to be exalted with transitory commendation, fled privily from his nurse, and went into a desert place called Subiaco.
1
Because of his devotion, Benedict’s fame grew, and soon he had gathered a number of people around him who dwelled in similar dedication to God. They lived an orderly, balanced life of work and prayer, and when Roman civilization descended into chaos, they built a new community based on a biblical rule of life. Dreher points to a similar prescription for us today. Instead of continuing to fight against the culture or trying to save America,
perhaps it is time to simply pursue a godly life and practice benevolent detachment, releasing the state of the world to God and living according to his Word despite what is happening around us. Dreher writes,
Today we can see that we’ve lost on every front and that the swift and relentless currents of secularism have overwhelmed our flimsy barriers. . . .
Could it be that the best way to fight the flood is to . . . stop fighting the flood? That is, to quit piling up sandbags and to build an ark in which to shelter until the water recedes and we can put our feet on dry land again? Rather than wasting energy and resources fighting unwinnable political battles, we should instead work on building communities, institutions, and networks of resistance that can outwit, outlast, and eventually overcome the occupation.2
I don’t agree with Dreher’s proposition that we simply drop out of politics, but what can we do when the cultural tide seems to be so opposed to values that matter to families? The cities I used to visit for field trips are no longer pleasant places to explore. In the past you could safely walk through San Francisco, but with homeless addicts now crowding the streets and laws that allow theft up to $900 without prosecution, cities like these feel threatening. Many families are choosing small towns or even rural areas to provide a safer environment for their children.
The Shift
I’ve been surprised at how fast the world has changed, but the cultural shifts we are facing have been a long time in the making. Family-friendly
drag shows and gender reassignment surgeries for kids may seem dramatic, and homeless camps in the midst of high rises may be incongruous, but they are just symptoms of a world unmoored from its cultural roots. In A Christian Manifesto, published in 1981, Francis Schaeffer wrote,
The basic problem of the Christians in this country in the last eighty years or so, in regard to society and in regard to government, is that they have seen things in bits and pieces instead of totals.
They have gradually become disturbed over permissiveness, pornography, the public schools, the breakdown of the family, and finally abortion. But they have not seen this as a totality—each thing being a part, a symptom, of a much larger problem. They have failed to see that all of this has come about due to a shift in world view. . . . This shift has been away from a world view that was at least vaguely Christian in people’s memory (even if they were not individually Christian) toward something completely different.3
This post-Christian shift seemed to creep up gradually. Christians and non-Christians often want the same things. We want freedom to raise our families, to make a living, to have a happy life, and there has been a basic code of ethics toward that end. Don’t steal, be good parents, don’t litter. For the most part, we can agree that life has inherent dignity, that we should help the poor, and that childhood is worth protecting. Some of the new lessons we were learning as a culture in the last decades were good too, such as how to accept our imperfections and to live free from shame. Learning that our bad behavior as adults often stems from childhood trauma is another valuable lesson because it gives hope for change instead of simply deeming people bad or good based on their behavior.
However, I fear we have thrown out the baby of holiness with the