The man problem in the black community

By Stella Glory

The quest to understand the reason some continents enjoys a better life whereas some are not living close to it yet, resulted to the WHY question I found myself asking. Having experience life from two continent, two different people, two different culture and of course two different standard of living This book is my discovery of the Why question as it relates to my Black people.

• Language: English
• Publisher: BoD - Books on Demand
• Release date: May 20, 2024
• ISBN: 9783759788658

Stella Glory

Stella Glory Momodu is passionate about the men taking their place as the head indeed. She believes if it is okay with the man, it won't be difficult for the women and children to know their place in the society. She is a preacher of the Gospel and writer of impacting books and Christian play.She is married with children and currently living in Germany.

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This book is dedicated to the Almighty God for creating a Beautiful Africa and to all African mothers and children whose greatest desire is to have a lovely husband and a responsible father.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction

The African Nation

Throwback to the slave era

The Africa problem

Differences between Oyibo and Black man

Ways the Oyibo man exercise responsibilities

Challenges of the Black man

The African youth

They are afraid of you

A cry for help

About the author

INTRODUCTION

Travelling, they say is part of education. I certainly didn’t understand this statement as I thought I did until I relocated from Africa to Europe.

Travelling to me before this time was more of a luxury than exploring for impact; after all, one can only travel when he has sufficient money. However, when I began my adventure in Europe, (Germany precisely), I realised that one can never fully understand the different culture and setting of a country and its people until he finds himself in it. That would also mean that the understanding of the depth of the problem of one’s nation is limited or not in view until there are experiences from people from other lands who are living in true freedom. There is certainly how life should be and one can know when he is living the life.

Sooner as I settled in my newfound world, I began to see that God made us all special but different so we can all benefit from each other. However, the most important discovery for me is that one can find the solution to the problems in her land by truly exploring the secrets that make other lands better than hers and for once I saw the root cause of the lack of progress in the black community.

As strange as it may sound, I didn't fancy Europe upon my arrival compared to the desperate desire for many to be in the Western world. In my mind, it’s certainly not where I would want to spend the rest of my life. What I saw was not exactly how it is represented on television and in books as I saw while growing up, besides I was doing well before I came to Germany. I was expectant of something more as played in my mind over time while growing up, such as the beautiful sight of roads and houses almost made of gold, and of course a perfect living condition of something close to a world filled with beauty as described in children's books. So you can understand my disappointment when I saw none of it.

I had to struggle for years to stay because of my marriage and as I started having my children the desire to go back home to Nigeria, began to lessen and that was when I started getting inspired by the way of living in my newfound world. I soon began to see that the white race (OYIBO) who have succeeded in living a developed life (because not all are), are very far ahead of how we all are supposed to live.

What I saw were leaders seeking the well-being of their people. The living conditions in these developed societies can simply be described as without fear. Everything seems to be in place, (though not as perfect as I had imagined before coming) that even what they don't need, they make it available to her people. There is certainly no fear of power failure, no fear of harmed men invading their houses. They seem happy with life.

I also noticed that these people are 100 per cent plus, purpose-driven and organised than my African communities and the black in general. They take something and run with it and there is no stop until that mission is accomplished. Behind their well-planned society is a secret the Africans takes for granted. This kept me thinking one night after seeing terrible things going on back home on social media as regards killing, kidnapping and injustice, WHY WE ARE THE WAY WE ARE:

It is so heartbreaking to see that few people sit on what it takes to better their people, causing hardship and pain, especially for the women and children thereby denying them the necessity of life. It is almost unthinkable but that is exactly what is happening in my community. Coincidentally it all seems to be the same everywhere, even the blacks in America are not left out.

To be honest I was tired of hearing and reading the history of what the Oyibos did to us, as it relates to us being prominent people before they made us slaves etc. For how long this story has been and how