Lessons to My Younger Self: Navigating Through Workplace Discrimination, Racism, and Sexism
By Faye Irving
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The pain from discrimination and marginalization led me closer to my purpose of advocacy. I had two choices for responding to what happened to me. I could accept reality and do nothing about the fact that women of color in the workplace will be targeted for abuse and sidelined. My other choice was to use that frustration as a vehicle for warning others and providing tools to navigate those situations. I chose the latter and used this book as therapy to heal from the many years of trauma and prepare others for the journey ahead. Like David in Psalm 34, I sought the Lord, and He answered me, and He saved me amid my troubles. He gave me a way out and a plan to give others insight into what they might encounter and how they could prepare to meet the challenges ahead. "A warning given by an experienced person to someone willing to listen is more valuable than gold rings or jewelry made of the finest gold" (Proverbs 25:12, Good News Bible).
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Lessons to My Younger Self - Faye Irving
Lessons to My Younger Self
Navigating Through Workplace Discrimination, Racism, and Sexism
Faye Irving
ISBN 979-8-89130-679-0 (paperback)
ISBN 979-8-89130-680-6 (digital)
Copyright © 2024 by Faye Irving
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All biblical citations were taken from the New International Version of the Holy Bible unless otherwise indicated.
Printed in the United States of America
Table of Contents
To my precious daughter, Amber.
To my nieces and other young women navigating the early journey of life.
Being Black in the Workplace
Chapter 1
Happy Twenty-Fifth Birthday, Amber
Chapter 2
Guiding Principles
Have a Guiding Principle to Center Yourself
Chapter 3
Know Your Worth and Negotiate It
Know Your Worth and Negotiate It
Chapter 4
Network and Align with Others
Network and Align with Others
Chapter 5
Speak Up
Speak Up
Chapter 6
Do Your Homework
Do Your Homework
Chapter 7
It Is Okay to Self-Promote
It Is Okay to Self-Promote
Chapter 8
Do Not Take No for an Answer
Do Not Take No for an Answer
Chapter 9
Be Authentic
Be Authentic
Chapter 10
Treat Yo Self
Treat Yo Self
Chapter 11
Be Prepared to Act
Be Prepared to Act
Chapter 12
Above All, Get Wisdom
Above All, Get Wisdom
Chapter 13
People Will Talk
People Will Talk
Chapter 14
Reaction from Amber
About the Author
Navigating Through Workplace Discrimination, Racism, and Sexism
To my precious daughter, Amber.
To my nieces and other young women navigating the early journey of life.
Being Black in the Workplace
They take my kindness for weakness.
They take my silence for speechless.
They consider my uniqueness strange.
They call my language slang.
They see my confidence as conceit.
They see my mistakes as defeat.
They consider my success accidental.
They minimize my intelligence to potential.
My questions mean I'm unaware.
My advancement is somehow unfair.
Any praise is preferential treatment.
To voice concern is discontentment.
If I stand up for myself, I'm too defensive.
If I don't trust them, I'm too apprehensive.
I'm defiant! If I separate.
I'm fake if I assimilate.
Yet, constantly I am faced with work place hate.
My character is constantly under attack.
Pride for my race makes me, too black.
(Linda Sharp)
Yet, I can only be me. And, who am I you ask? I am that Strong Black Person… Who stands on the back of my ancestor's achievements, with an erect spine pointing to the stars with pride, dignity and respect which lets the work place in America know, that I not only possess the ability to play by the rules, but I can make them as well! (Black History 365)
Chapter 1
Happy Twenty-Fifth Birthday, Amber
This book is dedicated to my dearest daughter, Amber, and a host of my nieces, whom I love and cherish. My desire is also for other young ladies entering the independence phase of their lives to benefit from my experience and recommendations.
Early in life, you are told what to do, how to do it, when it should be done, and why. You are now moving from the comfort of a childhood at home into a world where you are the decision-maker, and you will soon run your own home. Transitioning into adulthood can feel overwhelming because suddenly you are expected to make all the decisions and have all the answers. Life will come at you from so many angles, and some will not be desirable. You must be grounded in a foundation beyond your will, knowledge, and wit. Otherwise, it is simply not enough to manage
this journey called life.
As a young African American woman, you will soon discover the world is not fair. It is well documented that the deck is stacked against you being female, young, and Black. While that does not mean you are destined for failure, it does mean you need an anchor to support your existence. While this book has biblical references, it is not about religion. It is about a relationship with a power that is beyond our comprehension and is present all around us, willing to lead, guide, and protect. My foundation is in God, and that is the premise for the recommendations presented here as your guidance along life's journey.
Allow me to share some highlights from McKinsey & Company, which paired up with Lean In to dig deeper into the reality and disparities of women in the workplace.
McKinsey & Company is the oldest and largest of the Big Three
management consultancies and the world's most prestigious strategy consulting firm.
Lean In has a mission to document the realities of working women and provide strategies to mitigate the disparities: We help women achieve their ambitions and work to create an equal world.
These reputable groups teamed together to produce the research study Women in the Workplace, which is the largest study on the state of women in corporate America. The highlights I will reference are cited from the 2022 study, which details information collected from 333 participating organizations