Awaken to Embrace Vulnerability and Sexuality: Your Journey in Strengthening Your Intimate Relationship

By Marcela Onyx

Are you ready to liberate yourself from societal expectations, embody your true self, heal within to find inner peace, and tap into the transformative power of cultivating an intimate relationship with yourself?

• Language: English
• Publisher: Marcela Onyx Publishing
• Release date: Mar 14, 2024
• ISBN: 9781739463649

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Disclaimer

The information provided in this book is intended to be used for educational and self-help purposes, to offer helpful advice and guidance on personal growth and self-improvement. However, the content is not for diagnosis, prescription, or treatment of any health disorders or intended to replace medical or healthcare professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. The author and publisher are not responsible for any adverse effects or actions taken based on the information contained in this book. The reader is solely responsible for their own decisions and actions. The techniques, strategies, and suggestions presented in this book are not intended to diagnose or treat any medical, psychological, or emotional conditions. Readers are encouraged to seek the advice of a qualified professional for any concerns they may have.

Dedication

My heart sings with gratitude as I reflect on the journey that led me here, to this moment, writing my very first book, which is dedicated to my soulmate Angelo. A passionate and devoted husband and father who trusted me twice with the mission to raise our two beautiful children, whom I love and care with all my energy for both of us, Angelo saw my potential and supported me wholeheartedly. He always believed in my ability to make a difference in the world and encouraged me to pursue my dreams, and supported me, as he would say, being the mother and the father when I had to travel to dedicate quality time to study and develop my personal and spiritual journey as part of my soul’s purpose that he knew was meant to be.

Together, we embraced every emotion that life brought our way. We cried tears of both sorrow and joy, felt frustration and anger, but also found happiness, love, and excitement. We supported each other through it all on the happy and toughest time in our relationship without letting each other give up, finding ways to embrace healing and overcoming our struggles. We took our time to savour every moment and to dive deep into the depths of our souls, learning and growing together along the way. We also unfolded our spirituality together, which, after I found inner peace with my grief, allowed us to carry on living our love on a soul and spiritual level, and it has been an amazing experience.

Introduction

Dear Seeker,

I appreciate your interest in this book. Everyone has the right to be happy and feel good about themselves. To find happiness within, you first need to choose to accept yourself for who you are right now.

I have worked with many people who face complications in relationships with themselves or others because they are uncomfortable being open and vulnerable.

This book will help you awaken to intimacy, vulnerability, and sexuality. It will help you start a journey where you can choose to let go of your resentments and learn and evolve from them. It will also ignite the flame of passion in you so that you work towards happiness and fulfilment. It will teach you ways to accept yourself in your own skin because that’s what makes you beautiful.

Make the most of the Self-reflection spaces and use this book as YOUR workbook to reflect, explore and embrace your journey in strengthening your intimate relationship with yourself and your partner.

Any healthy relationship starts with doing our inner work. When we feel comfortable and confident exploring and learning how we want to express and communicate with healthy boundaries, we feel sexually empowered. We can prioritise things that matter to us. Throughout this book, I will inspire you to have your voice for your choices, own your sexuality, and acknowledge your desires without feeling guilty or ashamed. More than that, I will take you through how to spice up your awakening so you can enjoy the passion and in-depth connection with your new happy self or partner.

Healing and transformation take time. Please make a note of these moments and acknowledge them as a powerful tool. While reading this book, please consider how these chapters resonate with you and potentially within your relationships.

Now let’s embrace this journey.

Contents

1.The Courage to Connect and Transform

1. 1

2.Space for Self-Reflection

3.1

4.2

5.3

6.4

7.5

8.6

9.7

10.8

11.9

12.10

13.11

14.12

15.13

16.Empowering Insights

17.Embracing Vulnerability

17. 2

18.Space for Self-Reflection

19.14

20.15

21.16

22.17

23.18

24.19

25.20

26.21

27.22

28.23

29.Empowering Insights

30.Empowering Yourself Through Healthy Boundaries

30. 3

31.Space for Self-Reflection

32.24

33.25

34.26

35.27

36.28

37.29

38.30

39.31

40.32

41.33

42.Empowering Insights

43.Awakening into Intimacy

43. 4

44.Space for Self-Reflection

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46.35

47.36

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51.40

52.41

53.42

54.43

55.44

56.45

57.46

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59.Empowering Insights

60.Healing Within and Strengthening Relationships

60. 5

61.Space for Self-Reflection

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67.53

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74.Empowering Insights

75.Your Own Sexuality

75. 6

76.Space for Self-Reflection

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81.64

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85.68

86.69

87.70

88.71

89.Empowering Insights

90.Deepening Your Connections

90. 7

91.Love and Connection Embodiment Meditation

92.Space for Self-Reflection

93.72

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106.Empowering Insights

107.Spicing Up and Keeping the Flame

107. 8

108.Space for Self-Reflection

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125.Space for Self-Reflection & Celebration

126.101

127.102

127. The number 10 symbolizes personal growth and success, while 2 represents balance and relationships. Trust your intuition, and congratulations on honestly answering these questions deeply. You've shown the courage to look within and do the inner work!

128.Empowering Insights

129.Conclusion

130.Bonus Chapter - Healing Visibility

131.Author’s Biography

The Courage to Connect and Transform

1

Embarking on a journey of strengthening your intimate relationship with yourself is a bold and courageous step towards unlocking the deepest levels of love, connection, discovery and intimacy we can undertake, regardless of whether we are single or in a relationship.

Taking the time to explore our own intimate desires, wants and needs, both sexually and emotionally, can be an incredibly empowering experience and an important part of self-discovery and personal growth. It allows us to understand ourselves on a deeper level, recognise our own worth and value, and cultivate a sense of self-acceptance and self-love as we learn to embrace all aspects of ourselves, including those that may have been previously hidden, repressed or suppressed. By doing so, we can free ourselves from the constraints of shame, fear, self-doubt and embrace a more authentic and purposeful life, which is essential for building healthy and fulfilling relationships with others.

As we continue on our transformational intimacy journey, we may find that old patterns and beliefs that no longer serve us begin to fall away, allowing us to step into a new way of being in our relationships.

This journey of self-discovery can be empowering and transformative, allowing us to become more confident and comfortable in our own skin. It can also help us to form deeper and more meaningful connections with ourselves and others as we learn to identify and communicate our desires and boundaries effectively.

We all want and deserve love and intimacy and to be in a relationship where we feel seen, heard, and understood. We all have expectations, and most of us think we are outstanding in reading other people’s minds, but this can lead to unhelpful assumptions, criticism, judgment, and misunderstandings that can result in a feeling of negative emotions.

No matter what we’ve been through in the past, we have the power to heal and transform ourselves. Although it may feel scary to revisit painful memories, we can choose to face them with courage and compassion. By embracing the healing process, we can release ourselves from the grip of the past and find inner peace.

As we work through our wounds and challenges, we eventually learn to accept and forgive ourselves and others. We gain valuable insights and wisdom from our experiences, and we grow stronger and more resilient in the process. We let go of the need to blame ourselves or others and instead take responsibility for our own happiness.

We have the capacity to learn, reprogram our minds, change our emotional, mental, and physical states and access fascinating new aspects of ourselves, for example, changing our mindset from one of shame to one of self-compassion and realising that we have a voice. And when we identify what has been holding us back and choose to give a more empowering meaning and create a new reality, we can transform and have meaningful connections that can be more profound, not just with ourselves but also with our relationships.

Several factors may have prevented us from embracing ourselves intimately and even our sexual self to uncover the nature of our sexual relationship and understand how our sexual self-aligns with who we are and how comfortable we are accessing every sexual aspect of ourselves.

Have you ever asked yourself:

"What does my critical inner voice tell me about sex?

Do I know what I like and do not like?

What are my rules, expectations, and boundaries where relationships, self-pleasure, desires, personal values, and sexuality is concerned?

What’s wrong with me? Why have I lost interest in being intimate with myself or my partner? Why have I never had an orgasm?

How comfortable and practical do I feel talking to others openly?"

They are deep questions, and most of my clients would say they would like to work on them when we discuss relationships, connection, and intimacy.

Intimacy is into me I see or, in other words, I’m here; see me, hear me. It is an evolving process that encourages you to become more and more conscious of yourself and your surroundings. It brings us closer to connecting with everything so we can dive deeper into ourselves.

Self-knowledge includes developing awareness of your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, feelings, emotions, personality traits, values, needs, goals, preferences, behavioural patterns, fears, triggers, relationships, and social identity.

Intimacy can evoke strong emotions and feelings. It is normal to feel some hesitation when opening up to another person. Some people may have had unpleasant experiences in their sexual life that caused a fear of intimacy, and they may feel apprehension when it comes to getting close to someone else out of the fear of being hurt, rejected, or left alone. People with this fear may feel uncomfortable getting too close to others and withdraw from social situations or intimate relationships.

When you have self-knowledge, you can use that information to make better choices and improve your relationships and intimacy.

The more we learn about ourselves, the more likely we feel empowered to pursue amazing life experiences, creating an inner world where we can enjoy the journey and grow.

To begin an intimate relationship with someone, we must understand ourselves, what we want and desire in our lives, and who we want to be. Because personal intimacy only works when two people are willing to lower their defences and reveal their genuine