Keep Your Love On: 365 Daily Devotions for Couples
By Danny Silk
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Quality love relationships do not happen by accident; they are built through persistent hard work. In this devotional for couples, author Danny Silk reinforces the three basic principles of the Keep Your Love On book—connecting, communicating, and setting boundaries. Each devotion includes quick daily readings, Scriptures, and thought-provoking questions that will help you build, strengthen, maintain, and heal your relational connections.
Keeping your love on is both a mindset and a heart condition. No one can make you do it, and no one can keep you from doing it. Learn to live out the very best of who you are, and the all-elusive intimacy experience you crave will be well within your grasp.
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Keep Your Love On helped me finally understand how to build and protect healthy relationships. Danny’s teaching on connection, communication, and boundaries made everything so clear and easy to understand. Learning and living the KYLO message daily has changed my life and relationships forever!
—Christian Zamora, husband and father
KYLO was a Holy Spirit-led choice for me, and it has changed my life in many ways. Not only has my marriage been restored, but other relationships are also more intimate with proper boundaries that keep me empowered, whole, and healthy. I am able to keep connections strong while also knowing how to say no
to things I feel uncomfortable with.
—Jordan Davis, youth pastor and business owner
I grew up in a family with a dysfunctional communication style (one parent passive, one aggressive, and everything swept under the rug with appearances being the most important thing). Sadly, I saw this continue into my own family after marriage. Once I was introduced to KYLO, everything improved in our family: my connection with my husband, my connections with my children (especially how I parented), and connections with others. We have been able to break the cycle! Hallelujah! This has recently become evident as my parents after forty years of marriage are struggling in their relationship and communication. Of course, I just referred them to Keep Your Love On, and they ordered it. Now I have hope!
—Emily Johnson, wife and mother
I have spent years looking for help for my family and our relationships. The principles of KYLO brought tremendous hope and healing into our lives. I told my family I am not good at this, but I am determined to become good at it.
Now as my own life has changed, I am seeing my family become whole and healthy.
—Don Trail, husband, father, and businessman
Last year, our ministry went through a difficult season where relationships with a few of our young leaders fractured and blew apart. We are so thankful that The Life Academy and KYLO principles were made known to us. We immediately began a heart internship with our leaders and missionaries using these teachings. Four months in, we are blown away! We are seeing so much growth and can honestly say we are the healthiest community we have ever been. By cultivating an environment of powerful people who are choosing love over fear with a desire for connection, operating in respectful communication and healthy boundaries, we are changing the world! We are forever grateful to Danny and his KYLO Team.
—Cheryl Smith, co-founder and pastor of Eastgate House of Prayer Mission Base
About ten years ago, our family was in crisis. My wife had a breakdown, and I was at a loss for how to stay connected to God, to her, and to myself in this time. KYLO gave me the tools I needed to be a husband and father who was both empathetic and empowering. As a result, we remained connected and hopeful through this season. KYLO has literally changed my life, I can’t recommend it enough.
—Dave Hill, director of Bethel Kids, founder of HeartSmart TV, husband, and father
I feel like my wife Angie and I have always had a great marriage, but the KYLO principles have helped us take it to a deeper level. Before KYLO, I never realized how much I was choosing to love her at a safe distance because of fear, rather than pursuing the goal of connection. KYLO has given us the courage to walk the journey of setting aside our old habits and fears in order to make intimacy our target.
—Josh Haas, pastor
Keeping your love on meant learning how to love myself, set healthy boundaries, and manage me
no matter what was happening around me. Every area of my life—my family connections, professional relationships, business and ministry—continues to be strengthened beyond what I could imagine as I practice inserting love where fear used to be. Living in love feels like freedom.
—Bernii Godwin, wife, stepmom, school social worker
The tools KYLO provided me in my life have changed the legacy of my family. Choosing love over fear means I can approach conflict to understand others, rather than force agreement. Not only that, but I now have the confidence to participate and set boundaries for respectful communication for myself and others in any situation.
—Jayden Godwin, husband, father, and founder of Rise Up Catering
The Keep Your Love On message changed not only my life but my marriage. Understanding that I have the ability to get my needs met and that God is the supplier of all my needs took the pressure off my husband and allowed us both to rely upon God, seeing each other as a way God can supply our needs not the only way. It was a game changer to realize God was not limited by our capacity; He is infinitely creative and able to meet all of our needs according to His riches and glory. This opened my husband and I up to partnering together to find solutions.
—Genesis Eakes, president and founder of Genesis Eakes International Corporation
Keep Your Love On has given me the tools to make love believable. Jesus said, No greater love has any man that they would lay down their life for another
and KYLO teaches the practical tools to make that an active expression. My life has been so impacted, as well as the culture in my marriage, in our home, and even in our church. I’m forever grateful to have learned these powerful tools and principles.
—Katieann Browning, senior leader of Resolute Ministries
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KEEP YOUR LOVE ON 365 Daily Devotions
© 2022 by Danny Silk
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Contents
Introduction
January
January 1: I Choose You
January 2: Verbal Reminder
January 3: His Choice
January 4: Backwards
January 5: Take Responsibility
January 6: Becoming Powerful
January 7: Language Shift
January 8: Stand Against Fear
January 9: Not a Consumer
January 10: Blame Game
January 11: Controlled Space
January 12: Role Play
January 13: Firstborn Rescuer
January 14: Need to Control
January 15: Power Play
January 16: Set the Standard
January 17: On Full Blast
January 18: No Other Options
January 19: Embrace the Day
January 20: Yes and No
January 21: Who You Are
January 22: Truth Revealed
January 23: Most Powerful Choice
January 24: Essential Understanding
January 25: Change to Thrive
January 26: Equal Responsibility
January 27: The Rightful Half
January 28: I Can and I Will
January 29: No Bad Guys
January 30: Hold Firmly
January 31: Put on Love
February
February 1: Safe Connection
February 2: Sow Generously
February 3: Crop of Love
February 4: I Love You
February 5: Steadfast Love
February 6: Keep Fervent
February 7: Physical Touch
February 8: The Right Touch
February 9: Intentional Acts
February 10: Control Freak
February 11: Token of Love
February 12: Good Gifts
February 13: Active Interest
February 14: A Quiet Place
February 15: Intent of Words
February 16: Timely Words
February 17: Full Blast
February 18: Relational Tools
February 19: A Heart Battle
February 20: You Have a Choice
February 21: Connection Goal
February 22: Greatest Commandment
February 23: How to Love
February 24: The Best You
February 25: Become Fluent
February 26: Increased Love
February 27: Reaction to Pain
February 28: Perseverance Through Pain
March
March 1: Human Instinct
March 2: Rattlesnake Relationship
March 3: Controlling Behaviors
March 4: New Tools
March 5: Comfort Zone
March 6: Different People
March 7: Response Ability
March 8: Free to Love
March 9: Not Controlled
March 10: Passionate Pursuit
March 11: Filled with Freedom
March 12: Break the Cycle
March 13: Whole Armor
March 14: No Adherence Policy
March 15: Choose a Partner
March 16: It Is Possible
March 17: Return on Investment
March 18: Best-Kept Secret
March 19: Just Say It
March 20: Best Self Forward
March 21: Adjustments
March 22: The Real Test
March 23: Battle Plan
March 24: Which Kingdom
March 25: Recruiting Destruction
March 26: The Choice
March 27: Limited Control
March 28: The Biggest Problem
March 29: Switched
March 30: I’ll Be Back
March 31: Encouraging Powerfulness
April
April 1: No Joke
April 2: Fountain of Hope
April 3: Building on Sand
April 4: One Foundation
April 5: Protected Connection
April 6: No Wedges
April 7: Conditional
April 8: Slave to Nothing
April 9: Guaranteed Choice
April 10: Seven Pillars
April 11: Pillar of Love
April 12: Love Product
April 13: What Love Is
April 14: Pillar of Honor
April 15: Pattern for Honor
April 16: Honoring Differences
April 17: Of Value
April 18: Pillar of Self-Control
April 19: Follow Through
April 20: Managing Freedom
April 21: Champion Athletes
April 22: Pillar of Responsibility
April 23: On High Alert
April 24: Confident Choice
April 25: Not Wandering
April 26: Quality of Trust
April 27: Pillar of Truth
April 28: Good Information
April 29: Managing Trust
April 30: Deepest Needs
May
May 1: Set Up
May 2: Supreme Accountability
May 3: Exchange of Truth
May 4: Pillar of Faith
May 5: Turn Your Attention
May 6: End of Yourself
May 7: Pillar of Vision
May 8: Identity and Calling
May 9: Shared Vision
May 10: Purpose to Endure
May 11: The Front Porch
May 12: Environment of Shalom
May 13: Only You
May 14: Covenant Keeper
May 15: So Different
May 16: Two Become One
May 17: Expression of Love
May 18: Pretending
May 19: The Great Hijacker
May 20: Valued and Understood
May 21: Fear Styles
May 22: Passive Communication
May 23: Living a Lie
May 24: The Passive Approach
May 25: A T-Rex
May 26: But Not Really
May 27: Mixed Messages
May 28: Chocolate Dragons
May 29: Assertive Communication
May 30: Instead
May 31: A Good Response
June
June 1: Priority of Agreement
June 2: Relationship Killer
June 3: To Understand
June 4: Radically Different
June 5: Facts and Clichés
June 6: Heart Communication
June 7: Auto Response
June 8: What You Need
June 9: Simply Ask
June 10: Be Real
June 11: Impart Understanding
June 12: Seasoned with Salt
June 13: He Hears
June 14: Unsearchable
June 15: Right Judgment
June 16: No Guessing
June 17: Both Matter
June 18: Greater Concern
June 19: In the Moment
June 20: Cultivate Honor
June 21: A Deeper Level
June 22: A Different Experience
June 23: Not the Same
June 24: It Is Good
June 25: Ability to Trust
June 26: A Trust Cycle
June 27: The Full Range
June 28: Unbroken Trust
June 29: Shine the Light
June 30: Healing Cycles
July
July 1: Worthy of Love
July 2: Start Over
July 3: Strong Bond
July 4: No Telepathy
July 5: A Necessary Expression
July 6: No Assumptions
July 7: Fuzzy Lines
July 8: Duel of Judgments
July 9: The I Message
July 10: Conversation Hijacking
July 11: True Emotions
July 12: Honoring Vulnerability
July 13: Need for Need
July 14: Paradise
July 15: Cover Up
July 16: Free Benefits
July 17: Counterfeits
July 18: A Free Choice
July 19: Scratch the Itch
July 20: Creating a Loop
July 21: Response from Heaven
July 22: Mistrust Cycle
July 23: A Specific Skill
July 24: A Revelation
July 25: Rainbow of Emotions
July 26: Feelings Connected
July 27: Good Information
July 28: Connective Conversations
July 29: Reinforced Connection
July 30: What’s at Stake
July 31: A Positive Outcome
August
August 1: Review the Goals
August 2: Second Set
August 3: Healthy and Resistant
August 4: Cord Strength
August 5: Lazy Moments
August 6: During the Calm
August 7: Tested Connections
August 8: Hold On
August 9: Major Adjustments
August 10: We Need to Talk
August 11: Classic Reaction
August 12: Red Button
August 13: Dueling Sword
August 14: Respectful Conversation
August 15: Vulnerability for Resolution
August 16: The Real Problem
August 17: Clear Messages
August 18: One Role at a Time
August 19: Jumbled Code
August 20: No Conversation
August 21: True Servant Role
August 22: Skilled Listeners
August 23: The Momentum
August 24: Fitness Plan
August 25: Choosing a Goal
August 26: Connection Strength
August 27: Handle with Care
August 28: Real Conversations
August 29: Bad Timing
August 30: Adjust and Serve
August 31: Kind of Success
September
September 1: Walking in the Light
September 2: Healthy Boundaries
September 3: Panic Attack
September 4: Pattern for Life
September 5: Innermost Circle
September 6: Deepest Soul Tie
September 7: Outer Circles
September 8: Moved Out
September 9: Level of Attention
September 10: Do Not Disturb
September 11: Limited Resources
September 12: Within Your Boundaries
September 13: He Said No
September 14: One Big Yes
September 15: An Empowering Yes
September 16: In The Right Spot
September 17: No Competition
September 18: Using the Tests
September 19: Highest Value
September 20: Highway House
September 21: Natural Filter
September 22: Room for One
September 23: Scary People
September 24: Temporary Shift
September 25: Communicating Value
September 26: Vandals and Thieves
September 27: On the Way to Yes
September 28: Protect Your Yes
September 29: A Good Christian
September 30: The Bigger Yes
October
October 1: Offering or Robbery
October 2: Healthy Balance
October 3: Handling Offense
October 4: Back in Place
October 5: Push a Button
October 6: Require Respect
October 7: Exhilarating Journey
October 8: Love Messages
October 9: Garden to Tend
October 10: First Things First
October 11: You First
October 12: Shared Fruit
October 13: Making It Flourish
October 14: Cultivate the Garden
October 15: Garden Consumers
October 16: Seagulls
October 17: Type of Boundary
October 18: Exploitation
October 19: Pecked Clean
October 20: Pushing Bruises
October 21: Setting Limits
October 22: Offensive Boundaries
October 23: Danger Zone
October 24: Respect the Line
October 25: Codependency
October 26: Standard of Respect
October 27: Bold Statements
October 28: Powerful Choices
October 29: Capable of No
October 30: Weight of Words
October 31: Leave the Room
November
November 1: Set a Standard
November 2: A Misconception
November 3: Moving On
November 4: Stay Strong
November 5: Common Knowledge
November 6: The Mirage
November 7: The Same Boundary
November 8: Maintain Control
November 9: Truck Mentality
November 10: Assign Value
November 11: Me Not You
November 12: Actions Speak Louder
November 13: Building Trust
November 14: The Gospel
November 15: Propitiation
November 16: Accepted
November 17: Illusions
November 18: Hidden in Darkness
November 19: The Mess
November 20: A Brilliant Plan
November 21: Like He Loves
November 22: Gifted for Love
November 23: Free and Unafraid
November 24: Heart to Heart
November 25: Leading in Love
November 26: A Bigger Heart
November 27: So the World Sees
November 28: Powerful Declarations
November 29: Say It Believe It
November 30: Different Standards
December
December 1: Choosing Crazy
December 2: Love Bigger
December 3: Reflection of Love
December 4: The Battle
December 5: Unmasking Fear
December 6: Goal of Connection
December 7: Responsibility of Respect
December 8: Spiritual Awareness
December 9: Emotional Awareness
December 10: Pandemic
December 11: Chaotic Tide
December 12: Honor, Not Harmony
December 13: Recovered Valuables
December 14: Relational Legacy
December 15: Good Tools
December 16: Refusing to Quit
December 17: A Delicious Harvest
December 18: Beyond You
December 19: Ask, Seek, Knock
December 20: Love Transfer
December 21: Foundation for Love
December 22: Managing Me
December 23: Keep the Flow
December 24: Respectful Interaction
December 25: God’s Gift
December 26: Protecting Vital Pieces
December 27: Unforgiveness Monster
December 28: Behavior of Covenant
December 29: Remembered Forever
December 30: Activating Love
December 31: Yes and Amen
"My command is this:
Love each other
as I have loved you."
JOHN 15:12 NIV
INTRODUCTION
Relationships are vital to becoming a whole person. I wrote Keep Your Love On to help people build, strengthen, and heal their relational connections. This has been my personal mission statement for the last twenty years.
As a husband, father, foster parent, group home staff member, social worker, program director, group facilitator, pastor, author, speaker, or leader, my goal has remained the same—I am alive to help people connect and stay connected.
Keep Your Love On (KYLO) is a mindset. It is a heart condition. It’s something no one can make you do, and no one can keep you from doing. It is a force with a life of its own. Once this force begins to build momentum in your life, you will be able to love fully and do just about anything in life. Keeping your love on creates fearlessness and deep vulnerability.
The goal of life-long love is something everyone desires. It is the hope of every young couple who gaze into each other’s eyes and believe that this is The One.
It is the commitment young parents make when they look into the innocent face of their first child. However, quality love relationships do not happen by accident. Real love is built the old-fashioned way—through hard work. And if you learn to manage the very best of who you are, the all-elusive intimacy experience you crave will be well within your grasp.
This devotional includes quick daily readings, thought-provoking questions, and Scriptures that help reinforce the three basic principles of the KYLO book—connecting, communicating, and setting boundaries.
I pray that you will continue to find hope and healing on your journey. I am grateful that you are among those who are learning how to love well.
Peace,
Danny
JANUARY 1
I CHOOSE YOU
You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit.
JOHN 15:16 NIV
When you said your vows at your wedding ceremony, you may not have understood the significance of what you were saying. You probably had no idea what you were signing up for. At the time, the choice may have seemed easy or even fun, but when your journey carries you into difficult situations, choosing your spouse can become the test of a lifetime.
You have chosen to be committed to someone for life. You will be challenged and invited to hold to that choice again and again. Today, as you focus on your relationship with your spouse, speak these words of devotion to each other: I choose you.
Jesus, please help us to choose each other each day through all the challenges and tests. We want to bear good fruit as we choose love in our relationship.
How can you make the foundation of your relationship with your spouse an I choose you
relationship?
JANUARY 2
VERBAL REMINDER
I will not be negligent to remind you always of these things, though you know and are established in the present truth.
2 PETER 1:12 NKJV
It is good to remind yourself of the choice you made on your wedding day. When you confirm your desire to stick with that choice, you help ease anxiety and establish instead the comfort, affection, and security necessary to remain connected. You show your spouse that you are continuing to choose them even when things are rough.
It is normal to wrestle with the commitment to that choice. You won’t always get it right, but a constant verbal reminder will help you hold fast to each other and keep you accountable before one another and before God. It ultimately teaches you how to keep your love on.
Heavenly Father, we choose to be accountable to You with our choices. We want to lessen the anxiety in our relationship and be a source of comfort and affection for each other. Help us to stay committed to our choice of love.
What can you do to remind your spouse of your choice today?
JANUARY 3
HIS CHOICE
God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners.
ROMANS 5:8 NLT
The foundation of true, lasting relationships is the commitment to choose love. This is how God has drawn you into relationship with Himself. He chose you in the most difficult of circumstances—while you were still in sin, when you were His enemy.
God’s side of the relationship does not depend upon your choice, but entirely upon His. You have to learn how to build your relationship with Him and others upon the foundation of your choice. You can’t just love each other when it is easy. You choose to love through the challenges.
God, thank You for showing us the depth of Your love when You sent Your Son to die for us. You chose to love us when we were still sinners. Help us to love each other even when we are struggling in our relationship.
How can you build your relationship with God and with your spouse on the foundation of your choice?
JANUARY 4
BACKWARDS
Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.
ROMANS 12:10 NIV
You are headed for trouble if you try to build your relationship on a you chose me
basis. It is natural instinct to like people who like you and to choose people who choose you. But if all your relationships are based solely on your natural impulse to return liking for liking, you will have problems. What happens when you no longer like someone?
Liking is conditional, and it changes. If the condition for your relationship is You chose me
instead of I choose you,
the relationship is doomed to change and will probably collapse as soon as the liking goes away. Make it your mission to continue to choose each other, so that when liking is lacking,