Don't Miss Your Life: The Secret to Significance
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Nobody wants to look back on a disappointing, unfulfilled life. Why then are so many of us dissatisfied despite our goals and continual striving? In Don't Miss Your Life, Aaron Tredway reveals we're aimed at the wrong target: success. Despite our pursuit of something more, we are stuck chasing our idea of success instead of true significance. But we don't have to be rich or famous to lead a life of meaning in God's kingdom.
In this practical guide, Aaron shares his personal discovery of the secret to significance and invites you to live the life God created you for. Learn to
- recognize the exhausting emptiness of pursuing success,
- find liberation from a life without purpose,
- pursue God's glory instead of unrewarding self-focus, and
- choose significance over success one step at a time.You were made for a meaningful, deeply fulfilling life, and you can achieve just that.
Aaron Tredway
Aaron Tredway combined his love of sport and culture to create a unique global platform that has allowed him to travel to over 130 countries. Raised in California, Tredway has spent the last eighteen years of his life playing and coaching professional soccer on six continents. Founder and former executive director of the Cleveland City Stars professional soccer team, he now works as the director of global advancement for Ambassadors Football International. He is the author of To/Who: Live for More.
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Don't Miss Your Life - Aaron Tredway
Aaron has a unique way of communicating through humor, personal experience, and biblical insight. In Don’t Miss Your Life, he exposes the emptiness and deceptiveness of our pursuit of success. In the end, you’re left with a compelling decision to change course.
Tom Petersburg, president, Catapult Ministries; former chaplain, Cleveland Browns, Cleveland Indians, and Cleveland Cavaliers
You are meant to be here. Yes, holding this book...but also here on earth. The problem is that too many people miss their purpose or don’t know how to uncover it. This book can help! Aaron takes you on a fun, inspirational, story-filled journey that will give you tangible and practical next steps to help you move toward your best life. I am excited for you!
Ben Snyder, lead pastor, CedarCreek Church
In the athletic world, I’ve experienced what Aaron describes in Don’t Miss Your Life: a life lived in pursuit of success, which only leads to emptiness. This book has given me practical steps to live for significance that glorifies God.
Travis Hafner, former Major League Baseball player (17-year career)
Everyone has a story, a gift, a purpose…and a target. Aaron clearly and directly challenges you to question your target in life. Don’t Miss Your Life will challenge you to evaluate what your identity is anchored in and evaluate how you are using your time, talent, and treasure. If your life feels less than full, this book illustrates grounded truths to provide a pathway toward significance.
Marshall Croom, retired CFO, Lowe’s Companies, Inc.
Struggling on the treadmill of success? Searching for significance in all the wrong places? Don’t Miss Your Life has the secret to discovering and redefining success and significance in a world that fills us with false hope. As a former professional athlete, I’ve been to the top of my profession only to have it all seemingly taken away. I’ve also experienced the same in business and in my family life. Those peaks and valleys can lure and deceive the best of us into a repetitive cycle that never ends. Don’t Miss Your Life will point you to the answer you’ve been looking for: the abundant life Jesus has to offer. Aaron’s winsome truth telling will capture your heart and mind in a unique way, spur you to evaluate your life, and encourage you to make the necessary changes that lead to true significance!
Steve Shak, managing director, Northwestern Mutual; former number one draft pick, Major League Soccer
At some point, we all find ourselves looking for our purpose in life, asking ourselves where we fit and how we will find our place. In Don’t Miss Your Life, Aaron does an incredible job of helping us find our unique purpose and understand how this purpose is part of a much bigger story than we could have ever imagined. Don’t miss out on reading this book. I’m confident it will help you find the life you’ve always been looking for.
George Franco, president, Franco Trucking, Inc.
Don’t Miss Your Life is a wonderful mix of stories and lessons that creates deeper thoughts about what God really wants for our lives no matter what situations we encounter. Great read!
Anna Latkovic, president, Ghurka
As a professional athlete, I often get asked if I find my life purpose running track. I always say no. When I’m not as stressed as other athletes before a huge competition, people ask why. It’s hard to put a response into words, but this book contains those words! Read Don’t Miss Your Life if you want to live with less anxiety, a greater self-worth, and a much greater purpose. It’s a liberating way to live!
Jordan Gray, professional decathlete; founder, Let Women Decathlon
Have you ever felt empty no matter how hard you work, strive, or push? Maybe you have just reached the top. Maybe you are just beginning your journey and have yet to experience the feelings of never being satisfied. No matter what stage you are at, it’s not too late to aim at the right target. In Don’t Miss Your Life, Aaron will guide you to your true purpose in life and help you reassess your vision of success. You will discover the real reason you are on this earth and the overwhelming fullness you can feel when your target aligns with Jesus’ target for your life. You will enjoy this book and find the target that God put you on earth to hit. Trust me. You won’t be disappointed.
Christopher Hodgson, president, Driftwood Restaurants and Catering
At some point, we all figure out that success doesn’t satisfy our deepest desires. Discovering your purpose and living this out will bring you true fulfillment. Read this book and find out how to live your best life.
Christian Taylor, professional athlete; two-time Olympic Gold Medalist
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Don’t Miss Your Life: The Secret to Significance
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For my friend Bob, who taught many to live a significant life.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
–Jesus (John 10:10 NIV)
Table of Contents
PROLOGUE: The Sin of Success: An Autobiography
PART ONE: The Problem
Chapter 1: Success: The Most Coveted Disappointment of All
Chapter 2: The American Dream
Chapter 3: The Sisyphean Effect
PART TWO: The Solution
Chapter 4: A New Perspective
Chapter 5: A New Purpose
Chapter 6: A New Pursuit
INTERMISSION: The Why Is Your Way
PART THREE: Three Practical Ways to Pursue Significance
Chapter 7: Become Rich toward God
Chapter 8: Become Rich in Community
Chapter 9: Give Your Life Away
EPILOGUE: On Purpose
About the Author
Endnotes
Prologue
The Sin of Success: An Autobiography
I never want to be a pastor, missionary, or speak in public. Those are my conditions. That was my first prayer. On the floor. In my dorm room as a college freshman.
Have you ever tried to make a deal with God?
How’d that work out for you?
It wasn’t my best idea. Three years later someone called me. It wasn’t God. It might as well have been.
Hello, is this Aaron?
Yes,
I say.
Is this Aaron Tredway, the professional soccer player?
Yes,
I say…with pride.
It had always been my dream.
When I was five years old, my dad came home from work one day; he said we were going to play a new game. He never played himself. I don’t think he ever saw it played until that day in the park.
Remember orange slices and lukewarm Capri Sun? Anyone? Maybe you also grew up in the ’80s?
That day in the park I clearly saw my purpose. I jumped out of my dad’s 1979 Datsun Bluebird, and I stood at the edge of the field. Fluorescent yellow socks pulled up to mid-thigh. White plastic pleather cleats. I was 44.5 pounds soaking wet. I’m certain the other kids were intimidated.
They were all running. They were all screaming. They were all chasing a ball but mostly just kicking each other. In that moment, I look up at my dad and his fantastic mustache. I’m going to be a professional soccer player!
I say. I’m told that wasn’t my dad’s plan; he loved baseball. Maybe I should have played baseball. Maybe then God wouldn’t have had Mike call me that day.
"Aaron, this is Mike," the voice says.
Mike, great to hear from you,
I say. Do I know you?
Ummm. Well. Not really. But you should come to Africa to serve God with us.
Hmmm…
Let’s think.
I never want to be a pastor, missionary, or speak in public…
I didn’t think long.
Mike, I’ll pass,
I say.
Three weeks later, I was in Harare, Zimbabwe.
Maybe you’ve had an experience like that—defining?
Life-altering? A total reframing of why you exist? Maybe it was an event for you. Maybe it was a specific moment in time. Maybe you picked up this book because you need a moment like that. I know I needed this moment.
From the day I stood on that soccer field when I was five years old, I had one goal for my life—to become a professional soccer player; but honestly, I didn’t know what that meant when I was young. There was no professional soccer league in the United States. I had never watched soccer on TV, and I had never been to a game that I wasn’t playing in myself. So, my vision wasn’t robust…but it was specific.
I wanted to be famous.
I wanted to make lots of money.
I wanted to drive a Pontiac Firebird Trans Am. It had to be a black Pontiac Firebird Trans Am with a robotic artificially intelligent electronic computer module—I watched too much Knight Rider as a kid—thanks, Hasselhoff!
Here’s the point: success was my goal.
Jesus once asked an interesting question: What good would it do to get everything you want and lose you, the real you?
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Have you ever thought about that?
Have you ever gotten something you really wanted? Do you remember how long you were satisfied until you wanted something else?
Soccer was like that for me.
I spent my life chasing, and working, and grinding, and hoping one day I would make it.
I actually slept with a soccer ball under my pillow most nights. I guess that explains my alignment issues. But I had a goal. And it wasn’t just a goal—it was my target—the aim of my life.
That’s why I set parameters with God. That night when I prayed for the very first time, I told God my conditions. I’m willing to commit, to sacrifice, to follow Jesus
as long as I never have to be a pastor, missionary, or speak in public.
I’ve noticed that God doesn’t always honor back-alley deals, but he always has a plan. That’s how I got to Africa. That’s how I ended up on a dirt field with Mike, who pursued me until I agreed to go. I’ll never forget the day.
The night before, we had played in a huge stadium in front of thousands of people, but now we were in the absolute middle-of-nowhere Africa—think mud huts, grass skirts, and kids with no clothes covered in dirt.
Carlos, my friend who played for the LA Galaxy, leans over to me as we’re sitting there on the bus in the heat. "Why are we here?" he says. I had no idea.
There was no one in sight—no houses or huts or anything around. But there was a field full of rocks and glass. One end of the field appeared to be higher than the other. Significantly higher.
Should we get off the bus?
Carlos says.