Bond: Belonging and the Keys to Inclusion and Connection
By Greg Morley
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Featuring culture experts Harland Chun, Lisa Lam, Tracy Spears, and Donna M. Wilson
See beyond the loudest voices and most extreme views to the heart of why inclusion and belonging matter. In fact, so many of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors are ingrained in the desire to connect. Our bonds are the heartbeat of relati
Greg Morley
Greg Morley is most recently Global Head of Diversity, Equity and Inclusion for Moët Hennessy, a division of LVMH. Greg brings a personal and professional passion to the development of talent and to helping organization and individuals achieve more than they believe possible. Greg led the HR function for the company's operations across the Asia Pacific region. Prior to joining Moët Hennessy, he was Vice President, Human Resources Asia Pacific for Hasbro, Inc. and was Vice President, Human Resources for the Shanghai Disney Resort. He has been based in Hong Kong, Paris, and the US for The Walt Disney Company, starting his career in General Electric. Greg played a leading role in the team that brought the 2024 Gay Games, a global-participant sports, culture, and diversity event, to Asia for the first time in its 40-year history, specifically to Hong Kong.
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Bond - Greg Morley
Introduction
Connection Culture Is Here
But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
—Khalil Gibran, poet
Your brain is
better with connections. Your in-built social component stimulates attention and memory, and it strengthens our lifespans, immune systems, neural networks, and cognitive sharpness. Pleasurable company can transmit two important chemicals—dopamine and oxytocin (the love hormone
). What is happening in our brain can translate into a surge of joy, confidence, productivity, and goal achievement. This is only the beginning of the benefits of your brain feeling positively engaged and supported by others.
Social or group living is said to have preceded pair living by 35 million years, so bonding is at the core of human experience from the earliest days of humans. Human bonds are not only a desire, they are a demand from your body like food and water. Scientist Matthew Lieberman asserts in his book, Social, that social pain is as real as physical pain. Across many studies of mammals, from the smallest rodents all the way to us humans, the data suggests that we are profoundly shaped by our social environment and that we suffer greatly when our social bonds are threatened or severed,
Lieberman told Scientific American for Gareth Cook’s timely piece, Why We Are Wired to Connect
. When this happens in childhood it can lead to long-term health and educational problems. We may not like the fact that we are wired such that our well-being depends on our connections with others, but the facts are the facts.
Another fact is that although I am an advocate for a return to fundamental bonding and the formation of more bonds—which we are perfectly designed to need and do as humans—I am not a social scientist nor am I a relationship expert. Having worked for celebrated global brands and pioneered diversity and inclusion and human resources programs for over three decades, my mission is to bolster belonging and to highlight the significant value inclusion and belonging bring to individuals, organizations, and society. I know firsthand that a sense of belonging is critical to our survival and to the advancement of subsequent generations. As a leader touching many countries and many cultures, I’ve witnessed the shocking burden of not belonging and the astonishing value that belonging has created on many levels. It’s the difference between depleted and defeated, to superpowered and superhuman results and relationships.
If inclined to dismiss the workplace as simply the door to individual productivity and financial gain, think again. As of the writing of this book, the surgeon general of the United States, the most senior health professional in the U.S. Government, declared loneliness a lethal pandemic, equating it to smoking fifteen cigarettes a day. Organizational psychologist Constance Hadley, who has been researching workplace relationships since she was a graduate student, found that many people are lacking collegiate support and they are not calling it loneliness…at first. She describes workplace loneliness as a distressing gap between the level and quality of social interaction that you get while working and what you’re hoping for. It’s a lack of social fulfillment.
Importantly, it’s the feedback from the environment that creates loneliness,
she adds. In other words, the responsibility of painting the landscape for people to feel accepted, included, safe, and valued falls to the leader. Then all managers must tend to the gardens of community. Today, this community consists of hybrid workers riding the modified office work week and employees contributing across many countries.
Work Is Connection, Not Competition
If your job or career is extremely or very important to your overall identity, you bond in this way with four out of ten workers (39%) surveyed by Pew Research Center in March 2023. If you possess a postgraduate degree, that percentage goes up to 53%. A sense of belonging is likely instilled in your devotion, performance, passion, and pride in what you do and how you lead. If you are a solo entrepreneur, the ties you experience could be from the dynamic output with clients, industry organizations, and peers in your field, among others.
The workspace should be a safe space. It should be a place where individuals can be their best, feeling accepted, valued, respected, recognized, and heard. A colleague who was very successful in her role was wanted back at home for what her family called woman’s responsibilities
. She was in a great deal of conflict because at work, she could challenge herself in unique and fulfilling ways. She received nurturing and encouragement in a professional setting, and she thrived. To state that she belonged at work and not
at home may sound harsh and judgmental, but in her case, her professional abilities were protected and lauded, leading to one promotion after another and building her professional narrative. She developed her reputation as a strong, empathetic mentor and sponsor who created groundbreaking programs. The organization bonds over telling the story of her legacy embedded in innovations that serve their people. Stories are an instant way to connect and empathize.
All types of professionals are recognizing and implementing storytelling as a device for both cultivating engaged, productive teams and a culture that cares. Since some of our tightest bonds are with our pets, consider the research on narrative medicine. Karen Fine, DVM, is the author of Narrative Medicine in Veterinary Practice: Improving Client Communication, Patient Care, and Veterinary Well-Being. She defines narrative medicine as a medical approach which maintains that a patient should be viewed as an individual rather than an example of a disease process,
which can be done using a narrative.
By using this approach, she explains, We are better able to provide customized, effective care.
Sound familiar? Rita Charon, MD, PhD, describes narrative medicine in human medicine as the ability to acknowledge, absorb, interpret, and act on the stories and plights of others
as part of patient care. We’ve all visited our busy physicians and quickly assessed if they are treating us based on the familiarity with our personal health narrative or taking a formulaic fifteen-minute approach.
When you propel diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) forward in personal narratives, it is easier for people to engage in the tenants of belonging rather than drop the principles, which causes misalignment and isolation. Telling a story tends to coalesce everyone, as the natural next act is to listen for common ground and an emotional spark. Of course, stories can be tragedies and what I consider inhuman versus human.
A recent story underlines the point. Many of us know the harrowing tale of fifty Venezuelan asylum seekers who arrived in the U.S. in September 2022. Florida’s governor directed them to be put on a plane with the promise of work and housing opportunities in sanctuary destinations
. A stunt without regard to these individuals as human beings. They weren’t armed with anything but hope. They boarded the plane without a toothbrush, money, or clothes, but with the promise something would be at the other end, yet nothing was at the other end. They arrived in Martha’s Vineyard without any advance notice or preparation. They were not illegal aliens. They were legally permitted to remain in the U.S. while pursuing asylum. I believe these people wanted to belong to the collective story of the American dream. Except for those who wish to destroy the choices and opportunities that dream constitutes, who would not want to be included in that dream?
Inclusion is a positive practice of life and leadership, to be sure. If you think deeper into all the ways the past few years alone have tested us – taking us to the edge of our very survival in many places—you will probably come to the same conclusion that division and isolation will get us nowhere in solving any seemingly insurmountable, profound challenges. We need all brains belonging and thinking. Our connection will power the electrical currents of our greatest potential yet to be realized and displayed. The stories and strategies herein will get us closer to the big