Happy Death Club: Essays on Death, Grief & Bereavement Across Cultures
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This Inkling combines academic study with memoir to discuss the popularity of murder as entertainment in true crime podcasts; women working in the death industry; Naomi's love of horror and what it's like writing horror movies for a living when your mum was maybe murdered; the rise of death peer support groups; and death rituals in other countries. Happy Death Club provides a frank, touching and sometimes hilarious look at death, grief, and bereavement.
Naomi Westerman
Naomi Westerman is a playwright and former anthropologist. As an anthropologist, Naomi studied death rituals around the world, also working on mental health and gender. She changed careers and became a professional writer in 2015, and since then her work has been widely performed at theatres in London and across the UK and internationally, including in the West End and off-Broadway. Her first TV series 'The Faulty Elephants', a comedy-drama about the world's first all-disabled criminal heist gang, is currently in development. She is a recipient of the Royal Society of Literature Award, the Michael Grandage Futures Bursary, the Derby Theatre / In Good Co Mid-Career Commission Award, and was a finalist for the Theatre Uncut Political Playwriting Award at the Young Vic. Her play 'Batman' is currently running in London, community project 'Mudlarking' opens at the Bush Theatre in March 2023, and her play 'Puppy' runs Oct-Nov 2023 in London. Happy Death Club is her first non-fiction book.
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Happy Death Club - Naomi Westerman
Happy Death Club
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Happy Death Club
Essays on Death, Grief & Bereavement Across Cultures
Naomi Westerman
This book is dedicated to my enemies.
One day all of you will be dead.
In memory of my mum and dad.
And for J – I’m really glad neither of us is dead yet.
Contents
Content note
Spoilers
Introduction
Chapter 1: The Rat King of South London
Chapter 2: The Ashes World Tour
Chapter 3: The Price of Death, or Benedict Cumberbatch’s Taxidermied Corpse
Horror and Feminism and Grief, Oh My!
Chapter 5: Death and the Maiden
Chapter 6: Fear and Loathing in Mexico City
Chapter 7: Your Murder is Sponsored by Hello Fresh
Chapter 8: Batman
Chapter 9: Happy Death Club
Conclusion
References
Additional references of interest
Acknowledgements
About the Author
About the Inklings series
Content note
Happy Death Club contains repeated mentions of: death, visceral gore, human remains, cannibalism, suicidal ideation, murder, and more.
Spoilers
There are spoilers in the first half of Chapter 4 for the following films: Happy Death Day, Happy Death Day 2U, Friday the 13th, Scream, Get Out, Psycho, Shaun of the Dead, Don’t Look Now, Lake Mungo, A Dark Song, A Quiet Place, The Witch, mother!, Goodnight Mommy, The Haunting of Julia, Antichrist, Hereditary, We Are Still Here, Pet Sematary, The Changeling, Prevenge
There is also a spoiler in Chapter 7 for Netflix’s American Nightmare.
Introduction
I started writing this book in North East Wales in midwinter. The day I started writing, staring at a blank notebook and thinking about putting words in it, I took a bus across Snowdonia. Coming back, the bus pulled into a garage in a village halfway up a mountain. The bus emptied. The driver left, but with engine running and lights still on. The sign on the bus said ‘Aberystwyth’ so I sat, and sat, and nearly gave the bus driver a heart attack when he returned and saw small ghostly figure. I’d missed the last transfer, low bridges requiring a change from one number 72 to a completely different 72 that you’re just supposed to know about, that everyone in rural Wales does know about. He adopted me and took me into the cosy rabbit warren of the bus drivers’ office, which was improbably full of fruit. The driver explained it was ‘Fruity Wednesday’, a health initiative created by First Bus to combat the tendency their drivers have to have heart attacks and die. Once a week, all bus depots and garages are sent crates of free fruit. The bus drivers do not like Fruity Wednesday. They would rather have proper paid time off. As they filled my pockets with satsumas and plums, a rescue plan developed. If the last train to Aber leaves at 10pm from X which is Y miles away, what grade did I get in my maths GCSE?
I was chauffeured by private bus to a local pub and left with strict instructions not to move until 9.40pm, when I was to walk to the bus stop and tell the driver, ‘Big Dave says, Go really fast to catch the last train from Machynlleth.
’ Then I realised that I’m a grown-up and can just call a cab, which is when the adventure really started. Running in the dark to the village’s only cash point, I met with the village’s only cab driver, who in friendly Welsh manner asked me what I was doing there. I told him I was writing a book about death and grief, and the way grief can bring people together. He said, empathically, ‘I know all about that!’, the exclamation mark so palpable as to demand further questioning. He told me about the death of his teenage son in a car crash a decade before. That 323 people had passed through his front door between the death and the funeral; 1,200 at the funeral. The mark this loss had left on him, on the village, still visible years later. The community rallying around.
I don’t know why it should surprise me that on the first day of starting to write this book I should meet someone so profoundly affected by a loss. It’s a universal experience, even if it’s one we don’t always talk about. But it felt meaningful, somehow. This taciturn Welshman who told me he only read books about sporting heroes (but would ‘give mine a go’), opening up to a lost English woman in the back of his cab racing down unlit lanes that freezing December night. Sharing his grief, the love and strength of his community, with an outsider. Meeting this man felt like kismet, made me feel that writing a book about death could be meaningful.
I had a fairly chaotic upbringing and left education before my thirteenth birthday, spending time homeless as a teen, then sat exams as an adult before starting university as a mature student. I progressed to an MSc in anthropology, a second MSc in neuroscience, and started a PhD. I found my niche in the darker aspects of academia: mental illness, gender and death. I wrote papers on endocannibalism in the Amazon, on what dead animals say about living humans. I studied funeral rites in China and grappled with anthropology’s colonial past. I started working at the Natural History Museum in London, surrounded by dead things.
And then my aunt died. Her name was Jean and she was born brain damaged. My grandmother took care of her 24/7, for sixty years. Then my grandmother Edie died, nearly ninety, at a funeral where her siblings brought Tupperware and fought over who’d take the cakes home from the wake. Like ninepins they all fell. My dad Roy dropped dead of an