TU12: If It’s Not Good For You; It’s Not Good for Us – Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin

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TU12: If It’s Not Good For You; It’s Not Good for Us – Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin

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Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother.

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Nov 1, 2016

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Use the science of the mind and relationships to update your understanding of yourself and those you love – candid conversations with 2 Austin therapists and their guest experts.

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TU30: The Stages of Change: A Roadmap to Readiness: We all know it doesn’t happen until we're ready for it, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to ram change down our loved one’s throat. This episode will help us be smarter, kinder, and more importantly, make change more effective for those we love. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal System: Tips and tricks to manipulate your nervous system by increasing perceived safety and disarming the sense of threat- the Polyvagal Theory revisited. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU13: Our Powerful Fascination With Narcissism In The Era Of Trump: In-depth discussion on narcissism in our current political climate with Dr Leonard Cruz and Dr Steven Buser by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff: Self compassion includes fierce accountability and is essential to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but in this episode our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self compassion. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU10: The 7 Circuits of Emotion: What Animals Can Teach Us about Human Relating: Get your squeak on! The rat tickler's research on human emotions. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU14: How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And Beyond: The surprising election results ave created deep passions which threaten to upend families, divide neighbors and strain work relationships. Understand powerful political passions and how to navigate them. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin: Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU09: Minding Your Relationship: Three Mindfulness Exercises to Practice With Your Partner: Learn specific tips on engaging with your partner that can immediately increase relationship satisfaction for both of you. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU21: Reduce Drama in Your Life – Unpack The Victim Perpetrator Rescuer In Us All: Victim Perpetrator Rescuer? Rigid, self-defeating or even self-satisfying roles can limit our happiness in life at times. Learn more about theses three roles we all carry inside us and how we can transform them to make us stronger and happier. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU06: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships (continued) Part 2: Attachment 102 Part 2: This isn’t parent-blaming, it’s compassionate truth-telling so we can do it right this go round. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU17: The Biology of Motivation and Habits: Why We Drop the Ball: Why do we struggle to break and form habits? The neuroscience behind our fight to form and break habits. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in Relationships: How fostering social engagement enhances health and wellbeing by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU28: Minding Anxiety: How To Reduce Noise In The System: We explore a three step process for finding relief from continuous worry and anxiety. Don't let your primitive brain hijack your emotions - this episode goes into more detail about the process of managing worry and anxiety. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU15: Decoding The Science Of Interpersonal Neurobiology: Explained in plain speak. Unpack the complicated science behind the brain the mind and secure relating. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU20: Developing Racial Identity With Guests Rudy Lucas And Christine Schmidt: Help is here for having those uncomfortable conversations... like whether or not there such a thing as reverse-racism, what's going on when people ask about white lives matter, how is racism different than prejudice, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU08: Understanding Emotional Triggers: Why Your Buttons Get Pushed and What To Do About It: Therapists explain the neuroscience behind emotional over-reactivity. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal Neurobiology: Listen to our conversation with therapists from Austin In Connection - recorded live! We joined Austin In Connection for their Year of Conversations meeting to explore the foundations of relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU27: Raising Secure Children With Guest Tina Payne Bryson: New York Times best-selling author Tina Payne Bryson shares her experience as a parent and clinician on parenting with the brain in mind. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU22: Love Letter To Group Psychotherapy: Group therapist tell us why they love group therapy and why it is valuable to their clients by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
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TU12: If It’s Not Good For You; It’s Not Good for Us – Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin

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