Fear of Failure

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Fear of Failure

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After too many setbacks and struggles, it’s tempting to want to avoid future failures. Sometimes we mask our fears with apathy, sometimes we even fear success. As easy as it is to fear failure, you don’t have to.

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Jun 10, 2014

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