My two guests on today's show flew to my home in Spokane to train me and my wife Jessa in some very special forms of breath work training that they specialize in, particularly for couples and tantric sex, but also for trauma, emotional release and much more. Stefanos Sifandos describes himself as a relational alchemist, international speaker, and author who facilitates transformational growth through neuro-empowerment practices, an integration of spiritual praxis, and western psychology to improve, evolve, and enhance the quality of relationships. By integrating the best of Eastern and Western methodologies and philosophies, and using integrative techniques methods, Stefanos has created programs and systems to enhance the quality of your life, your relationship, and, in essence, bring them closer to their potential. Christine Hassler is a best-selling author, keynote speaker, master coach, and podcast host who is committed to guiding people and organizations into their highest potential. She left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about, but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. Her thirst for personal development continued as she dived into self-help books, attended seminars and retreats, got trained in neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and eventually pursued her master’s degree in spiritual psychology with an emphasis in consciousness, health, and healing from the University of Santa Monica. As a student (and eventually, faculty member), Christine found that the principles she learned at the USM were foundational to her life and work. In 2005, she wrote her first book 20 Something 20 Everything, and then the 20 Something Manifesto in 2008. Her latest best-selling book, Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself from Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What You Really Want, is the guidebook for how to treat disappointment on the emotional, mental, behavioral, and spiritual levels. The breath work course we discuss in detail in the show is their Breathwork and Meditation Series (use code BEN to save $30). During this discussion, you'll discover: -What a "relational alchemist" is...08:15 Moving from an undesirable place in a relationship to what you love What's not giving us clarity is a sense of unresolved pain, trauma, fear First build safety, rapport, trust between Stefanos and his clients -The role of breathwork in Stefanos' practice...10:15 Recommended by a friend during a turbulent personal time Similar to Holotropic breathwork Transcended analytical elements of the mind Breathwork complemented psychedelics Stefanos had used Magic Chocolate, Holotropic Breathwork, Grounding, Earthing, Vortexes, Crystals & More With Shamangelic Healer Anahata Ananda. SOMA Breathwork protocol Breathwork allows the user more control than things like psychedelics Stanislav Grof Not as much "rebuilding" is needed as is the case with psychedelics -How Christine became a life coach...15:55 Began life coaching in 2004 Blend coaching with psychology Identify the emotional root cause of an issue "I've been my own best client" Left successful career in Hollywood Masked insecurity by being an overachiever Wrote first book 20 Something 20 Everything shortly after becoming a life coach Grain Brain by David Perlmutter Labels create limitations -How Christine and Stefanos met...23:00 Both were tired of uncommitted relationships prior to meeting Nice to have the emotional intimacy prior to meeting physically Article: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love -The protocols Stefanos and Christine did with Ben and Jessa this past August...31:45 A few of the questions: "When I look at you, I see..." "When you look at me, I think you see..." (perception checking) "When you look at me, I want you to see..." (how we want to be perceived) "When I feel most angry, sad, etc." Get the intimacy ba