This week on How to Love Your Body we will be tackling the complete UnDiet process so you know what to expect the journey to look like.

There are 5 phases of the UnDiet process - the first you are likely well aware of and most of you are probably swimming around in it and the following 4 phases might sound familiar but their sequence and details are vital to getting to a place that is intuitive, free from restricting and dieting completely but still feels good - wellness without the obsession.

Next week we will be tackling the #1 fear on this journey - and that is weight gain or not losing weight… but for now we will be demonstrating the phases of the undiet process and these phases are HOW you can find balance in the end.

There is a worksheet that goes with this episode so you can track the 5 phases and take notes on where you are and what your next steps might be. You can grab this at thebodylovesociety.com/76

 

Phase 1: The Initial Exit 

 

It looks like this -

First you’re swirling around the diet cycle for years - restrict/binge, all or nothing thinking, on WW or meal plans, keto or “eating clean”...

And then there does come a day when you JUST CANNOT DO THIS ANYMORE!

Perhaps hearing about intuitive eating or the non diet approach gets you to officially quit or you stop because you just can’t do it anymore and then begin looking into things and discover intuitive eating and body positivity….

Okay great so you’re officially no longer on a diet, technically, and then comes…. The information overload..

You listen to 5 different intuitive eating/ body positive podcasts, you’ve read all the major books, you’re in 3 different IE facebook groups, you’re following a ton of body positive instagram accounts…

Okay here you are - you know some stuff, a lot of stuff….

But it’s just that… knowledge… and it hasn’t converted to food freedom, body love or embodying intuitive eating..

But this is the beginning and it's so vital.

You’ve exited the diets (technically) and now you know what makes sense and what you want for yourself… to be at peace with food, for eating to be easy, to stop binge eating, to feel good and have wellness without the obsession.

This leads us into Phase 2: The Diet Mentality Detox

You may have done cleanses in the past but this one is different (and the only one that will actually work).

The way we think in a diet is what makes exiting the cycle hard - it’s why we can’t just decide to stop dieting and magically be balanced and intuitive once we quit.

So what needs to happen here before we move forward?

Here are the changes that need to occur:

 

-  Diet talk needs to transform to UnDiet talk (language, thoughts and beliefs need to shift)

-  Getting rid of diet triggers - clearing your space

- focus shifts from how to look to how you feel

- releasing all or nothing thinking and the other most common dieting mindsets





This phase results in:

Stop thinking about food all day

Diet rules fade away

Clearer mind instead of the constant diet chatter



Phase 3: The Inner Self Work 

Once we begin thinking differently there is another layer that needs to be added -- deeper work involving:

Self worth

Self acceptance

Self love


A part of this is body acceptance and we of course love the term body love but it’s often misconstrued.

We don’t mean you now need to love your body and the way it looks all the time…

Honestly, the way your body looks is the least interesting thing about you.

WHO you are is what is interesting and it’s what we want to focus on.

Finding worth in ourselves APART from our bodies (because whether you lose weight, gain weight or stay the same on this journey, you’re going to want to be okay regardless. 

Self acceptance does not mean - face it lady, you’ll be this way forever, get over it.

What it does mean is -- Hi, you are you in this moment, and you’re in the only body you’ll ever have so instead of fighting against reality, let’s work with what we got! (This skill