Self-sabotage can be one of the most damaging behaviors in our lives, especially when it comes to our money. Thankfully, Savvy Psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen helps us all get self-sabotage to stand down. She says giving up isn’t failure if it moves us forward — cutting our losses is sometimes the best choice. In Mailbag, what to do with unused gift cards, how long you need to keep the paperwork when you sell your home, and permanent life insurance.