Podcast #479
 
HOW TO STOP SETTLING
 





 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we're talking about.
 


How to know if you are settling or putting up with less than you deserveThe 4 reasons we settle: fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of unworthiness, fear of embarrassment2 sets of things to start + stop + keep to help you stop settlingWhat to do to start creating change


 
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HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE SETTLING:
 


Here's how to know whether you're putting up with less than you deserve: 



When you have to work yourself into a state of excitement rather than naturally experiencing joy and passion, you're probably settling. When you bargain with yourself about what you can do without rather than feeling gratitude for what you already have, you're probably settling. When your focus is on the time and energy you've invested in an endeavor rather than the love, joy and gratification you've gained, you're probably settling. When you're making excuses about why you should stay put rather than going for what you truly want, you're probably settling. When you spend more time complaining about what you have than appreciating it, you're definitely settling. 


 
WHY WE SETTLE:
 


We settle because we don't think we deserve anything better.



Fundamentally, we settle because we don't trust that God has something better for us.



We settle because we have lost our imagination



We got too focused on what is "realistic".



We settle because we are afraid of being disappointed.



It depends upon your reasons and your goals



We settle because we refuse to fail.


 
QUOTES ON COURAGE: COURAGE IS THE ANTIDOTE TO THE SPIRIT OF SETTLING
 


Courage is the commitment to begin without any guarantee of success.



-Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe



Success is not final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.



-Winston Churchill



Courage is the most important of all virtue because without courage, you can't practice any other virtue consistently.



-Maya Angelou



Do what you can, with what you have, where you are .



-Teddy Roosevelt



If one has courage, nothing can dim the light that shines from within.



-Maya Angelou


 
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