Once you recognize that you and/or your partner are caught in a "Trauma Response," HOW can you intentionally move into a place of "Relationship Authenticity"?  Assuming you have completed and openly discussed your "trauma map," proceed as follows— -  Take a break from the situation—the people involved and/or the environment and circumstances.-  Pursue some sort of grounding self-care, i.e., Journaling; Talking it out with someone NOT involved; Some sort of recharging self-care (not avoidance-based)-  Ask yourself: Why does may brain use this particular trauma Response—Where did it come from?  What does it do for me?  What might be some healthy alternatives?-  Set a time for yourself and/or the other person to come back—Establish ground rules for how long you will work in that “trauma space;  establish ground rules for taking a break again as needed.This episode is "Part Two" on this topic.Learn more about Mark and Steve's new online program—"Dare to Connect!" You have live access to Mark and Steve three times a week--addicts, spouses and couples! Visit—daretoconnectnow.comFind out more about Steve Moore at:  Ascension CounselingLearn more about Mark Kastleman at:  Reclaim Counseling ServicesHere's an article about how to HEAL from Betrayal Trauma—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/healing-betrayal-trauma-videoHere's an article about overcoming porn and sex addiction—https://www.reclaimcounselingservices.com/overcome-porn-sex-addiction