We all need co-regulation.Me.  You.When our kids are getting dysregulated quickly, flipping their lids a lot, or having mountain reactions out of mole-hill sized problems, what they need is more connection and co-regulation.This is true for grown-ups, too!There is nothing wrong with you because you flip your lid.  Your not a bad parent.  You don't need to doubt your integrity.  You want to stay regulated and present, and you are trying.  If you know how you want to parent but are struggling to actually parent that way, you need more connection and co-regulation.  If your brain stays more integrated and less likely to 'flip it's lid' you'll be able to use all those parenting tools you have stored in your upstairs thinking brain! (In the course, Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and Brain, I call it the Owl brain).In this episode, I normalize the need for co-regulation (nothing to feel ashamed about in being human!) and explore how co-regulation can be active or passive.  Turn to the people who offer you co-regulation!  And if you need support in intentionally cultivating your circle of support, we are waiting for you over in The Club.   Offering connection and co-regulation is the explicit purpose of The Club.  Sure, we offer parenting tools too, and create a space to really explore the model of providing regulation, connection, and felt-safety to support our kid with their challenging behaviors.  But The Club is so much more than that.  It's a space for you to be seen, felt, and known.  It's a space to undo aloneness.  CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members*****Not sure where to start?  With 100 episodes, it's hard to know what episodes to listen to first!The START HERE private podcast takes the guess-work out.  I curated the 10 episodes I think you should listen to first. Because it's a special private podcast, It's only available by invitation- so head over to RobynGobbel.com/StartHere to get yours.  You'll then be able to listen in whatever podcast player you use! *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ are now open!  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith