Melissa Urban is the Co-Founder & CEO of the Whole 30 and a New York Times best-selling author.  Her latest book, “The Book of Boundaries” shows you how boundaries are the key to better mental health, increased energy, improved productivity, and more fulfilling relationships.  We discuss the book in depth in this episode including signals for setting boundaries, setting boundaries in different settings, food & drink boundaries, being clear and kind and more! 0:00:00 - Intro0:00:54 - New Book "Book of Boundaries" 0:03:45 - How Melissa Became "The Boundary Lady" 0:04:41 - Apologizing & Guilt for Boundaries 0:07:10 - Respecting Boundaries & Expanding Life 0:09:07 - Signals for Needing to Set a Boundary 0:11:40 - Self Boundaries & Understanding Yourself 0:15:03 - Starting with Whole 30 or Boundaries? 0:16:40 - Simplicity of Setting Boundaries 0:18:15 - Communication & "Clear & Kind"0:20:03 - Boundaries & Dating 0:22:55 - Boundaries & Flexibility 0:24:22 - Holding Boundaries 0:26:05 - Threat Levels for Boundaries 0:28:54 - Work Based Boundaries & Quiet Quitting 0:34:06 - Setting Boundaries with Family 0:35:55 - Boundaries with Pets? 0:36:43 - Emotional Vampires & Narcissists 0:38:34 - Soap Opera Star, Controller & Victim0:39:30 - Friend Break-Ups 0:41:40 - You Can Do It Anyway You Want 0:44:16 - Co-Parenting Boundaries 0:46:23 - Food & Drink Boundaries 0:51:23 - Sensitive Subjects 0:52:50 - Setting Boundaries with Yourself 0:54:22 - People Not Liking Boundaries 0:56:45 - Hardest Boundaries 0:58:16 - Extreme Boundaries 1:00:30 - Utah Food Bank 1:01:17 - Outro Melissa Urban website:https://www.melissau.com/Utah Food Bank website:https://www.utahfoodbank.org/Chuck Shute website:http://chuckshute.com/Support the show