28. How Confessing Your Thoughts to your Partner is Making your ROCD worse

1. How I Broke Free From Relationship Anxiety: After years of having doubts in my (now) 8-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from... by The Anxious Love Coach

36 min listen

4. The "Trust Your Gut" Debunk with Chelsea Joy Horton: When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD... by The Anxious Love Coach

63 min listen

24. The Shadow Side of Gratitude Practices in Relationships: I often observe people struggling with relationship anxiety attempt to focus on the good components of the relationship as a way to make themselves feel more good and certain around the relationship and feel less doubt. While gratitude practices in... by The Anxious Love Coach

28 min listen

15. Why Your Partner Can’t Meet All (or Even Most) of Your Needs: This one comes deep from personal, local, and recent experience from my heart. When we are feeling starved in multiple aspects of our lives, it's common to look to our partners to fill in the gaps. In this episode, I make a point to help you identify... by The Anxious Love Coach

41 min listen

7. What an actual ROCD "Breakthrough" looks like!: In this episode, I interview one of my incredible coaching and meditation clients, Shannon, who came to me struggling with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety. She shares what her awakening process looked like without the fluff, and the new wisdom... by The Anxious Love Coach

24 min listen

23. The worst place to find relationship advice: This podcast episode was recorded on Instagram live after I was inspired by a conversation with a client, where she and I discussed the worst places to find relationship advice and why -- and where to find good relationship advice instead. ... by The Anxious Love Coach

25 min listen

9. How to Stop Being Controlling With Your Partner: You’re not attracted to a partner you control — and controlling behavior is a common way to avoid feeling “out of control.” However, it’s a huge contributor to feelings of dissatisfaction and disgust in relationship and ROCD. In this... by The Anxious Love Coach

39 min listen

17. Are you setting a boundary or are you manipulating? with Mollie Birney: This is a juicy one and very humbling. In this episode, I chat with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about the difference between autonomy-respecting boundaries and manipulative boundaries, how to know if you're showing up with an... by The Anxious Love Coach

45 min listen

3. Sex anxiety: when you don't feel like having sex: In this episode, I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom. by The Anxious Love Coach

33 min listen

2. Live on Instagram: What to do when you're attracted to someone else: We're talking what to do if your relationship anxiety causes you to be attracted to someone else! "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you truly loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second." I... by The Anxious Love Coach

39 min listen

8. So you fell out of love: In a culture of cancellation that tells you to leave when you're not feeling it, the perspective to stay and do a deep dive into yourself instead of dropping out of the relationship, may be a controversial one. In this episode we normalize falling out... by The Anxious Love Coach

52 min listen

19. Wisdom on relationships from the aunt we've always needed: I'm honored to bring my aunt, Diane Sigala, onto Anxious Love Coach today. In the throes of relationship anxiety, my aunt was a regular phone call I made to help me understand relationships (and men!) better. This is a delicious and sweet episode... by The Anxious Love Coach

49 min listen

43: IG Live: What you need to know about reality TV dating shows like Love Is Blind: In this podcast, Sheridan (ALC's wonderful co-coach) discusses the following: - Why reality TV (such as Love Is Blind, Married At First Sight, The Ultimatum, 90 day Fiance) based around relationships trigger you - The truth about the contestant's... by The Anxious Love Coach

42 min listen

12: The Best Gift to Give Your Relationship Anxiety this Season: There is one thing that so many people with relationship anxiety struggle to give themselves... and in this episode, I cover exactly that while hopping live in my exclusive Facebook group, The Anxious Love Coach Collective -- link to join in the show... by The Anxious Love Coach

43 min listen

14: When Your Partner has a Low Vibe and is Bringing You Down: When your partner is operating at what we might call a "low vibe," it's only natural our attraction will wane for the time being. We might take the lack of attraction we feel in that circumstance at face value and panic about whether we're in the... by The Anxious Love Coach

38 min listen

38. Self-pleasure as the path to sexual awakening with Luci Lampe: I am thrilled to welcome a dear friend, mentor, and previous guest of mine — Luci Lampe. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible... by The Anxious Love Coach

71 min listen

5. When people say "Maybe you should leave": When I was in the thick of Relationship Anxiety, comments like: "maybe you should leave" "maybe he's just not the right person for you" "you're young, maybe you just need to explore" were enough to send me into a gut-wrenching spiral of anxiety. In... by The Anxious Love Coach

30 min listen

18. Maintaining a sexual connection when your partner is depressed with Luci Lampe: If your partner is going through a dark phase and isn't able to be your rock, it's challenging to maintain an erotic connection or spark. If you're in the thick of this, there's hope-- and you're going to want to listen to this raw deep dive with... by The Anxious Love Coach

61 min listen

6. Ever worry you're a narcissist?: One of my biggest fears in the past was that I'd be perceived as a narcissist. I resorted to frequent people-pleasing so people could think I was "good" in order to try and prevent this. Problem is, it led me to being more resentful and self-centered... by The Anxious Love Coach

43 min listen

27. I don’t always know what I’m doing in relationships either, guys: This is a raw and real voice text I recorded on my walk. I discuss the challenges/uncertainties of being a relationship coach. This episode includes my thoughts on this work, why uncertainty and doubt are absolute critical pieces to being open-minded,... by The Anxious Love Coach

14 min listen

59: How the pressure to have an amazing honeymoon/vacation can ruin it: In this episode, I talk about the trap of “more is better” embedded in the honeymoon/vacation expectation and how that played out in our own honeymoon. It is my hope you can avoid this trap on your vacations! If you want to attend my retreats in... by The Anxious Love Coach

40 min listen

13. "Settling": The word that destroys great relationships: Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for... by The Anxious Love Coach

39 min listen

11: Why Relationship Anxiety Can Spike During the Holidays: I tried to break up multiple times with both my long-term partners of whom I experienced ROCD with -- and a hard majority of those "pull-aways" happened around the holidays. Back then the timing seemed so random, but I see today something much... by The Anxious Love Coach

41 min listen

25. Awakening Through Your Womb Space with Tantric Arts Teacher Shayna Hiller: I'm overjoyed and humbled to bring on someone hugely impactful in my life. Shayna Hiller is a yoga and tantric arts teacher living in Venice Beach, California. Shayna has also been a business coach for me in the past and is one of the reasons I... by The Anxious Love Coach

55 min listen

16. The Paradox of Cuteness in Relationships: Have you ever been disgusted by your partner being cute with you? This episode might not be for everyone -- but if you and your partner adore cute things and sometimes you start wishing things got more "intellectual" or "adult-like", I've put a lot of... by The Anxious Love Coach

31 min listen

33. How grief often hides under relationship anxiety with Sheridan Ruth: In this episode, my co-coach Sheridan and I explore the role of grief in unpacking anxiety within healthy, loving, flawed partnerships. It is so important to not take every thought at face value, but to dig deeper! by The Anxious Love Coach

62 min listen

32. A message to our non-binary/LGBTQ folks: This episode has been needed for SO long! I'm aware that I most often speak to people who identify as women that are in relationships with people who identify as men. In this episode, I speak to why and also share ways to expand the conversation since... by The Anxious Love Coach

33 min listen

22. Self-conscious of how others view your partner? with Chelsea Horton: Have you formed an alliance with society/family/friends or with your partner? In this episode, Chelsea Horton, Relationship Anxiety Specialist and dance therapist, joins me on IG live as we explain what's really happening when we feel embarrassed by... by The Anxious Love Coach

49 min listen

10. The Truth about Independence with Mollie Birney, MA by The Anxious Love Coach

50 min listen

45: Listen to this if your partner watches porn: A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with... by The Anxious Love Coach

54 min listen

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