49: 3 tips to overcome jealousy

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49: 3 tips to overcome jealousy

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Dec 19, 2022

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In this episode, I cover what causes jealousy in partnership, why it isn’t something to get rid of, and how to transform it into a gift rather than a hindrance to your relationship. BOTH FEET IN: AUSTRIA – email me. I dropped my email in the episode. :-)

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Dec 19, 2022

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Here we talk relationship anxiety, ROCD, and upgrading love partnerships-- how to go from DOUBTING your relationship to LOVING it and gushing about your man.

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