In the 81st episode of The Strength Connection Podcast, Mike and our special guest Creator of Coach Sportland, Speed Coach and Mentor, Sam Portland, will talk about Sam’s rugby background, his submissive nature in sports, losing the unconscious motivation, and more.Join us in this insightful and captivating talk! In this chapter, you will discover: (0:55) Introducing our special guest Creator of Coach Sportland, Speed Coach and Mentor, Sam Portland @coach_portland(1:50) The Strength Connection: EP 66 - Sam Portland: Speed Sportland(3:20) The importance of mindset in training(3:55) Playing non-contact rugby(4:40) Singing up to rugby(4:50) Being skinny(5:30) Sam’s problem with defense(6:45) Deliberately practicing tackle(7:10) Not progressing in the game(8:15) Why couldn't Sam tackle?(8:20) Being submissive even in judo(9:30) Having nowhere to hide(10:20) “The biggest thing that takes the hit when you're exposed is your own self-esteem.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(11:30) Mike’s basketball story(13:10) The associative risk and violence in sports(13:20) “The more risk that the sport requires, the more violence is necessary.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(13:30) “You can't survive collisions if you're not committed to it.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(15:05) Mindset cliches(16:15) “The illusion of mindset is that you actually believe you're in control of all the things that you do.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(17:45) Infiltrating a belief system(20:00) “The most important thing you can give an athlete is a belief.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(22:30) Surrendering the control(23:00) Time and space(24:30) “Language is only the combination of 5 simple sounds.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(25:05) Sam’s thoughts about performance: Then vs. Now(25:25) About one of Sam’s client(26:50) Only experience matters!(27:40) Not going back(28:20) Shout out to Alex Gray @alexander_thegrayt(28:45) Rocky Balboahttps://www.imdb.com/title/tt0479143/ (31:30) Why do you have to surrender?(32:00) People watcher(34:00) Sam’s peace(34:30) “If you are so narrow then you miss everything.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(35:00) Sam’s first experience with therapy(36:10) Sam’s experience: Then vs. Now(36:30) “The fight never stops. The fight just changes.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(37:15) About Sam’s late brother(39:30) The unconscious motivation(40:20) Feeling lost after his brother’s death(41:35) December 27th(43:10) Unpacking the baggage(43:30) The funeral (43:55) Going to Mount Everest(44:05) The relief from being on the field(44:55) Life changes(45:50) Becoming the oldest child(47:10) Monthly therapy(48:10) Losing motivation (48:40) How did Sam get into therapy?(49:10) Calling bereavement helpline(50:30) Breaking through the pain(50:50) Feeling “attracted” to Donna(53:00) Guided meditation for pregnant women(53:35) “You can’t do anything alone.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(55:10) “Therapy about recognizing that pain and knowing that your best days are ahead of you, and that you're stronger than what this pain in your past was.” - Michael Kurkowski @mike_strength_connection(56:20) “The most noble pursuit of mastery is mastery of self.” - Sam Portland @coach_sportland(56:45) Where to find Sam Portland? @coach_sportlandhttps://coachsportland.co.uk/