Episode 251: Why Our Level of Influence Depends on Our Level of Yuck

Episode 317: When You Want Your Child to Change More Quickly: It can be exhausting to parent children with big emotions -- especially when it feels like our efforts to improve behavior, moods, and attitudes take longer than we would like. Even if we understand (in our minds) that it takes time for our kids to... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 316: Trouble Getting Your Child Off of Screens? Here's What It May Be Like For Them: One of the most common reasons for big emotions in our homes is related to asking our children to get off of their devices. And let's be real: They DO have to learn to get off of their devices without acting like it's the end of the world! But most... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 315: How to Handle Screens in the Summer With Children With Big Emotions: This time of year, navigating the use of screens can be a real challenge -- especially when you’re raising children with big emotions. The summer can start off feeling more relaxed, but then come the power struggles over how long children can be on... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 314: Plug An “Influence Leak”: Stop Trying to Get Your Child to See Why What They’re Doing is Wrong: Of course we want our children to listen to us when we ask them to do what they’re supposed to do or when we ask them to act maturely in situations that don’t go their way. But often when we try to get our kids to listen to us, we do it in... by Your Parenting Long Game

19 min listen

Episode 313: Plugging an “Influence Leak” - Lack of Predictability: As parents, we want to be able to influence our children. And we can feel helpless and out of control when we try to help our kids feel or act better… and we can’t make it happen. One of the most common ways that we “leak” influence... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 312: Plugging an “Influence Leak” - Recognizing Your Expectations: As parents, we want to be able to motivate our kids to act more responsible and handle situations more effectively. And we can feel helpless and out of control when we aren’t able to make that happen. Unfortunately, we will feel helpless and out of... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

A Simplified Roadmap to Peace, Resilience, and Confidence (Step 2 of 2): We want to be able to influence our kids. We want them to listen to us, and we want to be able to calm them down so they can work through situations with less drama. So it can be challenging when our attempts to influence them don't work… or even... by Your Parenting Long Game

20 min listen

Episode 310: A Simplified Roadmap to Peace, Resilience, and Confidence (Step 1 of 2): Most of us crave more calm in our homes. But what do we do when there is drama on an almost-daily basis and nothing we try makes a difference in our child’s behavior? Is it possible to reduce the drama and feel more confident in our parenting... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 309: Using Yuck Dumps for Kids to Improve Behaviors, Moods, Attitudes: It’s natural to want our kids’ negative behaviors, moods, and behaviors to stop. But what happens when nothing we do seems to end the drama? How can we break out of the cycles of negativity? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why “quick... by Your Parenting Long Game

17 min listen

Episode 308: How to Stop Using Willpower to Try to Stay Calm (When You’re Actually Upset With Your Kids): We know it’s better to stay calm when our children have big feelings, but it seems like some days, we can only hold on for so long when they are complaining, crying, or melting down. How can we help our kids handle their discomfort when their... by Your Parenting Long Game

17 min listen

Episode 307: Why You’re Not A Failure (What’s Really Going On Instead): Most of us have an idea of how we'd like to interact with our kids. But often when we're tired or frustrated, we don't react in a way that feels good. And when situations with our kids frequently spiral out of control, it’s natural to feel like we... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 306: When Your Child Gets Upset When Others Are Upset: We talk a lot about BIG reactions when our kids have big feelings, but what about quiet, sensitive children who struggle when other people around them are upset? Often these children will do anything they can in order to make others feel better. To... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 305: You'll Lose Your Cool Less Often When You Do This: When we’re raising kids with big feelings, it can be hard to stay emotionally regulated all of the time. How can we be the parent we want to be when it’s hard not to lose our cool? How can we teach our kids how to stay calm when we’re struggling... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 304: When Family Members Get Caught In Negative Cycles: We want our days to be filled with peace and connection, but those of us raising kids with big emotions know that’s not always the reality. Even when we try hard to fix the arguing, complaining, and general resistance to our requests, it can feel... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 303: A Strategy to Decode Children’s Confusing Reactions: It can be overwhelming navigating the constantly-changing emotions and reactions of children who feel things strongly. One minute they’re happy and the next, they are melting down about something that’s not even a big deal! We want to reduce the... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 302: Micro-Deposits: Strengthen Your Relationship & Influence, Even If Your Child Is Resistant: Even when you try to make deposits with your children, sometimes you run into obstacles. You may feel particularly stuck if your child resists the attempts you are trying to make to connect with them! When that happens, using micro-deposits can help... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 301: Raise Children Who Are Resilient, Not Entitled: Because our children struggle with challenging situations and feelings, we want to give them what they need to be resilient. But if we’re being honest, sometimes it's easier in the moment to give them what they WANT instead of what they NEED to be... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 300: Sharing Details About My Life: Today we are celebrating our 300th episode with a more personal episode as I respond to listener-submitted questions. If you’ve ever wanted to learn a little more than the parenting tips I share, you’ll be able to do that now! In this... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 299: Stop Trying to Get Your Children to Change Their Behavior or Moods: When our children are having big emotions or behaviors, it’s natural to want those big feelings and behaviors to stop so that there is more fighting, no more disrespectful attitudes, no more drama. Unfortunately, there’s one problem: We can’t... by Your Parenting Long Game

15 min listen

Episode 298: How to be a Powerful Positive Influence When Your Child Is Upset or Not Listening: Why do some kids listen more to one parent than another? Why do some kids seem to calm down more quickly around one parent than another? Often the difference is that one parent is a powerful positive influence, while the other isn’t. The good news... by Your Parenting Long Game

19 min listen

Episode 297: Why Our Kids With Big Emotions Need Us to Have Firm Boundaries: Many people confuse “respectful parenting” with permissive parenting, thinking that respectful parents give into the whims of their children to make them feel good. But caving to our kids’ feelings and reactions is not respectful…to them or to... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 296: My Parenting "Fails" (And What I Do When They Happen): Sometimes people assume that because I teach parenting strategies for a living, I’m always parenting the way I want to. I actually think that assumption is dangerous, so I wanted to offer just a few of my parenting regrets... some of which you may... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 295: When Strategies You Try Don’t Work for Your Child: Even when you listen to so many tips and parenting strategies available, it can be difficult to find those that actually work with kids with big emotions. And when nothing we try seems to make a difference, it’s easy to feel helpless. But it is... by Your Parenting Long Game

16 min listen

Episode 294: When a Child Is Disrespectful: There is almost nothing more upsetting than when a child acts disrespectful. And of course when our kids talk back, roll their eyes at us, or ignore us…we don’t always respond effectively. How can we learn to understand children’s disrespect so... by Your Parenting Long Game

17 min listen

Episode 293: When You Feel Guilty About Something You're Doing (Or Not Doing): You have an idea in your mind of what you “should” be doing as a parent. But how often do you feel like you’re falling short of your own expectations? So many of us feel guilty on a regular basis, and it can be exhausting. But there is something... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 292: When Your Child Lies: Dealing with children’s lies can be very upsetting. When we know that they’re not telling the truth, we may feel disrespected and helpless and worry about how this behavior will impact our child (and our connection) in the future. How can we stop... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 291: What I Learned as a Child With Big Emotions & What I’m Grateful For: We love our children with big emotions, but sometimes our love isn’t enough to build their confidence, especially when their strong feelings confuse them so much. As a child I had trouble believing in myself, and I’d like to share my... by Your Parenting Long Game

13 min listen

Episode 290: Why Setting One Limit at a Time Increases Your Influence (& Gives You Time Back!): We know that consistency is really important for our children with big emotions. But sometimes it feels like we spend all of our time enforcing limits – at the expense of our relationship! How can we teach our kids to do the things they need to do... by Your Parenting Long Game

14 min listen

Episode 289: When Children Tell You To Go Away But Get Mad When You Do: Raising a child with big emotions can feel like a roller coaster some days. One moment they might be yelling at you to go away… and the next moment they’re angry that you did what they asked. What do we do when our child does something that seems... by Your Parenting Long Game

12 min listen

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Episode 251: Why Our Level of Influence Depends on Our Level of Yuck

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