I'm a tool, call me Mrs. Hammer - Finding Your Why

Blah, blah, blah abandonment - Future Faking: Yet another term has circulated the internet and wound up in our google feed. Scientific studies and peer reviews be damned, tiktok says Future Faking exists and so do at least two articles that we chose to discuss in this episode and that's good enough for us. Remember, as always, we are two idiots who don't know dick about shit. We put some words in google and are discussing the results over sparkling gin in a can. Let's relax and have a good time, while also maybe taking several moments to reflect. RESOURCES - https://thriveworks.com/help-with/narcissism/future-faking/#:~:text=Future%20faking%20is%20a%20slang,of%20a%20grand%20future%20together https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a33491692/future-faking-definition-narcissism-psychologist-explains-ramani-durvasula/# by Ladies & Tangents

70 min listen

Hey, I hope you get hit by a bus - Do you stand by that?: It's almost been five years since we sat down behind a couple of microphones and started sharing our conversations with the world. Two babies have been born, weddings have been had, shows have been done, moves have happened and other recent events have occurred...It is safe to say a lot has changed, but have we? We asked our audience to send us quotes or general beliefs that we've said over the last five years and answered whether or not we back our past selves or think the two little sweeties in those episodes are a couple of naive idiots. Turns out we don't recall most of what we said, but do we stand by it? Oh and remember when we said more shows for Camp Tangents may be added, WELL WE STAND BY THAT! by Ladies & Tangents

61 min listen

The mistake on the lake - Cleveland's 10c Beer Night: You know, we’ve tried for a really long time to go to bat for Ohio. The rest of the world calls it the armpit of the Midwest, but we call it home and it’s where our heart is…unfortunately until recently, we were unaware of just how disappointing Ohio was. In just a quick hour, we’ll explain why Ohio probably won’t ever shake the title they’ve so rightfully earned, the mistake on the lake. Also I’d say take a drink every time we says “that’s the most Cleveland thing,” but after this episode, we won’t be encouraging anyone to drink ever again…or at least for a couple more weeks. by Ladies & Tangents

65 min listen

You're gay? Well, I'm a mess - Pride Stories: LOVE WINS AGAIN. This year for pride, we decided to highlight queerness by sharing your stories like we'd share any other smorgasbord of stories because WHAT?? Being gay is normal and should be treated as such...except for when it's fabulous and in those cases, we should highlight just how superior the LGBTQIA+ is! *ALSO! - we're streaming with @TheJudgiesPodcast this Saturday June 8 to raise funds for Palestine. Please consider coming to hang out with us! https://tiltify.com/@judgies-pod/judgies-for-free-palestine by Ladies & Tangents

62 min listen

You're sick for that, Santa, you're sick - AITAH Sims: If you thought the drama was good with human AITAH's, wait until you hear the ones written about characters in a game with no rules. We're reading Sims AITAH submissions and getting everyone pregante by Kyle Kyleson like the great plumbob overlords intended. by Ladies & Tangents

70 min listen

In my crusty era - Mother's Day Special: You all showed up and flooded the inbox with the most incredible stories for Mother's Day and now Jeri has to sue you all for emotional damages. While she may never recover, you all made Ciara feel again- so we're categorizing this as a win. by Ladies & Tangents

73 min listen

Don't get so hard that you forget how to be soft - Invisible String Theory: We love a tiktok psuedo-science, especially when we have a little story to go along with it. We're both proof of its existence and also part of the problem perpetuating its debatable existence. In this episode, we discuss how we're crocheted together by the universe with invisible strings. Don't believe us? Have you even tried being spiritchal? Grow up. by Ladies & Tangents

68 min listen

Chef boyar-dee me down - Icks: After the success of the Sims episode, we decided that we're just going to start doing what you want more often and what you've been asking for is a place to vent your icks. We're back again describing all of the things that make our faces scrunch up in disgust. Did we accidentally just focus on men doing these things and discover that when women do the majority of these, it's more of a yum than an ick? Maybe. by Ladies & Tangents

69 min listen

Dad, not now! I'm doing gay stuff - Sims Play: We just finished up the last leg of tour and had absolutely zero time to record a traditional episode. We've been teasing Sims content for what feels like a year so we finally used our current situation as a reason to pull the trigger and see if we could make an episode out of playing the Sims. For warning, this was recorded on a cell phone in a hotel. If you like this, we will definitely properly record next time! Thank you for being gentle on us this week while we get ourselves back together!! THANK YOU FOR AN INCREDIBLE TOUR!! by Ladies & Tangents

63 min listen

No one self adjusts me like I self adjust me - Mental Health Check In: We've been needing it and you've been asking for it, it's a long overdue mental health check in. Tour is almost over and the roller coaster of highs and lows is about to come to a screeeeeeching halt - see what I did there, PNW? Grab a cozy drink and get your comfy pants on while we answer some of your questions in this slower paced catch up ep. by Ladies & Tangents

66 min listen

Now her soul is in this thrift store bathroom - Dream Meanings: We know you weirdos like to talk about dreams and so do we. The insane movies our subconscious projects on the back of our eyelids is the closest we get to tripping these days. Did we already cover some of these things 3.5 years ago? Maybe, but you know we forgot so we read some popular nightmares like it was the first time. Don't take any of this seriously, our resource was a mattress website. by Ladies & Tangents

66 min listen

Baby’s first ouija board - Sharing your Scandals: Patreon voted for another smergashberg mashup of stories for us to share with you! You want ho-rror stories? We got'em. You want ghost stories? Got that too. Accidentally starting a cult...didn't know you wanted that, did you? But we did... by Ladies & Tangents

66 min listen

You gluck on this, you'll never gluck again - Angel Numbers by Ladies & Tangents

53 min listen

Alive in their garden - The Mirabal Sisters: March is women’s history month and we wouldn’t dare rob you of the opportunity to learn about a group of bad ass sisters who helped take down one of the most cruel dictators in history. Go ahead and skip your morning coffee, we’re running on feminine rage today. RESOURCES - https://www.csustan.edu/sites/default/files/groups/University%20Honors%20Program/Journals/mendoza.pdf https://sites.uab.edu/humanrights/2022/12/09/how-the-murder-of-the-mirabal-sisters-ignited-an-international-movement-to-end-violence-against-women-and-girls/ https://time.com/5793594/mirabal-sisters-100-women-of-the-year/ https://www.history.com/topics/1960s/rafael-trujillo https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mirabal_sisters https://www.history.com/news/mirabal-sisters-trujillo-dictator My Favorite Murder Podcast titled “High-Pitched Goodbye” by Ladies & Tangents

56 min listen

My mom had gotten up to go to the bathroom and she never came back - Scandals: Because we've been enjoying doing a mashup of listener submissions, we are petitioning changing our beloved Scandals episodes to Smorgasbord episodes. IYKYK... Today on the story buffet, we have ho-stories, matrix glitches and some old fashion scandally scandals. As always, we love you and hope you keep sending in your stories to landtstories@gmail.com for a chance to have yours featured on future eps! by Ladies & Tangents

78 min listen

I'm talking about Abe Lincoln being controlled by a rat - Snapple Facts: We've been on the road quite a lot recently and decided it was time to slow things down and lighten the mood with an episode about Snapple Facts. Before getting into the silly, goofy time, Jeri has some updates for the L&T fam. She has seen the questions and comments and is catching everyone while also making some requests for future comments, questions and concerns. As always, we appreciate you giving us the space and opportunity to be humans, as well as being our friend while we do it. Be gentle with yourself and with us this season, everything is trying to come back to life and it takes time and a lot of work. REFERENCE https://bestlifeonline.com/snapple-facts/ by Ladies & Tangents

69 min listen

Stop oogling my boogles - The Male Gaze: This week Ciara decided to delve deep into the history of a term that has been floating around social media for awhile now. And by delve deep, we mean she found a few articles and decided to use that to strike up a conversation about something she knows nothing about. The male gaze was a term coined in the 1970s but we know it’s actually been around for honestly, probably the beginning of time. Join us in getting mad and also inappropriate for the majority of this episode, and please come into it with an open mind and remember that we do not now and have not ever known anything. RESOURCES https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-male-gaze-5118422 by Ladies & Tangents

70 min listen

Grieve the person you thought they’d become, and then move on - Hey Ladies: We did a Q&A a few weeks ago and heard how upset you were that we skipped the Hey Ladies questions- well we hope you're happy. We've devoted an entire episode to giving you arguably terrible, but very much solicited advice. Once again, we don't know dick about shit and don't advise anyone ever do what we say- unless it turns out well; then you tell people we told you to do it. by Ladies & Tangents

64 min listen

I didn’t want anything, but I certainly didn’t want a fish - Red & Green Flags: This week we dug deep in the L&T files for a highly requested episode and asked you all for your “red flags” and “green flags”. Whether it’s a romantic, familial or work relationship - we’ve all experienced that spidey sense that tells our gut whether we vibe with certain people or not. As always please take these as the opinions they are and nothing more - we have never wanted you to listen to us and we hope you never will. by Ladies & Tangents

68 min listen

What did he do to me last night to make my kitty cough so much? - Valentine's Day Special: Once we broke the tradition of our annual Valentine's Day episode with the guys, we apparently forgot completely that the day existed at all. Ciara prepared a Smörgåsbord of stories for us and Jeri tried to make them hot in honor of the day of love. It was nearly impossible to do considering two of the stories included mehrder.... by Ladies & Tangents

79 min listen

Vulnerable enough to project onto you - The Three A's: Get out your pencils and papers this week because class is officially in session. We're testing Ciara's attention span, Jeri's reading and your patience with us as we take the scenic route to the point. Jeri broke out her teacher hat again to teach us about “the three A’s" and how they might apply to more of us than we think. Grab your tools and your hard hats, because we're building a bridge of understanding that will connect us all while maybe, hopefully, also getting Jeri an honorary PhD from the University of Phoenix Online. RESOURCES PHILO- NOTES https://youtu.be/2iHJbfyUqZg?si=ugHuhiAjHnaGiHp_ Griselda Iniguez https://youtu.be/LuYbi0rF5og?si=z0zvwJVFpzwP5Iux Professor Givon’s Lectures https://youtu.be/YYZEJnrOTrY?si=6cMTdGFyZnBR80hH PHILO- NOTES https://youtu.be/2kw80Uzt2GU?si=0_4gES7Vg-EEy3y8 by Ladies & Tangents

62 min listen

To be fair, the bar is on the floor - Couples Game: If you’ve ever spent a sleepless night wondering what part of a burrito would best represent each of us, or which one of us has a higher pain tolerance, wonder no more! Ciara surprised Jeri this week with The Couples Game- which is totally not weird in any way for two cousin besties to play together. Cousins can play couples games....couple means two, you're the one who is making it weird. Grab some snacks and your beverage of choice and join us for a good old fashioned game night full of healthy competition and borderline delirious fits of laughter. by Ladies & Tangents

62 min listen

I'm not a psychologist, I'm not a psychiatrist, I'm barely a person - Family Systems: This week we took another break from having a silly goofy time to tell you about a psychology theory we stumbled upon thanks to a guy named Murray. Triangulation, multigenerational transmission process, a whole bunch of other words we barely understand, but we have a good feeling you'll relate to these family systems as well as we can. I mean, as well as the people on that one tv show we all collectively watched, not us. It’s definitely not us. Big disclaimer once again that we don’t know dick about shit, we aren’t professionals in any aspect and this is just two friends talking about something interesting they found on the internet! RESOURCES- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/202311/understanding-bowen-family-systems-theory?amp (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-emotional-meter/202311/understanding-bowen-family-systems-theory?amp) https://www.thebowencenter.o by Ladies & Tangents

78 min listen

Boobie! Boobie on the TV! - Turning 20 in 2024: We can't believe 2004 was 20 years ago- especially since we ourselves just had our 12th 20th birthday last year. If you're ready to embark on the nostalgia train, then punch your ticket and step right this way. We'll take you back to a time when music videos ruled the world and a certain painter's code sent the religious world into a tizzy. Speaking of Tizzy...I can't remember but I think there was something to do with a ball and a mid game musical number involving Shmanet Shmackson and a one Mr. TizzyTimberlake? Man, 2004- what a year it was and what a wild ride recalling it has been. https://www.buzzfeed.com/briangalindo/things-that-happened-in-2004 https://www.rochesterfirst.com/news/national-news/songs-that-turn-20-years-old-in-2024/amp/ https://www.infoplease.com/year/2004 by Ladies & Tangents

77 min listen

You’re a menace and I mean that as the highest compliment - Dats Disgusting: You mother fathers are absolutely FOUL and we love you for it! We weren't sure what to expect when Jeri initially asked for disgusting stories, but we knew that if anyone could understand her wishes, it would be the community we've built on the foundation of not being able to hold our own bowels. If you don't like poop, puke, goat diseases, or bloody nipples, this probably isn't the episode for you... we'll c u next tuesday! GAZA/WEST BANK RESOURCES- https://medium.com/@scholarscoalition/for-immediate-release-u-s-4c2aecd11535 https://irusa.org/middle-east/palestine/ https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/ https://www.vox.com/2015/5/14/18093732/israel-palestine-misconceptions https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52045757 WE’RE GOING ON TOUR - ladiesandtangents.com WE'RE ON PATREON - patreon.com/ladiesandtangents MERCH - ladiesandtangents.com/lt-merch *NEW* SUBMI by Ladies & Tangents

86 min listen

Twosies?! What a special treat! - Burnout vs Depression: *TRIGGER WARNING* This ep contains discussions of su*cidal ideations, hospital admittance and a lot of the word that’s referenced typically using the phrase see you next Tuesday. New year, new us! That’s right, instead of waiting until 2024’s reflection episode to call ourselves out on not doing an episode on burnout vs depression, we’re starting off the year discussing what we’ve put off for two. Did we have to first experience some pretty intense physical manifestations of our minds misgivings? Sure, but if there’s one thing being neurodivergent in a neurotypical world has taught us, it’s that it doesn’t matter how we got here as long as we get here. Speaking of how we got here….we’re aware of the adorable character trait that we possess which consists of going absolutely off the rails silly before diving into something that makes us uncomfortable. We want to warn and apologize to you in advance that the running call back/c by Ladies & Tangents

93 min listen

I could punch last year me in the teeth - 2023 REFLECTION: It's time for our longest running podcast tradition...a little commotional drumroll for our annual reflection! It has always been so fun to look back at where we were the year prior and be able to see just how far we've come....until this year, when we looked back and saw just how much one of us has backslid into the pits of depression and self doubt. And because the podcast can only handle one of us being down at a time, Ciara's reflection is here to be our significantly more uplifting and positive life raft! We can't even begin to thank you all for being with us for another whole year. We still feel like we're just getting started and feel so lucky to have so many wonderful people to share it with along the way! We hope you all are able to be kind to yourself as we begin a new year and enter into the next season safely and with an abundance of whatever it is you need. We'll be utilizing an abundantly thick nap asap before t by Ladies & Tangents

89 min listen

I got the mall Santa’s package and it delivered - Ho-liday Special: Are you a satisfied mom on Christmas morning sipping coffee, smugly across the room in your moo moo? Because you gave us exactly what we wanted this year- the most incredible collection of Ho-liday stories two adult women could ask for. If you’re eager to get into the ho-liday spirit you will first have to sit through roughly 30 minutes of our annual self deprecation and incredible re-telling of Ciara’s first experience of a band mom at a Christmas concert. Suprise…there were animals. GAZA/WEST BANK RESOURCES- https://medium.com/@scholarscoalition/for-immediate-release-u-s-4c2aecd11535 https://irusa.org/middle-east/palestine/ https://buildpalestine.com/2021/05/15/trusted-organizations-to-donate-to-palestine/ https://www.vox.com/2015/5/14/18093732/israel-palestine-misconceptions https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/52045757 WE'RE ON PATREON - patreon.com/ladiesandtangents MERCH - ladiesandtangents.com/lt-merch *N by Ladies & Tangents

80 min listen

You-vering, not me-vering - Hoovering: Next on the list of things you thought were unique to you, but they're not and the internet has made up a word to describe it - Hoovering! Never heard of it? Well, it's not peer reviewed or accepted as an official term in psychology, but we're not psychologists or accepted in certain circles either so we consider ourselves the perfect people to discuss it. If you think we're about to talk to you about the loud tool that sometimes helps you get stuff off the floor, you're kind of right. Hoovering is the process by which people in your life can suck you back into unhealthy patterns, regardless of how hard you try to establish and hold boundaries. It's like the old saying goes, you either die a hoover or live long enough to find yourself sucked back in. Apologies in advance for all of the dumping we do in this ep. We're just way too familiar with vacuums. GAZA/WEST BANK RESOURCES- https://medium.com/@scholarscoalition/for-immediate-release-u-s-4c2a by Ladies & Tangents

76 min listen

The bad boys of Christmas past - Krampus: We thought that discussing the half goat half demon holiday horror would stuff the spook in your stocking but instead, Krampus crammed us full of laughter. Our elders have an awful lot to say about the younger generations, but after learning about the stories and fear tactics they created to pass the time and coerce children into being good- we're doubling down on our tiktok dances and memes. I'm not saying we'll never run through the streets in furry costumes, threatening children with bundles of sticks, but we certainly won't be jumping there as quickly as generations past. RESOURCES- https://www.history.com/news/krampus-christmas-legend-origin https://www.britannica.com/topic/Krampus https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Krampus https://www.altpress.com/krampus-facts-myths-krampusnacht-trivia/ GAZA/WEST BANK RESOURCES- https://medium.com/@scholarscoalition/for-immediate-release-u-s-4c2aecd11535 https://irusa.org/middle-east/palestine/ https://bui by Ladies & Tangents

63 min listen

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