In this episode, Beth joins me to talk about transforming our mindset around blame, removing the shame of parenting responses, and wanting a more peaceful home.   Beth is the mom of three kids, and her third child, Sophie, is one of our kids that we call “more” or “extra”.   Beth is relatively new to Peaceful Parenting, and is a member of my Peaceful Parenting membership. She wanted some more help with making sure that she was on the right track with Sophie, and we worked together to find solutions and tools to the challenges she was facing.   We talk about: [4:10] About Beth and her three kids [6:30] Sophie’s background and wanting a more peaceful home for her family [10:15] Why rewards don't work [12:55] What co-regulating is and why it’s important  [19:45] Being an intense person and peaceful parenting [24:20] Meeting your child where they are [35:10] What systems can you have in place for a child who loses things? [37:30] Gardener and Carpenter metaphor [38:45] Wanting to help your kids, but at what cost to the relationship? [41:10] Four-week update [45:25] The challenges around not wanting to help our kids “too much” [47:20] Sensory triggers while getting dressed [49:35] Shifting our mindset around ‘blame’ [52:20] How to be more patient when wanting quicker results   Resources mentioned in this episode: Free ‘How to Stop Yelling’ Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting    Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php