When our children become adults we often have many unfilled expectations.  My clients often compound the situation by using the word "should" regarding what they are or are not doing.The word "should" implies judgement and judgement never feels good in the normal sense that we use the word.  The "should" thought doesn't solve the problem, rather it feeds the story of why things have gone wrong.  I good place to start is catching yourself thinking the word and then changing it to want or would.  "You should call me more often. ...Would you call me more often?....I want them to call me as often as they want to call".  Just try seeing how long you can go without saying or thinking the word 'should"?  Tune in for more insights and examples.If you enjoyed this podcast and want to start finding out how to work with me, go to the following resources:Go to bonnielyman.com to: *Book a 60 minute consult with me;  click HERE*Sign up for my weekly newsletter:  click HERE*Receive my free resource,  Three Steps To Being Yourself In Your Relationships With Adult Children.        NEW RESOURCE!Follow me on IG and FB....@bonnielymancoachingHave you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a call with me to find out how coaching can help you. I offer an 8 week coaching program where I help you practice seeing things from a perspective and thinking new thoughts that result in you living a more peaceful life with your adult children. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.