Circumstances are everything that happens outside of us in our lives; world events, the weather, our past, what someone says or doesn't say to us.  Circumstances are the facts of what's going on around us.  They are the boring descriptions of our life.  Circumstances are neutral.  We were raised thinking it was the circumstances of our lives that caused us to feel a certain way.  It was never taught to us that our feelings are caused by our thoughts about what we are making these circumstances mean.  When it's raining and we feel disappointed, it's not the rain that makes us feel disappointed  but our thoughts (ie. We can't have our wedding reception outside because it's raining) about the rain that causes us to feel disappointed.  Our thoughts cause us to feel a certain way, not what's happening in our lives.  We can't control the happenings in our lives but we can control how we think about the circumstances.  Therefore,  if we can control our thoughts that means we have control over how we want to feel in any situation.Have you received my new resource "3 Steps To Be Yourself Around Your Adult Children?" Click HERE to receive it. You'll be amazed what life offers you when you take back the power to be yourself around everyone.Have you ever considered 1:1 coaching? To get started, book a call with me to find out how coaching can help you. I offer an 8 week coaching program where I help you practice seeing things from a perspective and thinking new thoughts that result in you living a more peaceful life with your adult children. Go to bonnielyman.com (click here) to book a call.